March 2012 - buxom and blooming in the second trimester (we wish!)

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Here you go ladies, somewhere for all soon-to-be March mums to share the ups and downs

I've just spent half an hour sitting in my car in the Morrisons car park crying like an idiot

Got a shitty letter from work today, then went to MW. My BP is up a bit and I've been having headaches. I also have + protein in my urine. It could he that they aren't related, but the MW seemed worried due to my history of PET. I didnt think it could start this early, but now she has me worried sick, especially because there's nothing that can be done at this stage. My DH is in a management meeting all day and can't be contacted, so I cried like a fool in the car instead.

NotFromConcentrate - I'm so sorry about your truly shitty day. Poor you, sitting in the car for a cry. Its just not the same without somebody to cry on. I hope DH is back soon to give you a hug.

Fingers crossed that the blood pressure etc is a minor blip rather than something more serious. I wouldn't be surprised if all the stress with your job has caused this high blood pressure. I too had awful headaches and protein in the urine with my first pregnancy, along with massively swollen feet but it wasn't anything serious, just co-incidence.

I'm sure everyone on the thread is sending their love. Go into Morrisons and buy yourself a treat. Nobody deserves to feel so crappy.

x

Thanks Santa I really appreciated some kind words :)

I need to get a grip of myself and stop being negative. I just feel (melodrama alert!) like the world is falling down round my ears today.

NFC you poor thing, sending you a big unMN virtual hug ((hug)). Worrying BP/protein in urine is the last thing you need after the day you've had...Hope you get some tea and cake (and a proper hug from your DH) soon xxx

Aw sorry you are having a rough time NFC. Try not to worry too much, I had headaches and slightly raised protein (+) during last pregnancy over several appointments. The protein was from a UTI, the headaches just part of pregnancy, have had them this time around as well. Slightly raised BP could be the stress from work too.

Sounds like cake, chocolate, and crap tv plus hugs from DH when he does get home are in order. xxx

Oh NFC. Really sorry to hear your crappy news and hope you did make it into Morrisons for one of their delicious raspberry doughnuts a cake. Make sure you take a note of everything that's happened/said in meetings, so you can fight them if need be, am sure legal advice are telling you this already, but I learned a lot from Maternity Action website and ACAS in the past 24hrs! And remember, nothing is as important as your baby, so try to let it wash over you - you have bigger fish to fry, buns to cook etc . It might be worth considering getting the Dr to sign you off work for a bit, so you can see if its stress or something else. I really hope you get the best outcome for you and your family.

As for me, work are trying to put me into a new role, not as challenging, stimulating or interesting as the one I had, plus not where I want to go long term, but I've decided to go with the flow on the grounds that it's the same pay and I've only got 8 weeks to stick it out until I can start my Xmas holidays, then Maternity Leave on full pay. I won't have to pay anything back if I decide to leave the company at the end of my mat leave either. So. I've just got to stick it out for a little while longer & try not to get stressed...

I didn't realise that pregnant women got so utterly pooped upon by a great height by their employers. It makes me so angry if I dwell on it too long.

Anyway. MW appt tomorrow at 15+5 so hoping it's not to early for a heartbeat!! Hoping she'll use my LMP dates instead of dating scan dates to put on my Mat B1 form, so I can get outta there sooner!

Thanks all. Sorry to be the prophet of doom on the thread

Knitterati that is (relatively) good news about work. At least you're not left wondering what they're up to, and your mat leave is secure. Re: the heartbeat, my MW didn't even try to find it today. It was my 16 week appt, even though I'm 17+, and they don't listen at 16 weeks anymore because it's not uncommon not to find it at that stage even if baby is healthy. I was so disappointed!

I've cried like an idiot all bloody evening. I was so relaxed (relatively speaking) about themes at work and now it's all suddenly hit me at once. DH is on the warpath (at them, not me) because of the state I'm in!

Oh NFC what absolute crap!!! Glad DH is on the warpath always helps to have back up!!! Hope it gets sorted soon.

I'm experiencing a very fluttery tummy tonight which has got me a bit excited but not sure if its stress as I have an assignment to complete tonight to ensur eI don't fail my course ARGH!!!!!! Long night and lots of coffee required!! (Decaf of course coughs)

Must. Concetrate....

NFC - it's ok, you're not a prophet of doom!
I know my DH got very upset about it at first and I've only just convinced him that kicking up a fuss is not worth the stress on me and the baby, and, that it's my career and I'll deal with it myself. It's nice he was so concerned but also quite stressy for me - how are you finding it? Hope you feel brighter about it all in the morning. X

NFC. My workplace was so stressful i handed in my notice the day i found out i was expecting DD4. I have never looked back although 2 years on i still regularly wake from workplace based nightmares-i was poorly treated by my team and my boss as i was a mother-literally, criticised for taking time off work with sick children which i never did btw, i knew how they were and took my ill children to relatives-whereas one colleague took the day off for a sick CAT and that was deemed acceptable because the cat ws family grrrr
Keep a note of your medical condition too, it can only help if you go to tribunal.
Has anyone started thinking of names yet? I am thinking about starting to look but havent got further than that yet
17 and a bit

Morning all :)

Thank you again for all the words of support :) I am feeling rather more pragmatic and less weepy today (although still worried about Teeny in there). I've packed DH off to the surgery with my little pot of wee, so we'll see what answers come back from that next week.

Today I am working on the proposal I am required to submit, outlining ways in which we can turn around the fortunes of the business. Except that as a territory manager I clearly require the input of those more senior in the company; when I asked at our most recent meeting what suggestions had come out of the various Board meetngs I was told "none", so that says it all really. Coupled with the fact that the letter I received yesterday outlines the downturn in the marketplace and the changing practices in our speciality for the future, it's clear (to me, anyway!) that there is no genuine intention to implement any of my suggestions. Added to that the fact that they want the turnaround to be well underway by January, and the fact that any "easy solutions" I offer would reflect badly on my performance to date (ie if it's that easy, why haven't I done it before now?), and I'm well and truly caught between a rock and a hard place. What I grudge most is their refusal to give me any kind of timescale; I could be handed 4 weeks' notice tomorrow or hear nothing further before Christmas. I suspect the former is most likely. I don't expect special treatment on account of being pregnant, but if they saw fit to bring it into the converstion in relation to cost of my ML, then I'd at least have expected them to continue to bear it in mind when they consider how to (badly) handle the situation. I've been made redundant once before, and it was clear that that particular company were very aware that they were dicing with people's livelihoods and acted promptly and transparently.

Anyway, baby is practising his Martial Arts this morning, so that's been nice at least. DH is still on the warpath, so I'm trying to play down how stressed I am because I foresee him kidnapping my Blackberry and ringing someone to Have A Word!

Have a lovely day, all of you!

17+2 (where is the time going?!)

stuffthenonsense we have an enormous long list of girls' names, but nothing at all for a boy!

Just a quick post to say that I had my MW appt this morning absolutely amazed! Heard the baby's heartbeat pounding and kicking away in there. Met my regular MW who is absolutely lovely (was a different one for the booking in appt) and she told me that I have record iron levels - 15.1 - apparently she's not seen one that high for a while!! Just hope I can keep it up!

Re names, we have a very short list, boys: Austin and Emmett. Girls: Amelia-may, need to think of some more we like though! It's really hard!

Really lovely names, Knit.

I love Jude for a boy, but DH hates it. I also love Ruaridh, but it doesn't go with our surname (think "Ribbons" but not quite). Totally and completely stuck, but middle name will be Lawrence (all of our DCs have middle names that mean something to the family, IYSWIM).

For a girl, I loved Ava, Orla and Esme. For some reason now I have Alexa stuck in my head, which I really love even. Girl's middle names would be Hannah Catherine (we only have boys so far, andthis is definitely our last, so lots of names to squeeze in )

Anyone else got really tingly nipples all the time?!

We have girls and boys names (Polly, Alice, Penelope, Robert, Julian) but my daughter has her own list and is very strident about using it. Lets hope she forgets about her choices soon (they are all based on Barbie DVDs).

18+3

Morning all and Happy Friday!!
I've come into the office to find that everybody here is sick and it's pissing me off. I don't want their germs!!!!

I have very long lists of names that I quite like but have yet to narrow it down....... DH has yet to start on his lists My thinking is we each draw up lists and then hopefully some names will pop up on both. If not then it's time to start the arguments discussions!!!!

Morning ladies

I had my 16 week check yesterday and it was lovely - at a children's centre 5 mins walk from home, so nice and easy to get to, and she managed to find the heartbeat (though it took her a while to find the heartbeat, she was muttering about sending me to the maternity day unit at the hospital for a scan when she finally found it - thank god!). DS (18 months) was fine throughout - my midwife appointments going forward will be on thursdays, which is good in that I'm off work that day but a pain in that DS will have to accompany me to every appointment.

Also got my flu jab.

Loving all the name talk - NFC love your girls names (though Orla has already been used by my sister). Knitterati also love Emmett. SantaLucia loving your DD's inspiration - imagine starting a spoof naming thread with her Barbie-inspired choices, bet the MN naming jury would go bonkers!

Am v glad it's Friday. Roll on the weekend!

Oh please can you start the spoof thread with Barbie inspired names..... I would love to see that on here!!!!

Morning all, Have added myself to the stats list at last.
Its interesting to hear that lots of you are hearing the babys heartbeats at your 16wk appointments, I dont have a 16 wk appointment with it not being my 1st baby, and where I live, they dont listen for the heartbeat until 24 weeks, how crappy is that. I have a doppler though and have been listening to it myself from 10 weeks!
I have my 20 week scan on monday, woo hoo, looking foreward to it obviously, and hoping to find out what were having, I actually think its another boy, but we'll see.

Hello ladies
I have been lurking for a while so I thought I would do an update. I had 16 week check last week (was 16+4) and the midwife found the heartbeat within seconds. It was very loud and strong which was so reassuring. I took dd (4) with me as dh can't get time off work for appts. She was very excited to hear the baby and it has made her a bit happier about having a sibling foisted on her! I went to hosp. on Wednesday for appt. with consultant to talk about my thoughts/choices on labour following previous emcs. She gave me the official info and asked if I had been watching the dvd on vbac as mentioned in the appt. letter which was playing in the waiting room. I managed to not blush and nodded yes although I hadn't registered that was what it was, so had been sitting with my back to it watching dd in the play area
Consultant asked if I had made any decision on the matter, and I replied that due to complications following the emcs I would like an elcs this time. She offered no resistance at all and said she was happy to go along with my decision. I was expecting a battle to be honest. She then arranged dates for 2 extra scans (as dd was very small when born although overdue so they want to check for growth as I will be 39w at delivery) and the elcs. It was all done and dusted in about 15 minutes, and it all seems rather unreal that I now have a delivery date (2/3/12). They pointed out that obviously anything can happen between now and then, but at least they have booked me in. In the meantime baby has been kicking/elbowing like a trooper and I am 18w today. Gaining more confidence now as a result

Norfolk glad you had such a good 16 week appointment and glad your birth is all sorted out! Much better than having a battle, you must be relieved. Now you can start to enjoy your pregnancy more Your delivery date is my EDD from DS btw (though I went 2 weeks over so he was born on 16 March!).

Five good luck with the scan on Mon and don't forget to tell us what you're having! How many DS/DDs do you have already?

Right, off to watch the last episode of Downton Abbey series one - finally catching up with it and loving it! Can't wait to catch up on the current series too...

Hey ladies!

Names, names names!! Our boys name has been sorted for about 4 (?) years, altho the middle name has been changed to incorporate family names but no girls names! I made several suggestions to DP and he went oh I like that and then told his mum (who likes it! She hates boys name but knows I don't care!) so it kinda looks like that is it!! Suits me!! Sure we will discuss a bit nearer the time but as for now we seem pretty sorted!!

Can't believe I'm 18 weeks still no movement that I'm aware of - no repeat of the other night so think that was me not lump!

Is it ok to be sleeping on my front still? I am 19 weeks. But I keep walking up like that!

Reallea normally, I am a front sleeper, but just can't sleep like that now cus everything is so inflated on my front! At my MW appt I asked about sleeping positions and she said to just to sleep however is comfy - your body will tell you if it's not a good position for you. She said as I get closer to birth, I should try and sleep on my side, but that was it. Think that was sensible advice from the MW.

I'm a side sleeper and always sleep with a pillow between my knees so have not had to change much on that front.

Also can't believe I'm 18 weeks today. It's going quite fast now. DH is on a photography course today so i have Had a lie in, archived my non maternity wear and generally sorted my wardrobes. Quite sad but hopefully I'll be back in them in the Spring!!!

About to settle down to some junk tv as it's been a shit week at work (very long story but the short version is that it seems nobody will confirm my role since coming back off sick leave to find they'd hired someone in my role in a 6 month contract.) Had a very stressful meeting with our awful HR Director yesterday and I'm so fed up of being treated so appallingly. DH is writing a letterl for me to send on Monday to get my complaints across so hopefully that will help. Not what I need right now though. This board is pretty unlucky on the work front!

Hope everybody is enjoying a lovely weekend!!!