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Nov 2011 - Feathering our nests and buying baby vests

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PamSco · 11/09/2011 08:15

Taking liberties again Grin as there are only 5 posts to go on old thread. Hope everyone is well this morning!

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SnoozleDoozle · 04/10/2011 20:47

I had another growth scan today. Baby is still enormous.....and breech, for good measure (although obviously there is still a chance of it turning). And they don't want to let me go to full term, but say they don't want to induce me either (due to previous failed induction, and subsequent C-section scar) so.......an early C-section is looking like the most likely outcome. When this was first put to me a couple of months ago I was all upset about it, but I've got my head around the idea now, and if thats how it has to be, then thats how it has to be. Oh, and my blood pressure is ridiculously low, 85 over something, although they didn't seem worried about it. But needless to say, even though the Dr didn't seem concerned, naturally I am having a little worry about it. DH says if I didn't have something to worry about, I would be worried about the fact I have nothing to worry about Blush. Anyway, back for another growth scan in a fortnight, and we'll see what happens then!

SnoozleDoozle · 04/10/2011 20:47

Alicat congratulations to your friend! Hope she is doing ok. Is this her first?

alicat10 · 04/10/2011 20:59

Snoozle her 1st so v quick! Sorry you are facing another cs - I have been there with DD - hoped for VBAC but she showed signs of distress before I got anywhere near labour so had an ELCS (albeit on same day) but a non EMCS is a diff kettle of fish - no labour so your body is just in a much better shape for recovery and with none of the trauma / shock of EMCS - not many people's 1st choice but so much better than last choice!

Poppet45 · 04/10/2011 21:17

Hi all,

Cali I'm so sorry to hear about the Strep B. That does indeed sound scary. I know just what you mean about feeling things are beyond your control. That was Willow's arrival to a tee.
Alicat yey for your friend. No wonder it was intense - 9 hours is fair rocketing along for a first baby. Congrats to her and her lovely wee family.
shameless preening moment More piccies of Willow. www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150358775852704.405824.547092703&l=c80d91995f&type=1
You can see such a difference in her now she's had her diuretics! She's actually down to 3lb 12 from 4lb 2 and a half but its done her a world of good. Her breathing is so much less laboured today that for the time being she came off all supplemental O2!! We'll have to see how long it continues but for today had lovely baby cuddles and she was wide awake for the camera.

bumpandisaacsmum · 04/10/2011 21:25

Hello all,

Have been keeping up the past few days but not been able to post as been on phone. Sorry not going to name check as cannot remember who said what Blush Sorry for all the ladies with aches pains and pregnancy problems, hope that you all feel better soon - not long til more babies will be joining the group :)

I will apologise now for the self-obsessed rant :(
Last week DP had his first night off in a week and rather than spending it at home he went out to the pub with his dad....he then forgot that I had a consultant appt on the Friday and was barely up let alone ready to attend with me (despite me having said the night before how I was worried and wanted him there with me). So I went on my own, he didn't even twig where I had gone - am sure he still thinks that I went to work as opposed to anywhere else - so still hasn't asked how it went. I will admit that I have been rather off with him since then, barely spoken a word to him as feel so let down and alone. He was home Fri, Sat & Sun eve (though worked Sat&Sun day so I was exhausted by the time he came home due to looking after DS both days) and he didn't ask how I was feeling or why I was upset. Rather he ignored it and has been acting if all is 100% okay Angry. At the mo I am in too much of a bad mood & feel that I have got things way out of proportion to speak to him rationally (not that I can as he is at work again). I feel completely alone in this pregnancy and all I want is for DP to ask how I am feeling, possibly ask if I want a massage or anything and just be there....really bad but I feel more supported by my 6yr old DS :(

Again sorry for the down post....I will sort myself out, I will discuss things with DP, I will get him to pamper me!!

On a more positive note: I went to my local NCT bumps & babes today, it was great to see lots of people and had a good chat with a few people. They are a really friendly group and will definitely be going again :)

Consultant appt on Friday went well, they are happy about baby & meds; have reiterated how I am at high risk of PND and so will need close monitoring post-nataly & are keen for me to increase meds at delivery preventatively. Consultant is happy for me to have homebirth so have MW coming round Sunday to discuss all the logistics of homebirth :o

Also only 4 more days at work :o cannot wait to finish; will pamper myself at the start of my Mat Leave and get my hair cut, eyebrows waxed and possibly get my nails done as well :o

busyboysmum · 04/10/2011 22:11

Hi everyone

Am so glad I have this thread to read although I haven't managed to contribute much to it so apologies for that.

Alicat - when I logged on and read your post at the top of this page before reading the previous pages, I thought another of our babies had arrived!!

Poppet so glad Willow is coming on well - and gorgeous pics xx

Anyone else feel like they have a 5lb bag of spuds in their stomach which keep on rearranging themselves periodically? That's how I've been describing it to DH who has been amazingly supportive this pregnancy. On hand with massages to try to help my poor back which has been hurting recently.

I am tired and grumpy and achy and so ready to meet this baby - can't believe there is a possible 6 more weeks to wait! My stomach will explode!

Bumps - I feel your disgruntlement with your DH. Men are rubbish sometimes, definitely pamper yourself.

I have had one midwife session 6 weeks ago and nothing since - they took 3 vials of blood from me, then I heard nothing. Everytime I rang for the results they couldn't tell me. Eventually they chased the hospital and they have no record of them being received! So rubbish - luckily I had already self-diagnosed myself as having anaemia as I had it in both previous pregnancies and bought myself some iron otherwise I would have been in a total mess.

I do finally have an appointment with the midwife this Friday so will tell her how poor my service has been. Basically I have had the 2 scans at 12 weeks and 20 weeks and 2 midwife appointments since. Good job I know what I am doing!

Here's hoping everyone has restful nights

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Merlioness · 05/10/2011 03:01

Pam I am so glad it?s not just me that thinks that I will keep this bump for aaaaaages yet Wink
And I agree, your net weight gain is 0. Unlike mine...I have gained a stone at last weighing last Sunday.
I had to smile at your handover comment :)
cali chin up! Though it sounds like you?ll be in hospital a lot :(
cep have a good last day
lk crossing fingers for either c-section date, or DH making it back in time
caz thinking of you. You are doing so well. Only 6 more sleeps now before you get to cuddle your screaming boy!
alicat congratulations to your friend! What a quick labour!
Oh my, Poppet isn?t Willow gorgeous!
bump sorry you are having a tough time with DP. Could you try to talk to him once you feel a little calmer? Tell him how you feel and what you need/want off him :(
Good that you are planning on a bit of pampering when ML starts. Not long to go now :)
busy that is such a great analogy! I will copy that, as I have been struggling to explain to DH!
Your antenatal care sounds utterly rubbish. Hope the appointment this Friday goes well.

I?m totally in love with the way my bump looks today. I?ve been really struggling with self-image issues and have been convinced that I look fat rather than pregnant. Today it?s definitely pregnant :)
Bumped into one of my former clients yesterday who very kindly pointed out that I look huge and very tired...Erm..thanks :(

Sorry there are so many of you that are feeling poorly, achy, etc. Hopefully you?ll feel better soon!

Folicacid · 05/10/2011 06:40

Self indulgent post:

Last day at work today. I feel WEIRD. Not the euphoria I was expecting to wake to. I do really enjoy my job. And I love my colleagues. Hmmmm.

Will be back on at some point to read up on all you lovely ladies.

Feel WEIRD WEIRD WEIRD.

H007 · 05/10/2011 09:06

Cali sorry to hear about your strep B, what are the implications for it?

snoozel that bp result is excellent and really nothing to worry about, it's really good news for baby and whilst it might make you feel a little light headed on the odd occasion muchuch safer for you both! Mine's always around 70 over 50 and the MW is always very happy with it!

Alicat congrats to your friend :)

I started my MSc again this week got lost in Oxford as couldn't find the bus stop and must have walked for around an hourbit completely pooped me out so yesterday I was useless.

Doing some quote nice maternity things now had my bump painted yesterday by my cousin which I thought ended up brilliantly going to blow the photo up as a picture for the nursey wall :), this weekend have a date with OH to my favourite restaurant :), then on Sunday having a beauty therapist come over to give me a pedicure, manicure and massage with my lovely friend, then the following two weeks I am being a model for a beauty school for body massage and Indian head massage :) all I'm between an antinatal class and a growth scan. The only bad thing at the moment is tiredness and the fact my cousin ate me out of chocolate biscuits and cake grrrr

Happy hump day everyone :)

H007 · 05/10/2011 09:07

Sorry for all spelling mistakes stupid phone

voodoomunkee · 05/10/2011 11:13

Eeee all these last days at work! Good luck to those who are at that point and happy mat leave too!
I'm STILL off work, not used to this at all. Also how many bloody sales people knock at the door on a daily basis! I've started avoiding the door. Can't even be chewed to have another conversation about why I don't want to change suppliers or take out a monthly subscription to a charity. Someone actually argued with me last week, when I explained inwork for a charity she suggested that I must then know how important the work of a charity is, I agreed and pointed out that actually any spare cash was just as important to my family. She started being really really stroppy and trying to guilt me. I smiled sweetly and shut the door. Heavily pregnant woman and some random sales person arguing with me was never going to go well! Sorry, rant over!
Bump my OH can be really insensitive to how I'm feeling sometimes, I think it's just lack of thought rather than anything else but it is very upsetting!
Congrats to your friend Ali, super fast 1st labour!
Am sure there is more i want to say but clearly it will come back to me later! Sorry for being rubbish. Time to wait for the sleepiness from the codeine to wear off I think! More rubbishy telly!

chipmonkey · 05/10/2011 12:13

Sylvie-Rose died yesterday. We don't really know why. We are devastated. Don't know if I will be able to post for a while.

Caliphora · 05/10/2011 12:31

H007 - www.gbss.org.uk - mainly I need to be on an IV as soon as I go into first signs of labour - I can't labour at home and go in last minute as I had planned. Then there are lots of scary numbers regarding risks, but I'm trying to ignore them and visualise a perfectly healthy and beautiful little Sprout.

Men - They have no clue what's happening in our heads or bodies, and it's not an excuse, but I think they freak out when they face the unknown and just deal with it bloke style - head+sand+humour=insensitive remarks.
Call them on it, and explain! But Bump, it may be time where you sit him down and -really- tell him what's going on here. He's not being supportive or empathic to your needs, which come first right now. And that needs to change!

TwoJack I'm feeling absolutely petrified. My house isn't clean enough, my head is in bits and I just want to sleep loads. I'm sure it's all worth it in the end...

Snoozle Apart from Sprout being engaged since 30 weeks, I know how you feel. I can barely sit down any more as Sprout is so far up in my ribs. Bloody tall DP, that's why.

Folic Yay for last day!

Voodoo I've stopped opening doors, too. Very tempted to open the door clutching my Bible next time, inviting them in to hear "The Good News"!

Today has been mad here so far - the neighbours door was rammed by the police as the woman has been reported missing by her husband (afaik she doesn't have one) - there's a long history of domestic violence going on, and drug use, so I'm not surprised, just a bit... Yeah, it's odd.

Hospital again tomorrow - hooray for Ante-natal assessment units! At least they feed you if you have to stay in for long.

Bluetinkerbell · 05/10/2011 12:35

chipmonkey big big big hugs for you and your family! if you want to talk, you know where I am! sending you lots of strength and prayers! x

H007 · 05/10/2011 12:52

Oh chip that is just the worst news ever, I am so so so so so so sorry! All my thoughts and prays are with you and your family right now xxxxx

Caliphora · 05/10/2011 12:52

Chip Oh darling - big strong prayers and thoughts to you and your family. I hope you get the answers you need and all the support you deserve.

TwoJackRussellsandabean · 05/10/2011 12:52

Oh Chip,

am so so sorry for your loss, nothing else to be said but massive hugs to you and your family and I hope you get loads of support in RL, take care and come back when you feel more up to things.

cookie9 · 05/10/2011 13:06

Chip I am so so sorry. Every second of her life was filled with love and hopefully you and your family will find the strength to get through. Thinking of you.

voodoomunkee · 05/10/2011 13:13

Chip, am truly, truly sorry. What sad news. I hope that you have plenty of support. Nothing we can say really. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. xxx

bumpandisaacsmum · 05/10/2011 13:17

chip sorry to hear such sad news. ((HUGs)) to you & your family. Thinking of you xx

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 05/10/2011 13:21

Hello all, hope today finds people feeling OK.

I've just had my 2nd IM appointment at home and am feeling pretty good. She had a good feel of my tummy and said that baby has dropped lower so that his head is now on the pelvic rim and she would think that by next appt, he should be engaged. He is also not back to back - in fact is in a prefect position for labour. He also does not feel big for dates.
There's nothing in my urine and my bp was 105 over 77 this morning. It was higher when she took it but she knows I have white coat hypertension, so was not concerned.

Apart from feeling knackered after a looong day in London for work, I'm doing OK.
Luckily, I'm in Barnsley tomorrow for work and then that's it - technically in work till 3 Nov but all working from home.

TMI alert - I am waking every couple of days around 3am to go for a poo. MW reckons it's cause baby's head is starting to press on my bum. I wake up and go for a poo, then can't sleep and sometimes feel sick so I try to eat an oatcake and watch an episode of Corrie :)
I also have the highest sex drive atm!!! Shock
Poor DP - am planning on jumping on him tonight! Sex is a great way to start labour once your body is getting ready and (to the delight of men) one really good way is to ingest semen - honestly, you couldn't make it up!! I've said that DP has to help with orgasms and nipple stimulation Blush and I'll 'reward' him with, ahem, the odd bout of oral sex.

Hey ho, it'll be a while until we get it again once baby is here.

Sorry to hear about strep b Cali. If it helps, I had it with my first pregnancy and it was part of the route to an over-medicalised birth as I had IV anti biotics throughout labour.
I have thought long and hard and am not testing for it with this one. Up to 40% of the population carry strep b in their bodies naturally and of these, up to 50% will pass strep b onto their baby during labour. However, of these 50% only 10% of babies will actually become ill.
I am aware of the signs to look for with a newborn and don't forget if you end up with a section, there is no risk at all as the baby has not passed through the birth canal (which is where it is passed on).

Having IV antibiotics does not prevent you from having a bath, shower or getting into the birth pool as you can remain mobile and only get hooked up when the next dose is needed.

One thing you can try is to thread string through a clove of garlic and insert it, um, in your fanjo overnight. Do this with a new garlic every night for 8 nights and then re-test for strep b. Garlic is a natural antibiotic and can kill off the strep b.

You also need to think about how you feel about passing on antibiotics to your baby during labour.
Good luck.

Anyone got any thoughts on vitamin k injection to newborn? My MW has said she can give it in one jab, not give it at all or give it orally over a few weeks if birth was nice and natural. I'm lucky that I have that option with an IM but wondered if anyone else had thought of it.

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 05/10/2011 13:24

Oh dear god - i did not see chip's post. I do not know what to say other than I am so so so very sorry and my thoughts are with you and your family.

PamSco · 05/10/2011 13:51

chip words cannot express how I feel for you and your family at this moment. All I can say is we are here for you when you are ready. All my love xxx

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MooseyMoo · 05/10/2011 14:05

Oh chip I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your family. Hope you have lots of support in RL. Understandable that you wont be posting here for a bit but please feel free to come back when you are ready.

MrsA I had the vit k for DD as injection. Done quite soon after birth if I remember correctly.

MooseyMoo · 05/10/2011 14:08

Vitamin k info here: www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/health/vitamink/