Nov 2011 - almost time to push!

[TerrysNo2]

Last thread was full so thought I would just start this one off - hope you don't mind as I know I've not been a regular but god forbid you guys having nowhere to chat ;)

Right, caz what's happening, I am stalking you all over the shop and need more news :)

I've been checking phone - nothing from Folic from me. Itching to find out though but not going to text!

I'm off for my last growth scan just now so maybe I'll see her leaving the hospital with a bundle

notjust that's disgusting, doesn't sound like you've had a genuine reason for not having a hb. i agree with mrsa.

cali good luck

mrsa she was probably fine when you left. hope she's ok when you pick her up.

Cali - exciting times!! Am crossing fingers that you get sorted before thursday just to make it simple but either way am very pleased to hear you are so close!!

Fab appointment with the hospital. I was .3 out for getting in at the MLU when I was booked in -nobody had explained this to me until today where a lovely mw/sonographer tried AGAIN to get me into the MLU and was unable to. Baby is around 6lb 10-15ozs. Not huge, no issues and definitely still a girl! I had a good long chat to the 2 mw's carrying out the scan and they were lovely. Shocked that things had got so complicated and really supportive of either a hb or hospital. Raised eyebrows at my community mw being prepared to leave it so late too. OH and I have decided to re-examine our hb vs CLU discussion as a result of chatting to those mw's. Feel much more ontop of things!

OH starts new job tomorrow......

Hope everyone is ok.

Loads going on here, as always! Had a bit of an eventful day myself, although not necessarily in the best of ways. Had my usual hospital appt, and they did a growth scan, and told me the baby is still measuring big for dates, but on the other hand, they don't estimate the weight to have increased since the last scan a fortnight ago. They want to leave it one more week, and if there is still no growth, then its straight into the hospital for me. But because baby has turned again, the almost definite elective c-section that was on the cards a fortnight ago is now a 'we'll wait and see what happens next week' so I'm all back to not knowing what is going on. Anyway, the doctor was lovely, so that helped (although once again it was a different one, who I hadn't seen before - so I think now I have seen something like 9 different doctors, and haven't seen 'my' consultant on even one of those appts).

Heading out of the hospital I managed to trip and fall and land full force on my belly. Was in such shock that I gathered myself up, came home to DH (who happened to be off work today, as had DIY type stuff to be doing in the house) who put me in the car and took me straight back to hospital, where thankfully the midwives were very adamant that it was the right thing to do as I needed more anti d (ouch!) but after an hour or so of monitoring they are happy enough that all is well, I have just been sent home with instructions to keep a careful eye on baby's movements.

Anyway, hope everyone else's days were more productive, and less eventful than mine. Can't wait to hear about Folic and have my fingers crossed for Cali too that these contractions actually lead somewhere in the near future.

Well good and bad news today. I am so worried I am litterally crying and all the hca's seem to just be brushing my fears under the carpet..

Baby is not breach but is weighing in at a whooping 8lb6 already. I am 37+4 today so still have potentially 4.5 weeks to go. I am also carrying huge amounts of fluid. I have a consultants appointment tomorrow to discuss things and i am going to beg to be induced early but have been warned that she probably wont want to do that.

I cant believe it DD was 8lb 4 and i really stuggled with her and needed help ds was 8lb 12 and I needed help with him as well and if I go over then this baby has the potential to be 11lb...

Any tips on what to say to get early induction hugely appriciated right now..

Ouch snoozle! Absolutely right to go back and be checked! Glad everything seems fine though.
Anyone else feel like they are going to be pg forever? I swear I don't have even braxton hicks these days! In a grump cos I went to try and lie down and catch up on some of last nights missed sleep, something I rarely do but was just so knackered I felt like I was a zombie, eventually get comfy enough in bed to drop off when the kids end up arguing just as OH wakes up from his snooze on the settee and comes in to wake me up! 5 mins snooze and am feeling even more zombie like and really irritated! Now it's time to make the dinner and sort out the washing and tidying..... I swear superwoman could not beat me in a head to head at the minute the amount of stuff I seem to be doing! Argghhh!!

Ah cross post with my self absorbed rant bumps, sorry. Tell the consultant your fears and sit there and cry and rage if you have to. I don't know what would make them induce you early apart from explaining what you have just said there. Am sorry you are feeling so stressed, I would just keep on saying how concerned you are about the size already and the issues you have had previously.

I dont think I will be able to keep the tears at bay anyway Voodoo so that wont be a problem. DD and DS were both a week early so i might be worried over nothing but thought of going two weeks over and baby being 11lb is making me so stressed!!

I can imagine! Too stressful this pregnancy malarky! When can we try erm more natural methods? Lol

Oh gosh, we're all falling apart. Poor you snoozle.

I've just returned from hospital myself, where I ended up at 6am this morn. I was having awful stomach pains from 5pm yesterday but was convinced it was trapped wind. Anyway, it got worse and worse till I had a band of pain around my whole body and couldn't even lie down. Then I started vomiting and couldn't even keep down water so at 5 I woke DH and told him we were going to hospital.

I have some kind of gastritis brought on by too much acid in my stomach that had got really bad. They gave me anti nausea injections and tablets but I still vommed for another 4 hours before things settled down. I spent the day on a drip so I wasn't dehydrated and they monitored the baby a few times but it seems fine. I have been allowed home and hope that is the end if the sickness.

bump I hope you have a good chat with consultant to sort this out, completely understand your fears.

bumps I was told that they font like toninduce early bases on size as it is more likely to result in a cs, my consultant also told me that babies grow very little post 37 weeks.

Oh crikey what a day everyone's having!! Mash are you feeling any better?

Bumps please try not to get too distressed about the size of the baby, you just need to talk to your consultant tomorrow and see what they say, if they are any sort of decent doctor they will at least try to deal with your concerns. You might be surprised tomorrow but at least hopefully you will be less worried about it all. I have burst into tears at the last two appointments I had, so much so I now have birth anxiety in capital letters written on my notes, just in case anyone doesn't realise!!!

Snoozle, ouch!!! Hope you get better soon, you too Mashpot

Thank you all for your kind words. Got to calm down and try not to panic, what will be will be wont it, I am not going to change hospital proceedure!!

Yep pretty much! Still doesn't make it enjoyable though does it. Am sure everything will be fine and anyways you read some great story's on here where people have delivered larger babies with no problems. Worth keeping in mind perhaps?

Bump Mine was 7.5 lbs at 34 weeks - today at 38+1 she was 8.8 lbs... They're inducing me early for several reasons that are quite similar to yours, but be prepared to have the "I understand that I have to wait until 38 weeks at least"-talk.
And ask to speak to a senior consultant if you, like I, had a junior doctor who didn't listen in to or measure the baby before almost sending me home without discussing my medication or enormous baby first ;) - she just asked me how I felt, took my BP and asked why I had come to see them in the first place (the senior consultant later asked her if she'd read my notes, and she blushed and said 'no', as well as admitting not measuring or listening in - the senior consultant looked less than impressed).
Don't be afraid to pull on every opinion to see what options are available - but also trust that they wouldn't make you go through anything they didn't think you could handle. Just be adamant about seeing everyone first, not just a mw.

Quick post to thank all of you for your kind words and sympathies! It's really cheered my up.

Husband called earlier (very limited time we're suppose to call, still had to leave a message), she called back. Apparently, I would normally be too high risk for it, but since this pregnancy has gone so well, she can call up and tell them I only need intermitted monitoring, but after that it's up to them. Feels like back peddling, but that may be me being paranoid. He asked a few other things - mostly about him being allowed to stay as bad experiences in the past make me very nervous about being in hospital alone. (answer was he can stay throughout if I stay on the labour ward and am discharged in six hours, but not if I have to go to the maternity ward at night which would happen if I can't be discharged at the 6 hours due to health problems or I give birth at a difficult time). Still can't decide, brain feels all floppy after being hit with a curve ball. I really don't want to spend the rest of my pregnancy stressed out about this - either comments from the midwife for not making the 'sensible' choice or having to be alone in hospital and be mistreated again. Oy vey, I feel like I can;t get my head on straight about this.

Wow! there is alot going on.
I hope everything goes well for you all.
I am expecting my 3rd child by C/S on 2nd November. I have an infection at the moment, so I have my fingers crosssed he doesn't come sooner.
I feel for you Bumps. My 2nd DD was 10lb, which was very large for me (however this was 11 years ago) and I also had to ask for induction. I hope you get the reasurance you need and all goes well.

Thank you Cal I will make sure I am heard and will speak to a senior. I am 38 weeks on friday, I would be happy if they said they would induce me on my due date to be honest its the going over due that is a worry..

Oh dear what a pants day had by all! Hope everyone's evenings are looking up! Hopefully folic is to be delivering some happy news soon!!!

twojacks i'm drooling at the thought of lemon drizzle cake!!!

Cali fingers crossed thinks get going properly for you soon!!!

I'm really surprised at the shocking midwife attitudes people seme to be having! I really must be so lucky with the team I have, I am basically allowed to make my mind up when I'm in labour as to where i want to go, they'll bring a pool and tens machine to the house if i want them, or can go to hospital or birthing centre. I know I am supposedly 'low risk' so it isn't as complicated, but i do seem really lucky.

Wanted to share a bit of advise from my birth prep class at the weekend... the lady suggested that every day, or a few times a day, we should ask ourselves, "could I keep going for 24 hours now if labour started?". My answer is a blanket no at the minute, but as soon as this week at work is up, I plan to try my very best to be able to answer yes to that question. So making sure that I have eated plenty, drank plenty, had enough sleep (hmmmm... not so likely i know!) and generally feel ready for what may be a long haul!

Hope everyone is having a happy evening! xx

Staceroo, I've asked myself that a few times of late and never been able to answer anythign other than "er, seems a bit implausible, but I guess the body survives stuff". I too need to finish work and get better at maintaining myself.
Crappy day all round? My anxiety has been quite problematic today too. Onset of sick bug season is becoming evident and I know it sounds pathetic and everything, but I just live in constant fear of sickness. Its the most ludicrous, dominating phobia. I hate it. And whats horrid is I am scared of my child all the time. He could without warning become the most frightening being on the planet to me, just by throwing up. Its crap.
Speaking of which, Mashpot, nightmare.
Lets hope there was a general disturbance in the force today and tomorrow all will be improving? Tomorrow, my baby turns two!

Yikes all, just to add to our great day I'm currently hooked up to a monitor as saw my community mw today and wasn't happy with a) my fetal movement and b) the fact that despite 3 lots of antibiotics in 7 weeks I still have a uti. I have however seen a very good dr who has been very thorough. Verdict is I need stronger antibiotics and also that the ones I've been on have also caused a yeast infection. So 5 more days of ab's plus canesten. I'm just not very good at this pregnancy malarkey.
I'm on my phone so can't shout out everyone but to all those who've had a bad day we can only have a better one tomorrow.

i'm sorry that so many of you are having hurdles put up in front of you so late in the game. I really hope you'll be able to sort the problems out.

notjust what is it you and dh want to do??

bumps i can understand you being concerned, but agree with twojacks, see what the consultant says tomorrow, (being prepared to cry if necessary.) but they need to know your concerns and why you have them.

voodoo goodluck for dh tomorrow.

mom good luck for the 2nd, hope the infection doesn't start things early.

gosh there is so much anxiety and stress on the thread right now! Really feeling for everyone as this should be chill time...but of course it isn't...

fingers crossed for cali, notjust and bumps - hope all works out well
mashpot - hope you are feeling better - sounds rough. I feel like nothing goes down at the moment...and I need daily help with constipation, eating loads of prunes, drinking tons of water and taking magnesium tablets (midwife recommended here in dk and were great after the birth too, when you just don't want to push anything, if you know what I mean). I hate having to take any drug or supplement everyday but this time round, my digestion is buggered.

I am still adjusting to being on maternity leave. There are loads of little things to do but the end (of the list) is actually in sight. And the best thing is not being so stressed out about dropping my DD off to kindergarten and picking her up after work- we have relaxed mornings and without me constantly harping on to hurry up, she is so funny, loving and cheerful. Its the first time that I have actually felt sad to be a f/t working mum...

juststarting - your phobia sounds really distressing...i was wondering if hypnotherapy would help?
I'm actually pretty skeptical about stuff like that but I had it 10 years ago for confidence issues and was quietly amazed at how powerful it is. It also helped my dad with quitting smoking and drinking. And I have been wondering if my (very cynical) brother should try it, as he has been out of work for a year which has eroded his confidence. Could be worth a try if you haven't already.
I am a bit embarrassed to admit it because it seems uncommon (esp. on a thread like this) , but I have a real, paralyzing phobia about giving birth. And having had a baby (in a terrifyingly fast, painful but luckily uneventful way) has not helped. In fact, I am more scared now. I have been in a process talking to my own doctor, a psychologist, my midwife and two obstetricians about it but am still pretty wound up...

Anyway, slight change of topic after that admission - I made broccoli and stilton soup today, and yesterday baked brownies...After months of eating boiled eggs and rye bread for tea, this is a turn-around for me!

Tjuice - boiled eggs would contipate me in those quantities! Yes, I've been through four therapists - two CBT, one psychodynamically orientated and one hypnotherapist in the last three years. But I am wondering about giving hypnotherapy another shot. I've read up on the evidence and peoples experiences of it and frankly frankly it doesnt look favourable, but I would give almost anything to be rid of it, and I dont think I gave the hypnotherapy a proper try, cause I didnt find it helping. But a second try may be in order. If any of my celleagues found out I'd be ostracised forever!
Sorry about your own phobia about birth - like me and the sick thing, embarking on a second pregnancy must have been a very brave step for you. I too found that actually getting a sick virus (my first mothers day as a mother. Lovely) made me ten tims worse when I had always assumed it would make me better. I can empathise with the level of fear. I've been looking at compassion focused and mindfullness type therapeutic approaches for myself and its made a slight positive difference to be able to accept the anxiety instead of fighting it at times. But half the fear is abotu the fear itself for me, I'm sure.
Anyway. Birthday card making time.