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March 2012 - buxom and blooming in the second trimester (we wish!)

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FlipFantasia · 27/09/2011 10:04

Here you go ladies, somewhere for all soon-to-be March mums to share the ups and downs Smile

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knitterati · 12/10/2011 16:08

Chulita and NFC

So my pushchair requirements:

  • Something I can push round our village (with bumpy pavements)
  • Something that can face me and the outside world
  • Something I can put in the back of the car easily by myself plus a couple of bags of shopping. We have an Audi A3, so a decent size boot, but don't want to use it all up with pushchair.
  • Something that will fit a carrycot, car seat and buggy seat (when baby is older)
  • Public transport not really an issue here
  • Storage space is ok, but obviously if it folds down then great.
  • No other DCs, not really fussed about having space for another LO in the pushchair - hoping to space them out a bit!

There's just too much choice!! Looked at the iCandy last night, which seemed sensible... but then you go onto the internet and there's 1million x more choice and I just get puzzled again!

Chulita · 12/10/2011 16:15

I know several people with the iCandy (6 to be precise) and they all absolutely love it. If I could rewind time I might well have got that as our first. It's adaptable, gets great reviews and not as massive as a lot of buggies you find.

I've only ever gone for forward facing buggies cos both of mine were carried til they were about 5 or 6 months. DD hated the buggy til she was about 2 so I suppose I ought to be glad I didn't spend a fortune on one.

ShaggingProducesResults · 12/10/2011 16:21

Hi Knitterati

We were torn between the iCandy Peach and the Bugaboo Cameleon. In the end we have decided to go for the Bugaboo for the following reasons:

  • It's lighter
  • The handle flips over so you can have big wheels or small wheels at the front and you can have DC facing you ro the outside world with the flip of a button.
  • I have fallen in love with one of the Limited Edition colour packs!!

We ahve a golf and a fiat 500 and it will easily fit in the boot fo the golf and apparently also fits into the boot for the fiat 500 (with big wheels popped off)

We are also city dwellers and have to deal with hills, cobbles etc as well as rural terrain when visiting my parents and going on country walks. For me this was the best by a long way for all the things we need. It is expensive but we have spoken to lots of people who have them and they say that it's the best buy they made. In addition, a friend is a Norland Nanny and it is their buggy of choice.

Not sure if any of that helps - there are so many options that it's easy to get confused!!!

KittyRogue · 12/10/2011 18:13

Hey Knitterati,

I have a Bugaboo too, we brought it off a friend and have been playing with it since then and it's amazing!! Like Shagging said it's light and you can flip the handle at a touch of a button!

It's starting it's life as a pram but upgrades to pushchair and you can also attach most car seats (might have to get the attachment thing) which is awesome too. They are expensive new but go for good prices second hand. Ours is at least third hand and about 5 years old and it looks practically new, minus a bit of fading on the hood.

Hope that helps :)

17+4

MrsMcJnr · 12/10/2011 19:17

Santa ? hope this week makes everything better for you.
ILovemydragon ? I felt unpregnant for weeks and self-concious really as all the people I know here who are pregnant seemed to show much faster than I have but there is no denying the bump now and tonight I have had to concede to maternity trousers as the others were all getting a bit tight.
Drs appointment tomorrow. They have changed the structure of AN visits here, we only see the MW at the first visit after that it is the Dr once a month, very odd. Means I can renew my prescriptions though.
Chulita ? Poor you, I was like that with DD, sick all the time. Wow, you´ve got a lot on your plate!! We have 15m between our DS and DD and planned to do the same again but DD was (is) a nightmare sleeper and I couldn´t stop her being BF until she was 23m then we sadly lost a baby and so the age gap between DD and new baby will be 33m.
Knitterati ? I currently have 3 buggies! I use them all still. We have a bugaboo cameleon which I totally adore, it´s fabulous and the buggy board works really well with it too. We have an Emmaljunga twin which is great but I have to admit that I would have gone for a Bugaboo Donkey instead if they had existed 2 ½ years ago and we have a Maclaren. All good for what they are needed for. My advice to you is decide what you need the buggy for the most and choose on that basis for example, I walk everywhere and the bugaboo is a great walking buggy but a bit of pain to keep folding in and out of cars because it breaks down into two bits. I would second everything Shagging says plus I would add that the customer service at Bugaboo is fabulous and it is a really sturdy buggy, have had mine for 3yrs9m and it has plenty of life left in it. Also worth noting that a child of up to 17kgs can sit in it whilst most only go up to 15kgs. The accessories are easy to get and affordable on eBay and give the buggy a new lease of life.
Hello everyone else i haven´t mentioned. Anyone have any name thoughts yet??

knitterati · 12/10/2011 19:27

All this practical experience of pushchairs is so great.

The bugaboo was one of 3 we really looked at last night. No idea if it was a chameleon, but glad I've started looking early, so I can agonise think it over & make sure I'm making the right decision!

Off to the body balance class for the first time in 10weeks. Think I'm gonna have to take it easy! Smile

Chulita · 12/10/2011 19:46

mrsMcJnr 15 months Shock we'll have 20 months between this one and DS which is the same as between DS and DD. I'm thinking it's a girl cos I was sick as a dog with DD for 24 weeks whereas I was 'only' sick til 16 weeks with DS...
We love Heidi for a girl and we're undecided for a boy, we did like Benaiah but with 4 Benjamins in the family/close friend group there might be one too many baby Bens.

Not that it's relevant cos they're all forward facing but we started with an Urban Detour travel system, then bought the Baby Jogger City Mini so I could get on buses, and once DS popped up we got the Out 'n' About Nipper double. I love the Nipper, love love love it but we come and go through the garage so space isn't an issue and we keep the City Mini in the car. I took the Nipper running pre-pg and it was brilliant for that.

NotanOtter · 12/10/2011 23:01

as a mum of 6 i recommend bugaboo - everytime - fabulous prams

stressing here about cervix....wishing i hadn't googled

CheeseandGherkins · 12/10/2011 23:47

Thanks for the welcome, still doesn't feel quite right but I need to try and normalise this pregnancy as much as possible!

We bought a pram before having Scarlett but it never got used, it's currently sitting in my parents garage waiting for this baby so we'll be using that, it's a Britax b smart one if I'm remembering rightly. I like using slings too, have an Ergo one which is really lovely to use, just need to get a newborn insert for it. I love having baby cuddled up to me.

NotanOtter what about cervix? Hope your ok.

Santa I hope things go well for you, will keep my fingers crossed.

WDD I hope you're well looked after this time, I know what you mean about lurking, I've been doing so myself but I need to make all this more real so I thought that joining in and participating might help and it's lovely to share with other women at the same stage too. Excitement is something I don't feel a lot of, I want to be but I feel it's tempting fate sometimes. I want this baby so much but find it really hard to believe that we could bring a baby home this time.

Chulita · 13/10/2011 08:03

notanotter what about cervix? 6 is brilliant going!

I'd love a pram if I'm honest but we won't get one now I don't think.

stuffthenonsense · 13/10/2011 10:23

Chulita i am still throwing up too!

We have an emmaljunga for DD4 and i love it for all the walking i do, have just bought the same pram in double for this baby to share. Expecting it to arrive today actually (very excited)
I had a 15m gap between DD2 and DD3....it was lovely and in fact DD2 witnessed her little sisters birth....her response was a kiss for baby, so sweet.
Oh on the pushchair front, if your pavements are bumpy either avoid swivel wheels or get lockable wheels....and the bigger the wheel the comfier the ride generally speaking.

LilPud · 13/10/2011 13:30

Hi all

Another lurker creeping out of the shadows here....

I'm not as far as buying (or even thinking of buying) a buggy yet. Feels like temting fate to get anything just yet. But I am thinking about nappies - does anyone use/ have used or thinking about using real nappies?

LilPud · 13/10/2011 13:31

Oh and 17 +1

ShaggingProducesResults · 13/10/2011 13:58

Yet another - welcome, welcome!!

On the nappy front, I will be going for disposables as I don't think I can cope with the washing etc of reuseable ones. I really admire those that can but it's definitely not for me!

Has anybody started thinking about where they are going to give birth yet??

CheeseandGherkins · 13/10/2011 14:09

Nappies, I always use disposable, can't be doing with the faff of washing nappies as well as loads of washing a day.

I had planned a homebirth for my last baby but that didn't work. I don't really have a choice this time, it will be hospital and heavily monitored/section.

Chulita · 13/10/2011 15:11

I use Bumgenius nappies, one lot has done both of mine and easily looks to do this next one too. I thought it would be lots of faff but it's actually simple and very, very cost effective. I use reusable wipes too and they remove even the worst, stickiest poo.

I've got my elcs date, got that on Monday. After 2 emcs DH put his foot down and said that unless I was desperate to try for a vb he'd really rather not see me go through labour all over again just to end up with an emcs so elcs it is unfortunately.

LilPud · 13/10/2011 16:25

Thanks for the welcome shagging.

That was my thoughts chulita, I'm worried about the cost of everything and thought real was one way to save. I love the name 'bumgenius':)

I want a home birth as I live 20 miles from the nearest hospital and think DH will crash if he has to drive a screaming me anywhere.

Chulita · 13/10/2011 16:40

The outlay is a bit shocking when you finally decide on what you want and how many you want. I decided birth to potty was the way forward, these fit both of my 8 something pounders from 8 weeks-ish til DD potty trained at 2.5 but she'd still fit at nearly 3. I got 15 with DD and then an extra 4 with DS, when they were both in them I washed every other day but now with just DS I wash every 3-4 days or when the smell gets too much Grin

Anyway...really wish you the best of luck with your hb, DD was an attempted home waterbirth...hey ho, you do what you can! I'd still love one tbh.

NotFromConcentrate · 13/10/2011 17:01

Hello everyone :)

Welcome LilPud - it's lovely to see our numbers growing.

I had another consultation meeting this afternoon. Nothing exciting, just discussed the business proposal I submitted yesterday. I was congratulated on an excellent piece of work, and on having maintained a very professional attitude throught the process. Shame that doesn't pay the mortgage!

I have a WWYD for you ladeis - I'm still waiting on my latest urine test results, and a clearer picture on whether I have early stages of pre-eclampsia or not. Last time my PET was diagnosed, I was 38+6 so was induced immediately. What scares me is that I had minimal symptoms but my bloods were shocking, I had reduced kidney and liver function and baby had stopped growing. So I'm a bit scared what the consequences might be if it starts so early this time. Anyway (I'm getting to the point, honest!) I am trying to decide whether or not to keep going to the gym. I have constant headaches, but I'm trying to minimise my weight gain because I know that there's a link between that and PET. Also, I thought I might feel bettter for having had the exercise, but I don't want to make things worse. WWYD? (indulge me, I know I'm being a bit precious)

As for prams, I have my First Wheels City Elite. Similar style to the Bugaboo, but less expensiv and therefore less lovely. I toyed with replacing it, but I figure with the current work situation I should spend the £1000 on something more sensible. We'll see... Wink

Santa, hope you're bearing up OK. Thinking of you.

knitterati · 13/10/2011 19:23

Ooo! I'm getting lots of good nappy tips here too! Think my SIL wants to use bambino something or other so will be interested to see how she gets on.

NFC: glad you're meeting was positive. Fingers X'd for you.
Re the gym... I'd go. Not to do anything strenuous, but just some gentle walking/swimming/yoga to make you feel better more than anything. Exercise = endorphins = happy you & happy baby in my book. I went to a class last night which was good just to get out & stretch after weeks of feeling terrible. I'm aching a bit today though!!

knitterati · 13/10/2011 19:25

Forgot to say, hoping for a homebirth. Best laid plans of mice & men though...

stuffthenonsense · 13/10/2011 19:31

I use totsbots nappies. Easifit from birth to potty. They are so simple and i wash every 2-3 days.. i also use washable wipes and wshable liners.. sometimes for a poopy but dry nappy i can just change the liner and reuse the nappy. I just dont like the chemical smell from disposables and apart from right now when both me and DD4 have thrush there has been no nappy rash.

I am also planning a homebirth, have had 2 before...amazing......but last baby was not wanting to be born so at 40+18 i caved in to induction....this time i will hold on until monitoring shows a problem but it is such a hard hard thing...i felt that it was my decision to be induced that caused her birth trauma resulting in 10 days of scbu, on the flipside, who knows what might have happened if id waited..damned if you do, damned if you dont.....but homebirth if you can is just wonderful.

I have no advice about the exercise im sorry but i hope it all works well for you.

FlipFantasia · 13/10/2011 20:58

Hi Lilpud and welcome Smile. I'm a huge fan of washable nappies - they are so easy and so little faff (and we live in a tiny flat, no tumble dryer, limited access to outside drying and we've never had problems with drying or smell or anything). There's loads of choice, so it would depend on what you're after, eg sized nappies are great for small babies, but then you have to buy bigger sizes as you move up so birth-to-potty options work out cheaper. All in ones or pocket nappies (like Bumgenius) are really easy to use, but have to be changed each time so you need more of them than if you use a two-part system & generate more washing...gosh, I could talk nappies all night!

Anyway, my advice would be try and get along to a nappuccino if you can. It's a demonstration of the different types of nappies available with the chance to handle them etc. I've actually run nappuccinos in the past and it's a great way to get questions answered etc.

There's often council incentives as well, so do check whether your council helps out with the cost (eg if you're in London then check out Real Nappies for London - where I live you get fifty four pounds towards the cost of nappies).

The nappy section on here has loads of info, as does cloth nappy tree and a really comprehensive website called twinkle on the web.

I personally use mostly Bumgenius - a really fast drying and easy to use pocket nappy as fast drying time was a huge factor for us (as no tumbledryer or airing cupboard) - and the Bumgenius Flip (a two part nappy, so an outer wrap and insert - if it's just wee you can just change the insert, so cut down on washing). The Flips are great for babies once they're on solids (not so good at containing the messy poos of babies who are still on milk only!). We got them because I really wanted them we were spending a month in the states visiting in-laws when DS was 9 months and they were perfect for traveling.

I also have some tots bots easyfits, some tots bots bamboozles (great for nighttime) and some bummis prefolds & wraps (great for the newborn stage). I'm looking forward to using them all again (as we mostly just stick to the bumgenius and flips as that's what we have most of).I also use washable wipes and have some washable liners but mostly use disposable liners.

Despite buying most of my nappies before DS was born, I used disposables for the first few weeks as a c-section meant laundry was tricky. I also use disposables for long car journeys/flying/camping or any other time when washables don't work for us.

If it helps, DH was really anti the idea of washables when I first broached it and now he's a total convert (as is my mum who honestly thought I was mad when I mentioned we were going to use them - she is still amazed by how far washables have come since the days of terries/nappy pins/plastic pants/boil washes she had with her 6 kids!).

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FlipFantasia · 13/10/2011 21:15

OK, now I've got my nappy love off my chest Grin I can respond to what others have written...

Cheese&gerkins another fan of the ergo here - we used it from about 5 months with DS but am definitely getting the newborn insert this time. Though I also love our close sling - so cosy and easy to use for the snuggly newborn stage.

NFC tricky, but I think I'd avoid the gym (if by gym you meant equipment or whatever - if you mean swimming and yoga then I think it's fine). It might be worth asking your midwife or maybe posting in Pregnancy (and no, I don't think you're being precious at all - you're looking for advice on how to manage a potentially v serious condition which seems v sensible to me!). Glad the work meeting went well.

Santa thinking of you and hoping you and your bump are doing well (and also that your DD is in good form - isn't it her birthday soon? Or am I totally imagining that!).

I'm quite Envy of all of you planning a homebirth. I was so looking forward to one last time but am not brave enough to attempt not just a vbac but home vbac (instead I'm just planning to labour at home for as long as possible).

On the buggy front, I have 2 friends who have icandys and they seem like lovely versatile prams/buggies that really grow with the baby etc. I also have loads of friends who are bugaboo fans (mostly the bugaboo bee - you cannot move for the bugaboo bees in this part of London!). I also have a friend with a stokke xplory that she loves and that does look cool. I also have friends who used the Maclaren techno with the pram attachment, so a pram but also a maclaren for once the baby is old enough. All of these options seem pretty good to me and they're all certainly happy with the choices they made.

We used a mountain buggy pram (from my sister) and then swapped to a maclaren quest once DS was about 5 months (I had issues about prams/buggies costing more than the cost of the car we had when DS was born so refused to go down the expensive pram/buggy route!).

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stuffthenonsense · 14/10/2011 07:04

The maclaren techno XP was my second choice.......
I have a few friends with the bugaboo bee....nice pram but they often complained that the carrycot was very quickly outgrown which was one of he things i loved about the emmaljunga....i reluctantly moved DD4 out of the carrycot and into the seat when i discovered i was pregnant (she was 13 months) in order to get some wear out of the seat unit.....she would sit up and LOVE her 360° view and could then lie flat when sleepy....she took a good while to accept the seat and definately doesnt sleep as well in it.
Other important thhings to consider...as well as your changing bag are you likely to want to put other things in the basket, with some prams once your bag is there you would be lucky to gett a loaf of bread and a bottle of milk on too, is the handle height adjustable (especially if you and DP are very different heights). If GPs are going to be transporting baby is the folding mechanism reasonably simple....im a regular at the local zoo and its astonishing how many GPs struggle with mechanisms