Nov 2011 - Mat B forms are in and time is flying not long now

[PamSco]

Sorry just went for a new thread as I couldn't see another.

Hope you are all well this morning

MrsA keep strong! I really hope that you can get an independent if that will help you. Have faith in yourself and stick up for what you want/need.

Cali I can do you a great deal on a plain or cheese scone?!? Decided to bake. Not like me at all cos I love to cook but am rubbish at baking!

voodoo - If you can transport it out to Glossop, I'd love you for ever. It's really weird, I'm craving it so, so bad - I can't stop thinking about biscuits!

kelly, yes that's me! I'm about 20mins from Chester (just over n wales border). i looked at Northwich birth centre which also offer home births and they are quoting £4k!!
£1,500 may be affordable (just)

Can you pm me her details? I'm due 16 Nov (or 23 Nov if you believe hospital, which i don't).

poppet many thanks for your support, which has left me amazed given your circumstances. I am so so glad you got your cuddle and I would like to reiterate that when things don't go well, like premmie birth, the consultants and midwives are worth their weight in gold and I am so glad they are there.
that's why i want to be left alone whilst things seem OK - let the specialists deal with the babies and mummies who really need them!

kelly meant to say, I've also read Michel Odent's report on GD and gtt. He has well referenced, scientific research papers using large scale trials of women that clearly suggest GD is not a true issue at all, yet still the medical profession declare it is.

Poppet so glad you got to enjoy a cuddle.

H007 hope you have managed to get some rest today.

Having to lie down as overdid it baking this morning then chatting to friends at baby shower. Bump muscles sore and hips have ceased to work.

voodoo i am thrilled, he is really good, and is happy to support as long as i'm giving an informed decision. It's such a shame that different areas are soooo different in their approaches, (having said that i don't know if another consultant would have said the same, he kept saying here in portsmouth but ?????) especially as i'm so big and others smaller than me seem to be having problems.

mrsa i'm sorry you're having such a hard time at the moment, it's a fight you don't need right now. I hope you're able to get the independant mw, and the birth you want.

poppet yay on the cuddles, so glad you've been able to have such a long one today.

kelly hiya hon, how's you? did you have a good holiday?

poppet so glad you and willow managed a cuddle, sounds so perfect and peaceful. Hope she is continuing to grow strong.

chip the mock BF is adorable, doubt it'll be too long til her mouth is large enough to take a great chunk of boob and feed. Glad to here Sylvie-Rose is continuing to do well.

caz your anxieties about an extra week are totally understandable, may be worth discussing the possible CS after an induction timescale. Your mental health is as important as your (& Xander's) physical health. I do hope you manage to agree a plan you are confident with. 32weeks will be hard, remember you have managed so many "first's" since Anabelle and your first-time being 33weeks will be hard - you will get through it with support x x

mash hope you had a good holiday & france was good to you

How are you feeling tonight H007?? Hope you managed to get some rest and things have settled.

cep glad GTT came back fine & that the consultant was positive about pool use - hope MWs are the same when the time comes.

mrsa sorry to hear that your healthcare professionals are being less than helpful & are causing you stress. I hope looking into Ind MW helps.

cali hope you managed to get some biscuits!!

A little confused here...struggling to make decisions which I thought I had sorted!! Had appt with mental health nurse today, she was helpful but wasn't impressed I hadn't started the meds Dr prescribed last week (Read the blurb and after reading the potential of breathing probs for newborn (PPHN) my anxiety was too high to take it); then had the Dr phone me and have a go at me for not taking his advise & starting the meds. So have forced myself to do more thorough research tonight and PPHN is apparently extremely rare, and Seratline is lower risk due to short half-life. The course I was supposed to be doing to help the anxiety is now not going to be possible as DPs work are being complete twats!!

I feel as though I am being offered help but turning it down which makes me feel guilty & almost as though I need to try the meds just to show I am willing to help myslef IYSWIM.

PMA - cot and moses basket are set up and ready, sheets washed etc :)
- have had confrimation that a voucher I was given by a patient can be spent (baby shopping in next :) )
- DS school uniform brought (inc shoes) and labels have arrived, tonight I will be sewing labels onto clothes

Poppet sooooo glad you got a nice cuddle! It really does make things seem a lot more normal and nice, doesn't it? I sing to Sylvie-Rose too but have to admit I sing anything and everything to her rather than nice kiddy-friendly songs!

It is lovely to hear how Willow and Sylvie-Rose (and their mummies) are doing! I feel all emotional when I see your posts, very inspiring!

Cep, ah enjoy the fact it is working well for you, nothing wrong with that at all! I know that my MW whilst being a little at odds with me at times will support me should I pick a homebirth and I know that the doctors will currently attempt to blackmail me with letting me stay in MLU as long as I dont have a homebirth so am pretty much sorted one way or another!

Bump, like you need additional confusion at the mo?! Bah. If you arent happy ask for more information or a second opinion? Well done on cot and moses basket sorting tho! Do you get a little shiver when you see them? I know I would!

Am feeling pretty good. Must have caught up on rest as I have got lots done and even cut the grass this afternoon! Admittedly I wont be doing it again as it was quite uncomfortable!

I clearly am losing the plot as have just rung my mum and asked to borrow her spare sewing machine to make sock monkeys. God! I can't sew by the way. At all. However I am taking full advantage of the nesting hormones making me insane and planning Christmas stuff and I am going to learn to flipping sew! My mum is a beautiful dressmaker and I am ashamed that I cannot even sew a button on so I am hoping she will teach me a little bit. Am also planning on making some skittle vodka for my brother for Christmas, if I do it now whilst am tee-total there stands a good chance of there being some by Xmas! Normally Vodka does not last in my house

H007 how are you? Crossed my mind a fair few times today that you were quiet....

Sorry for epic post!

Voodoo I'm a costume maker by education - sewing is like cycling! Just adapt a No Fear policy around the machine, and go for it!

Bump I had the same argument with myself - which is why I went cold turkey from the anti-depressants when I found out I was pregnant.
I'm going to push the boat out and say that you've been brave and tried to get out of this without the medication - but it may be time to try what the doctor recommends. If it was a more "physical" problem, and you had to take drugs for the problem, like PamSco and the cocodamol, warfarin for blood clotting or insulin for gestational diabetes, most people probably wouldn't think twice.
It's because "it's all in our heads" - I know exactly how hard it is to try and "hang on in there" - to the point where I was sitting in the toilets at work in an absolute catatonic state, tears rolling down my cheeks and the only thing going through my head was "I don't deserve this baby, and I have to give her up for adoption when she's born, so she doesn't have to have a horrible mum like me".
Even if you're not as bad as that, and you're coping with other means, it's not about you being ungrateful for not taking the meds - it's about your doctor and mental health nurse being concerned enough to recommend the medication.

Sorry if I'm getting on a soap box and sounding evil - it's because I'm in the same-ish boat and don't want anybody to go through what I did before giving in to the medication.

Morning all,

poppet, you made me cry, what a lovely cuddle you had, roll on all the other ones :)

Nowt much happening here, discovered my stretch marks have arrived, but as they are on the underside of the bump, I can't see them :) I'm going with them being my war wounds and DH doesn't seem to be bothered, although granted there are more serious problems out there, that's my grumble for the morning!!!!

Hope everyone has a good day, am off to the Dundee Flower and Food festival this afternoon, looking forward to getting a few new plants for my garden :D

Morning everyone!

Sounds like quite a few on here have been having a tough time this past few days, hope things improve soon.

I don't have much to add. It was my DDs first day at school yesterday, which was a bit emotional, but I managed not to cry, and so did she! Was off work for the occasion, so got a wee taster of what my upcoming nine months as a mum and housewife will be like, and I must say I loved it. Will have to have a serious look at finances after baby arrives to see if there is any way I could be a SAHM mum for a couple of years. We both have ok jobs and salaries for the area where we live, but salaries are generally very low here, whereas living costs are not (bet that's something that plenty of people can identify with, sadly!), but luckily for us we bought our house years ago when prices were low, so the most important outgoing for us is also the one that causes the least worry, if you see what I mean. If I didn't work, we woudn't need two cars, and if we cut out that expense, and that of childcare, we might actually be better off with me at home......need to do a spreadsheet!

Hey all, sorry to all the others having a tough time of it atthe moment.

Had a lovely day yesterday which consisted of not moving off the sofa and just monitoring Bean's movements, when I concentrate on her she is such a wiggleler. So no more worries here :)

Things are feeling like they are finally coming together with the house as we had our new bed delivered yesterday and I would recommend memory foam to anyone as it has done wonders for my pelvis, just about to order the last set of blinds for the rooms that we use and then I have my annual leave and maternity leave which pretty much starts next Friday to decorate the nursery. Also as I was having a rest day yesterday and OH had a busy day at work we treated ourselves to a take away after I started craving it and found a really nice Italian which delivers fresh, clean food at a reasonable price which was yummy and loads of it, I think that their number maybe on our speed dial for after bean arrives haha

Well I hope everyone has a lovely weekend :)

H007 I am green with envy at the thought of an Italian takeaway.......Indian food has only just reached our area !! You can't even get a pizza delivered where I live.......

Big hugs to all battling at the moment.

Poppet tears here too for your cuddle. I'm such a wuss

I've had a really tough week in work and I was only in for 2 days! Lots of impossible tasks to do - find £100m to take out the budget please. Oh ok.

On a positive we get our new kitchen installed on monday so I have a day of packing up and cleaning with OH. The positive (besides the new nest) is that I'll get to eat at my fave italian a couple of nights.

Anyone around Edinburgh - reminder about the sling meet at PPC tomorrow at 1.30.

Oops - it's 1pm not 1.30pm

at new kitchen!
I would love to overhaul our kitchen! One of my friends thinks IABU about this as there is actually nothing physically wrong with ours. But at the time we bought the house, we had no spare cash to do the kitchen exactly how we wanted it so had to go with the standard kitchen that came with the house. I dream of knocking through into the dining room which we basically use as a room to dump things ( I pump in there at the moment!) and have things like a Belfast sink, range cooker and butchers block. It may happen in 20 years time.........

chip LOL LOL

Pump in our house means fart :) but I know what you mean. We are getting it done while we have cash, otherwise it'll be years and it's 17 years old and tired as it is. It's also all gold and dirty white - probably nice when the previous owners invested. We are doing it on the cheap - it's a refurb not a replacement but can't wait to get my new oven in.

Pam & Chip Rangemaster this was my final extravagance treat before I started having kids and I love it - I just wish wish wish I was a better cook to make the most of it! Does allow me host big Christmasses though :)

Feeling sorry for myself today feeling decidedly not right. Spent y'day pm at 4 year olds party sat on ground and as a result pelvis really hurting and I got myself really dehydrated. Have been trying really hard to rehydrate today but no matter how much I down I'm not perking up. Completely and utterly lost appetite too which is odd as rampant hunger has been the main feature of this pg. Bump just all over achy and junior quiet enough to give me a sense of unease but not quiet enough to justify trip to Day Assessment unit. Also a bit hot and cold so maybe just coming down with a cold. Minor problems in the overall scheme of things but annoying as I have a fridge full of food for my planned batch cooking.

Loved Willow and Sylvie Rose's cuddle / feed stories - really take me back to those precious moments of skin to skin with DS when he was in NICU.

Cali, once my mum had finished her stunned silence she immediately offered her spare machine and threads etc and a quick tutorial. If my 10 year old can do it then so can I! Am sure all the stuff my mums talked about over the years will have gone in somewhere! Quite looking forward to it now!

voodoo 'Atta girl! If it catches - head over to Burdastyle for more fun and games! :D

Shall do! I want to make cushion covers.... and hem my curtains... and make a sock monkey or 5! I may PM in the future for advice... :)

cali thank-you; it is so difficult, I know that I am not as bad as have been previously but really don't want to get to the point that I did before. I know I hav egot to the point where I am struggling daily and I feel I cannot cope hence why meds became more of an option to me. I think I may give them a try and so how it goes.

voodoo I lost the plot earlier this year and asked my mum to borrow her sewing machine when DS needed a costume for school...kinda worked though I hand-stitched a lot of it. The machine has been in it's bag since, though will be coming out for making xmas prezzies!! Good luck x

pam sorry for impossible work tasks. Great for new kitchen though :)

ali hope you are feeling better

Had breastfeeding course on Thursday which was really good and then this morning had our first nhs "birth skills" session; had some useful info but not a great deal; am glad we booked onto private sessions as well - have our first with them tomorrow :)

evening ladies.

bump i think i would have been furious that she'd gone straight to the gp. Do what you feel is right not what you're being pressured to do.

voodoo i've made a few things on my sewing machine, such as hooded baby towels (when pg with ds) and more recently my kithcne blinds. i do enjoy doing it when it's all going right anyway.

ali hope you're feeling better soon.

snoozle it'll be us doing that next year, it's going to be so strange seeing him in a uniform. Am a bit overwhelmed about what i need to do to get him registered, it's all changed here recently. Although the school has his name they're supposed to be sending us stuf when it's time for us to start filling forms etc.

tmi alert - what is going on with this constant weeing thing? I seriously go for a wee then need to go again! It is driving me insane, although not painful or anything!