Due in May: the 2nd trimester, more glowing and less throwing

[Yorky]

Before the other thread bursts!
Thanks Miko for the title!

Never managed to eat everything so there's still some left for tomorrow.That was lovely.Buuurp and cheers gaviscon
Couldn't sleep last night,hope tonight will be a bit better as early morning start tomorrow.
Haven't spoken to DP yet whether to find out the gender at next scan or not.Torn between curiosity and lovely element of surprise.Funny when I spoke to MIL last time we both referred to baby as "him".When she realized we were both a bit shocked.
Ha,ha about rubbish telly in October-we haven't got one for quite a while and I don't miss it.When I said that at work one of the older guys said"goodness me,you two must be at it like 2 rabbits"
dreaming ask your DH to hold the cup while you're weeing if he wants to have some input in the serious scientific experience :o

Thanks for the wishes guys. I'm feeling brighter, pretty weak still and my stomach feels really sore. Managed rice and soy for lunch and pancakes for tea, plus a few cups of chamomile tea through the day.

We had a rush to the docs with poor DS yesterday eve as his temp hit 39 and he went very sleepy and almost floppy. Just seems to have been hit pretty bad poor thing, regular calpol and nurofen are keeping the temp down a bit and his spirits up- you can so tell when he's due the next dose! DH is sleeping in the spare room while I'm ill and DS came in with me last night at about 12. I don't know how people co-sleep as despite his tiny size he seems to take up 3/4 of the (king size) bed!

MIL is arriving Saturday to take care of us all so should catch up on sleep then. DH worked from home this afternoon as well, was reassuring to have him near just in case but DS was content to sit in our bed watching endless Peppa Pig on the iPad!

Re maternity jeans, I think we are all condemned to spending the next 5-6 months having to pull our jeans up!! I prefer my maternity denim skirt and wooly tights (not forgetting the extra knickers over the tights so they don't fall down ).

Re maternity clothes I had one pair of Gap maternity jeans, elastic strap kind of under bump I think. I got them in the sale and they were fab, wore them for ages after too .

Wrigglebum - Glad you are feeling better, but sorry for your wee man. Mine has also been ill all week, I have never seen such a snotty nose, it's been so bad all round it is red, dry and cracked and he has gotten generally spotty. Last night he woke up after throwing up mucus (sorry TMI) and came in with us. I know what you mean about the space, it is nice and cuddly at first and then you just can't get comfy.

We're supposed to have a couple of dh's friends coming for lunch tomorrow with their son but I'm not sure it is a good idea. Not only is ds ill but so is dh and I have throat infection. Fun for everyone!

musicalmrs - you sound very busy with your job, but it also sounds fab. I love all those Christmas concerts and stuff, sigh, I wish I was more musical. I like the idea of teaching too, but unfortunately I am not enough of an expert in anything to do so...

Catsy - Commiserations on the coke incident. I did feel rather shaken after the crash, not fun at all.

SESthebrave - Lovely coat, my dh got me a beautiful one from Jigsaw for my birthday. It's not maternity but I think it should adapt okay for the bump.

Right, I'm off to relax for a bit and watch a film. I will be sewing during though, attempting to making octopus toy for a christmas present, not sure it will be worth all the effort!

By the way, all Blooming Marvellous is half price at Mothercare at the mo!

Marvellous Blooming Marvellous

Getting myself in a state, want to feel baby moving and kids waking us enough during the night that I then lie in bed wanting to feel bump move and not feelng anything and starting to worry, and being too tired to think rationally so worrying more than necessary, which then doesn't help me get back to sleep! Vicious circle, makes scan feel a long time away though :(
Wish DC2+3 would stop jumping on me as well

Hi everyone !!
I'm new to the site..
I'm due on the 19th May.. So far so good this end, although the baby must have shifted or something because I've gone from being noticeably pregnant to being a size 8 again within a few days.. My not so charming midwife spoke to me like I was an idiot for asking about it !! Ahhh

Heavens! I've been so busy working I've barely had time to keep up with you all...monster catch up required.

bluecrane am soooooo happy you had a good scan! Hadn't heard from you for a while I was worried on your behalf, I bet it was a bad few weeks leading up to it, have you retained your relief or is mentalling continuing? I was sick up until 15 weeks, but this last week has been a lot better. Some nausea but no actual sickness. I hope you can start to relax a bit more soon.

wrigglebum we're not finding out the gender this time around. I did for DS because I was desperate for any information I could get - but it doesn't really matter to me so much this time and also this pregnancy is very monitored and controlled feeling, so I want some aspect of unpredictability and surprise to remain.

Catsy hope things have settled down for you now bleeding-wise. I've found the over-bump jeans better than the ones just with panels in the pockets - I'm about a similar size to you with a c-section tum too and have tried on a few pairs of jeans recently and will definitely be going with the overbump ones I've found. At the moment I'm mainly in yoga pants under tunics, but I work from home so don't need office-wear.

dreamingofanallotment wow - new house, new baby - lots of change. How exciting! (or at least, it will be once the move is done)

Mythical would it be a type of beta blocker that they'd use to calm the heartbeat down? If so, there must be some that are considered safe because that's a possible treatment for ladies who develop pre-eclampsia symptoms. Hope they can help you deal with it.

Mikocat hoorah for movements! I've felt a few that I've been sure about too! although not much in the last few days.

chocolatesparkle I think there's quite a lot of pressure on pregnant women to behave and feel a certain way, or at least to appear as though they do. I've been surprised at how unemotional I've been - not really negative, although certainly still quite anxious, but mostly just a bit 'blah' about it. I think for me because this pregnancy comes after a lot of disappointment and grief I'm just holding myself very much in reserve and that will continue for a while. You say you've wanted this baby for a long time - I think that sort of expectation and lead up does make it hard to deal with it when you're finally in the state of possibly (very likely) achieving your wish, but still such a long time to go and it's not an easy road. Nausea, discomfort, not a lot of control. None of it is particularly joyful. I think getting regular, recognisable movements will help - am just hanging out for that stage...

Welcome to openerofjars I've always liked your name when I've seen you on MN

SES I've been getting quite a lot of sciatic pain, but I have found that sleeping with a pillow between or under my knees helps and also just keeping moving, seems to work.

Yorky they never move when you want them too...but it will be fine, it'll just surprise you one time and you'll realise what it was and all be well again. Chin up lady.

For anyone who may have been considering a homebirth but isn't sure after yesterdays report was published -
hackneydoula.co.uk/?p=492

Can't claim to be unbiassed as I've had all my 3 at home happily, but....

Hi all,

Thanks for the lovely welcome! Sorry to post and run before but my poor little DS has had the appalling cold his dad had two weeks ago and I have been managing on 4-6 hours' sleep a night. I'd love to be all Pollyanna about it and say "Oh well, at least it'll be good preparation for the baby", but that's 6 months from now and dammit I need sleep so bad I can taste it.

Xmas pudding icecream: try to make Xmas pud, cock it up a bit, whip loads of cream and make loads of custard (Birds, not posh), cool custard, mix, crumble disastrous pud into sloppy cream and custard mix, add brandy, freeze (while stirring every half hour or so). Ta daa!

Yorky, I'm dithering re home birth as DS was okay up to the last bit, but we live ten mins from the maternity hospital, maybe 20 in rush hour. I dunno. The recent study seems , when you look at it, to say that for 2nd timers the risks are the same? I liked the hospital birth bit last time but hated hated hated having to stay in for a second night on a noisy ward just because there wasn't a doc available to discharge us. Plus the shared loos... And I want a birthing pool guaranteed!

Chocolate sparkle, I've been feeling "meh" right up to the scan and it's only now that I'm cheering up a bit. And we spent a year trying for this baby! I can't even admit to DH that I've been wobbling about the whole second child idea since seeing the blue lines in September.

I bought New Look under the bump jeans and I loathe them. I'm treating myself to some nice comfy over the bump ones next time I go shopping on my own. So, Gap are okay? What about H&M?

We told everyone this week, including work and DS. Work were lovely, DS fairly oblivious. He's got a while to get used to it (he is 3)...

I thought I'd felt movements but it's probably just wind or something glamorous like that. It's not like this in films, is it?

Right, off for a proper creepy stalking catch up read.

Evening all - have finally joined MN after major lurking for several months so coming on to this thread at a later stage than most :)

I'm 15+2 today; this is my first pregnancy and I'm 27. Happy to be leaving constant exhaustion and queasiness behind and finally getting hunger pangs back when I need to eat (did anyone else fail to feel hungry at all in their first trimester?). Just waiting for a bump to appear now - my stomach looks fuller to me (and DH) but other people can't tell yet. Off shopping for 'in between' clothes tomorrow as some of my work clothes are getting a bit too tight around the waist.

Had added excitement in my first trimester as I actually found out I was pregnant the day after applying for a new job. I got the job and thought it might be best to tell them after I'd signed the contract, which they seemed to be okay with. Still slightly concerned about it though! I start the new job this coming week.

Looking forward to getting to know everyone :)

1st May - Mikocat #1
2nd May (or 28th April by scan) - Harecare #3
2nd may - DialMforMummy, #2
2nd May - MidwifeWithABump #1
3rd May - Mythical #1
4th May (or 30th April!) - Yorky, #4
4th May - saggybaps #2
4th May - Goodname #2
6th May - Wrigglebum #2
6th May - Oltob #2
6th May (or 1st May by scan) - LadyMaybe #2
8th May - Dreaming #1
8th May - myweeangel #2
10th May - Marmite123 #1
10th May - WaitingForalittlelamb #1
11th May - Cairnterrier, #2
12th May- Chocolatesparkle, #1
13th May - musicalmrs, #1
14th May - Montymum, #1
15th May - heidihole, #1
16th May - cupcakefairy, #2
16th May - Failsafe, #1
17th May - MandaHugNKiss #4
17th May - ballroompink #1
19th May - SirCharles #1
21st May - littlesarah, #3
21st May - luckynumber11, #3
23th May - tostaky, #3
24th May - MixedClassBaby, #2
25th May - LimeFlower #1
26th May - GingerLemonTea #1
27th May - SES #2
28th May - Catsycat #3
28th May - openerofjars
29th May - BlueCrane #1

Yorky - snap with homebirths although only two so far, third to come. I'm not a fan of hospitals so very happy to stay at home. I know what you mean re anxiety. I haven't felt anything, not with any certainty and altho I know it is v early I find myself lying still with hand over tummy hoping to feel something.

Welcome to ballroompink! And good luck for your new job.

I didn't feel like eating much during first trimester due to constant nausea!

thanks littlesarah for the link.... a trip to mothercare is on the cards tomorrow as i defenitely need new clothes!!

Hi all, I am due in May too - the 6th. I have a 2 year old DD so this is pregnancy number 2 for me. x

Welcome tara and ballroompink :) can't agree about not feeling hungry though I ate like a pig in the first trimester ...still am actually!!

Surprised at people not liking New Look jeans I have a pair I'm wearing right now and LOVE, they're so comfy! And only cost about £11. I also have Next ones that are lovely but were about £20. I too prefer the slim elastic panel under bump type.

Have just been reading the 'great birth stories' thread...I can recommend it it's very encouraging!!

pelvic floor!! :)

I have been reading the great birth stories thread too Cupcake. Its so nice to hear good stories, my first birth was not very good so I am trying to be optimistic for this one!

Thanks for all the tips on maternty jeans! Found some nice ones in Matalan, quite by chance. Didn't actually know they did maternity clothes. I bought a size down in the jeans, so they are quite fitted on the hips (well below any bumpage), then have an over bump panel as well. I need to shorten them, so will report back once they are properly tested!

Hello to the new people .

tara, my first birth was horrid, but second time around was much better. I made sure I looked at what had happened the first time, and what I could do to stop those things happening again, and addressed that. There were still things I couldn't control, as there always are, but it was a very positive experience, and laid to rest a lot of the issues I had with DD1's birth. Hope second time is good for you too.

Hope all the poorly people are feeling better now - so many nasty bugs going round atm. Both the DDs have colds, not fun as DD1 has asthma and is starting to get a bit wheezy (nods in sympathy to LittleSarah re. the throwing up of mucus - we get that a lot :( ). DD2 has just started to look gooey round the eye, just in time for nursery tomorrow! Grrrr! To add insult to injury, I did 2 hours ironing last night, and this somehow seems to have pulled a muscle by my right shoulder blade. Now I can't raise my right arm above shoulder height without really unpleasant pain, turning over in bed (let alone getting out of bed - OMG!!!) was making me feel sick last night, and as for driving or pushing the buggy.... ow! Went to the GP, who checked for blood clots, then confirmed it was a muscle. All I can do is take paracetamol (which is doing pretty much nothing). Hope it goes away soon!

On the good side, I had the first use of my NHS maternity exemption to pay for my repeat prescriptions - hurrah! :)

Hello ladies, hope all is well.

I'm a little miserable today as I've developed a sore throat/headache so know I'm getting a cold. After research into what I could take it looks like it's paracetamol only for me. No big surprise there. DH has been making me hot lemon and honey at home, which does help a bit.

I'm pretty much totally in maternity wear now apart from a few tops and pyjamas. My waist measurement is now 37" - the first time it's ever been bigger than DH's!

2 weeks today until the 20-week scan, really looking forward to finding out what 'flavour' baby it is :)

catsy v good to hear your second birth laid to rest some demons from first time...that's what I'm sooo hoping for this time round too. Problem is most of my complications came from ds being back to back (meant he was v overdue, and couldn't be pushed out so needed forceps which all went a bit tits up but won't go into detail!!) so just hoping this one is the right way round or can be turned! I'm spending a lot of time on hands and knees already to help this along and will be getting my gym ball out of the loft soon to roll around on.
Sorry don't mean to frighten first-timers...that thread has tonnes of stories of really good first births too so it doesn't always have to be bad first time! (In fact a RL friend just had a lovely pain relief-free, tear- and stitch-free home birth with her first baby at the weekend...v lovely for her but I am quite !! )

I have my 16 week appointment this afternoon and hoping to hear heartbeat... car is in the garage so have to walk there and typical it is pouring down with rain :( stoopid wales.

Thanks for the tip cupcake I've just been reading the good birth stories thread - it is so true that you only tend to hear the scary nightmarish ones!! Good to read lots of positive stories.

I've just had my 16 week (actually 17 week!) midwife appointment - was really speedy, I was expecting it to take longer. I got to hear the heartbeat though which was lovely. She had to take more blood from me today though as they'd requested a repeat. Apparently the paperwork says there is a 'significant incertain' which the midwife says means that there is something different in my blood but they don't know what. Useful! HIV/HepB etc all came back clear so I know it's nothing like that. I should've expected them wanting to repeat it really as they wanted so many urine samples off me, they obviously just like my bodily fluids...mmm mmmm!!

Hope you didn't get too soggy in the rain cupcake - and fingers crossed you got to hear the heartbeat too!

Sending you lots of get better vibes Mikocat - I found honey and lemon was good for sore throats when I was poorly a few weeks back. Perhaps some fresh ginger in there too as that's meant to be good for cold-fighting.

Hi tara and ballroompink (that sounds like a paint chart name - is it?!)

I've just collected the keys to our new house, wahoooooooo!!! Now have to resist popping round there until DH gets back home! We move in on Saturday so I have a few more days of mad packing to do until then, urghh.....

hello all,

miko you can use vics vaporub too. I did read somewhere though that the headaches are quite common around this stage, something to do with a growth spurt I think. I've noticeably been getting more, but also have bad throuat, nothing to do with flujab am sure...

re. maternity jeans I can report that the Boden ones aren't as bad as I thought, it's amazing how much better they are at staying up when you do up the adjustable tabs . they were pricey, though I had a good offer but I got in black as work trousers as I find maternity 'smart' trousers more like clown pants.

Mee too looking forward to the second scan, two weeks on Friday. Also very pleased this week as had test results back and my Downs risk is now 1:7100. I realise just a number and not a guarantee but feel better all the same. Haven't had a chance to wee on bicarbonate of soda yet, can't have too much excitement in one week.

Just realised we have 35 on our list, that's more than an average of one per day! Looking forward to a daily message every day in May as we all deliver our bundles safely - we hope. :)

dreaming congrats on the new pad, I'm afraid I would have been round there without DH first!! Hope you and family-to-be are very happy in it.

oltob LOL re. clown pants, I was wearing my New Look 'Smart' Maternity trousers yesterday - So much fabric I swear I'd blow away with one gust of wind!

'Adjustable tabs' - are those those buttons inside maternity clothes - I have not for the life of me been able to work out what those were for!

On the subject of maternity clothes I went to our local Mothercare today and there is a load of stuff on sale, I bought half-price under-bump pants, purple tights, denim jeggings (urgh! but they actually look like straight-leg jeans on), a nightdress and a white shirt for £40.