Rats Successfully Smacked, the 'No Brookers' uneventful pregnancy and pain free birth thread :)

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Hello :)

And agree about the terrible 3's too! We never really had terrible 2's but we have had a bit more naughtiness since he gave up his afternoon nap, so think it is just a tiredness thing. Honestly he's a good boy!

When is/was your ds 3 Scarlet?

Next month Biscuits

Hope you have a better day today too.

We've had a bit of rebellion in our house too. DS is suddenly being a little tyke who won't get dressed/undressed etc and won't have his nappy changed. Its getting difficult to toddler wrestle so DH is steppimg in more and being really stern. I guess its just boundary testing but its also exhausting!

Can't believe you all got to 3 without these moments - they've been regular occurances here since dd was 16 months old (now nearly 20 months). Little pickle bum. My mum told me the other day that it would be better by two and a half. I nearly cried!

Another one who is struggling to sleep over here. I am also getting really big!

Dream - hope your work sort out some nice sitting down at a desk type work for you to do soon.

Great news on all the scans people!

I have my 24 week scan next Friday - excited to see dd2 again and hoping she's had a growth spurt this month so she won't be so small!

morning all thank you again for your kind words i have come to the conclusion what will be will be and i should stop panicking and start trying to enjoy the fact im going to be a mummy lol Cramps went last night now have a dull ache guess this is something im am going to have to get used no-one ever tells you about all this worrying bit do they lol :) :) glad everyone is doing ok i got drs appointment tomorrow so fx all is going well,

Keeping everything firmly crossed for you Jazzy. It's so frustrating that there are no clear answers.

Still no movements here other than that 'might have been' the other night. Desparately want to get to Friday now to see if everything is OK

I've booked an NCT refresher course today. Although it doesn't finish until 13 March and I'm due 27th. So I'll be 38 weeks at the last session (it is 4 Tuesday nights). DS was born at 36+6. Family history suggests I'd be lucky if I get to 38 weeks...... Still we'll see. Perhaps I could have the last session or 2 at my house! The last session is a breastfeeding one so perhaps we could have a practical demo...

Oh, and Pomme, I wouldn't say we'd got to 3 with no cross words. It's not like I have to polish his halo before he puts it on in the morning . But generally he's pretty even tempered, we just go through difficult phases every now and again and then normal peaceful service is resumed!

Jazzy I don't know if it's of any consolation, but my cramps over the last 3 days have been so bad I literally can't sit still or get to sleep. It's like the worst period ever, and I've been constantly knicker-checking in case any spotting starts up! However this morning for the first time I've realised I'm "popping"!! The last three days have created a noticeable change in the size and shape of my bump, which is actually starting to look pregnant rather than just fat! The pain is worse than ever today, but I have a little more hope now that it's actually a part of the process and not a sign of a problem. I'm sure it's the same for you!

On a separate note, I don't know about the other first-timers in here, but the already-mummies in here are scaring me senseless at the moment with all the kiddy tantrum stories! I think it's because over the last couple of days there have been lots of screaming/misbehaving/pooing-on-floor stories, and none of the usual super-sweet/funny-comment/cute-behaviour stories you normally share!! I'm sure that once you have a kid there's so much about it that's wonderful that it gets you through the difficult times, but right now I'm having a hard time imagining how I'm ever going to cope with a tantrum-throwing toddler whilst working! Starting to panic that I should have waited a couple more years.... I do hope you all manage to sort out the toddler issues soon, but is there any chance we could have more happy stories to balance the scary ones please?

Dream- so relieved about bh I have been having them too and actually rang labour ward sun night.

My belly button has vanished it's just flat now :(
Everyone has been doing the whole :o your only 21 weeks! And I have grown out of my smaller mat tops only been sick 2 times in 2 weeks however dunno bout it being s pregnancy thing but I seem to have got really bad dermatitis on my hand never had skin problems before?

scream if it makes you feel better when we were on the way home from the fireworks on saturday in the car the conversation went like this
ds: mummy I love you
me: I love you too sweetie
ds: but mummy I REALLY REALLY love you
me:I really really love you too
ds: mummy I really really love cuddles with you. when we get home can we sit on the sofa and have a big snuggle and a cuddle?
me:aw of course we can (goes a bit melty)

So its not all bad you know. Although the rest of the time he generally runs arounds shouting about bums, poos and boobies

scream that does make me feel better i dont feel there is anything wrong and mine is not even as bad a period pain think im just being over dramatic lol

biscuits thank you again

I guess its always like this in the early days its just very hard when you dont know what to expect but im sooooo bloody excited lol

Hmmmmm, I think Apple might have decided it is time I get a new computer as my computer has taken to just crashing and has done so at least 4 times in the past 24 hours. Macs never do this :(

And it took the post I was in the middle of with it too

Anyway, I was saying Scream - fear not - I'm sure all children have their moments of being more, ahem, high maintenance? (don't we all? ). But they totally make up for it when they come and give you a cuddle. And think of it this way, if we post on here about the 'outbursts', it must be a rare enough occurrence to be 'newsworthy'?

I do apologise though for filling up the thread with my potty training woes - it's all I think about!

I did find DS trying to hide behind his potty this morning while watching them play peeka on Waybuloo ( he's over a metre tall, he's never going to get behind the potty! But to be fair he did then decide this wasn't a great hiding place and hid behind the coffee table instead). That was a bit cute And we've had a good half an hour snuggled up on the sofa cuddling this morning - that's what we're in this for!

I'm gonna post quick before Apple decides my posts aren't worth reading even though they might have a point.

Loving the hiding behind the potty during peeka!

DD loves doing 'yogo' when waybuloo is on.

scream - yesterday I put a hair clip in dd's hair (don't want to cut it) and she ran off to the mirror in our bedroom and said very loudly 'WOW' at her reflection.

No idea where she gets her vanity from!

She does now Not Like Nursery now though which is worrying me. We're moving to just one day a week in a fortnight's time which will either make it better or loads worse. I have discovered that the best thing about working for myself is my ingenious staggered mat leave plan (there's the vanity maybe?!)!

Jazzy - I'm another one who with both dd and this pg have experienced lots of period type cramping in the first trimester. I guess it is just expansion. I still get the odd twinge now but it's much rarer and quite often just because I need to poo .

Another one here who find a good poo gets rid of the cramps. And backache too, weirdly

scream the good, the fun and the cute times take up about 95% of the time. The problems and tantrums are miniscule by comparison. Like Biscuits says, that's why it seems newsworthy to us. But, problems and tantrums are all part of it and you will cope absolutely fine by the time your LO is a toddler. You get a nice slow build up to it by which time you'll be an expert.

DS came up to me this morning with his favourite teddy and made Ted give me a great big kiss. DS said "Big kiss for Mummy" and gave me a hug.

jazzy forgot to say i had kind of cramps early on in pg. it was kind of like aching bump rather than periody pains i think. MW said all was fine and its just your body changing shape and getting used to carrying weight in a different way.

DS is has just started putting two words together and said bye bye drink to his cup this morning as we were leaving. me with my hormones found it incredibly cute. he is also very keen on sharing at the moment and DH, DS and I were all sat around the kitchen table doing playdoh last night (oh the high times we have) and DS wanted to make sure we all had some to play with including Maffoo (Matthew) the dog.

Awwwwwwwww you guys! Now those stories are super cute! I love it! Obviously I know that tantrums are part and parcel of the toddler experience(!) but it's just lovely to hear about the sweet side of it as well. Some of those stories have made hormonal me go all gooey at work!

I think anticipation of all the stress and responsibility of having kids, when you've never experienced the joy of having them, can be a little overwhelming at times (usually tired crampy times!). However I am really looking forward to it, I can't even tell you how much. Every person I know with kids, even the ones who were in the die-hard anti-kids camp like me a couple of years ago, are absolutely head over heels for their LOs. I've seen darling angel toddlers, and complete horrors, but the parental adoration is exactly the same and it comforts me immensely!

I do hope the pooey / tantrumy / not-sleeping issues subside soon though. You're all superwomen for coping with the symptoms of pregnancy AND toddlers at the same time!

p.s. I've had two people tell me today that I'm still "not showing"!?! Either they're lying to make me feel better, or they thought I was so fat before that the current bump is just normal for me!! I personally can't believe how round my stomach has got in just a couple of days, it looks totally different to me! I might actually consent to show DH soon (he's been bugging me to have a look at my stomach for ages but I'm so self-conscious about just looking FAT at the moment that I've mostly been hiding from him!)

scream my DD, for all that she has just learnt about The Tantrum (who foot stamping and everything) is normally very sweet. She was sat with me on the plinth in my scan yesterday being totally angelic and making the sonographer (the same one who kicked her out of the last scan) and the ante-natal clinic sister who was there to assess findings both go 'Ahhhhhhhh, isn't she lovely!' (she'd been a little tyke all day but even I melted then!). The moments in between the not-sleeping and tantrums make it all worthwhile. Before I had DD I thought I wouldn't mind the baby and toddler years but was dreading school age- having to be around, not go off for days out/visiting family and friends due to school runs etc, and then swimming lessons, brownies, reading books, homework etc-basically loads of waiting round, ferrying children, watching at the pool, etc etc etc I was kind of dreading that bit... But as you say, once they're here, and your child, and clearly the most perfect ever sometimes it all pales into insignificance and the thought of the school years and that palavar doesn't faze me at all now.

meme, I was sick in the car on way to work this morning, and my tummy button has popped and looks minging- 16+6.... gah. I'm glad yours is settling down a bit- twice in 2 weeks, while worse than not at all is still better!

biscuits, saw manager today, she will refer me to occupational health and risk assessment tomorrow. I got a teaching assistant to work with us in school today, abstained from hopscotch and jumping, and felt better for it

Walking home from the library tonight with DS, about quarter past 5 so it was dark, and he declares (quite loudly) that the 3girls stood across the road (probably 11-12 ish?) 'should be asleep because it's dark'.

I did point out that he wasn't asleep and they were bigger than him, but he wasn't to be convinced....

Well done Dream - glad they're looking after you a bit!

I might have you a t-shirt made to say 'er, no hopscotch, thank you!'

Am I the only 3rd timer on here? I have been through the toddler stage and the school run stage and am currently in the teenage stage and am still willing to start all over again from scatch so the good bits must outweigh the not so good bits! If not then I must be completely mad :)
I am also suffering from funny stomach pains,on the left side which it always has been from the beginning!

I love it biscuits, the logic of a 3 year old :-) . I agree with him, they should go home and not loiter gossiping in the dark!!
Who cares about hopscotch anyway?! I'm sure I won't miss these things, though the sessions with the kids is the best bit of my job by far- anything other than the mountains of paperwork! Which I'm sure I'll be stuck with soon when I become whale like.

Wants - may I ask how old your dc are?

So, reassure me - is the teenage stage ok? I think like we've scared Scream, I'm a bit scared about the teenage stage - that it'll be like the tantrum stage but without the cute cuddles and innocence in between!

wants, I think you might be, unless I can count me brewing numbers 2 and 3 here! (I'm joking, I haven't even made it past the terrible two's) how old are your boys? My colleague has a 14 year old and a 3 year old, so you can't be mad as she seems sane!! Apart from claiming incredible prowess with the hair/ wedding ring 'trick' (which was right for dd but it is 50/50 after all) and has announced the twins are girl/boy and she is totally confident in that We think we will find out sexes, I don't think i could not ask in one of the scans planned for these babies!!!

I hear boys are much better than girls biscuitd for most people if that helps! And i was a difficult baby, colicy, cried all the time til 6 months, didn't sleep through til I went to school but was a model teenager. My sister was an easy baby but a horrible teenager!!!

My colleagues (well, ex-colleagues since I am now a lady of leeeeee-sure) scared me with their teenage tales . One bloke had like a proper tearaway teenage daughter, well in fact 2 daughters and a son and they all rang rings around him and his wife. I mean it properly scared me! And then another lady had a 13/14 year old and a 6 yr old, and even though her teenage boy seemed nice most of the time, she still scared me a bit. Partly because from the sounds of it, I can't necessarily expect DS's 'attention' / listening to get any better