January 2012 - Thread 3

[ParsleyLion1]

And we're back......

Ooh and I knitted a pair of bootees yesterday!

evning all,

laptop restarted and swallowed a massive post from me and I cant arsed to write it all again. It was mostly ranting about money situ and the benefits office anway and now i feel better for having written it down even if it wasn't seen.

Broken nights here too 4am I wake then fall asleep again just before the alarm goes off. EVERY SINGLE NIGHT................fed up with it.

Hi Ladies, I have started a stats list thread for us. Hope noone minds.STATS LIST THREAD
Also, Iv put a wee note on it to say we should note our colour team ie I am Team Yellow.
hope its ok x

mummyzoe glad you are ok

deesus good luck tommorrow and enjoy

giraffe congrats on the great scan and on the knitting. That is something I cannot do, just cant wiggle my fingers the right way.

Hey ladies, back from holidays and must read all the updates! But just saw this article on The Guardian and thought I would share - www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/the-womens-blog-with-jane-martinson/2011/aug/22/childbirth-women. Thoughts? If that happens to me I am showing them the exit door faster than they can blink an eye!!!

Here is the link again... Now as a link! www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/the-womens-blog-with-jane-martinson/2011/aug/22/childbirth-women

I have my 16 wk appointment today, really looking forward to it, and really hoping they listen to the hb as I've got it in my head there is a problem :s

Right off to have left over cake for breakfast!

Good luck to all thoes with scans today, hopefully babies legs are in the right position!

Jeezus - copied this off one of the comments:

"I've not had a baby, but I do know a Bounty rep. She was pretty scary.

She was an incredibly clucky woman, and earned a pittance from her job. Every morning she would dress up in a navy suit with an official looking badge; I'm sure this was to make her look like a health visitor. At work, if she found a crying baby unattended she'd pick it up. If a woman managed to escape before seeing her, she'd try and get her details by asking the midwives. She didn't think there was anything wrong with this. She didn't feel that there was anything intrusive about an advertiser barging in to a maternity ward unannounced and doing a good impression of a health visitor."

I swear - if some stranger came in and picked up my baby I'd insist the police were called and she was carted away in handcuffs - how dare someone feel it is OK to just pick up someone else's child???

Ooh, greenlady - that article has got me in a right grump now!

Greenlady when dd was born I went off to the toilet dh was sat with dd when the photo lady came round and asked dh if he wanted her picture taken he said no thankyou and she said, let's ask the mother shall we? After all she has more of a say. I came back and said no thankyou and she started on this pitch about how guilty i would feel in years to come. I was exausted and just wanted to cry, luckly dh was there (and we had previously discussed these pictures when i was less hormonal) and he got really angry with her saying we had both turned her down we didn't want a photo taken with her covered in blood and other yuckys, we planned to have professional new born photos taken by a photographer friend once she had a bath and we were at home with better light and mummy and baby were more comfortable and relaxed.
I'd forgotten all about that, but if dh hadn't have been there i probably would have spent silly money on a crappy photo!

I'd pushed that memory away, in a hase of new baby happyness. But now thinking about it rationally I'm really angry. How dare she pressure a hormonal exausted scared new first time mum.

OK. I'm being silly and hysterical again. I haven't felt sproglet jump around since 5pm yesterday and normally I can;t stop it bouncing first thing in the morning. Do I call the MW (again)?

OK. Scrap that. Bubba just kicked at the laptop to reassure its silly old mummy. I swear it's the tiredness, I'm just turning into a hormonal, exhausted mess. Plus I have mouth ulcers and a possible coldsore - brilliant. I do not want to go to work today.

Blimey greenlady I didn't think they could do that! My OH heard about it on the radio yesterday and was telling me but I didn't realise quite how bad it was

Good luck today addicted and Deesus with MW and scans :)

giraffe congrats on the scan :)

mummyzoe glad all is OK

fish hope you get a good night's sleep soon

BigHotMama to a certain extent I get up at 5.30 out of choice (not something I would ever have contemplated a few years ago). OH and I both commute into London (about an hour door to door) and we get into work at about 7.30, which gives me time to get my act together and sort stuff out before everybody else gets in (or post stuff on MN :)). I work for a South African company and they are an hour ahead so it makes sense to be in early. It means I can leave at 5 and go home early or go to the gym :) Or like yesterday take an hour out and go to a yoga class which was fab - slept like a log last night! (still needed the extra sugar to stay awake tho..)

Cakes you sound really stressed and run down - poor you! It seems to take ages to heal when pg, doesn't it? Glad to hear bubs is karate kicking away. I'm not feeling nearly that level of activity yet - must be that pesky anterior placenta!

Will read the guardian article later but sounds awful. Normally I have no compunction about being assertive with salespeople but I imagine that straight after birth is a crazy emotional time.

in my experience of bounty people, they come round, say hello, have a look at baby and coo, ask if you want a photo and disappear again.

I don't remember it being a problem tbh and i certainly didn't feel pressured in any way.

oh and the physio was fab, thanks to everyone who was asking! Am not back to normal yet but I think the muscles are all just a bit angry. Physio reckons it's mostly to do with postural changes as all the weight starts shifting to my belly.

He did recommend rolling up a bath towel and using it to support the back of your neck while you're lying down. You should be sort of dangling your head over the floor with support from the towel. I've done this before to help with headaches and can highly recommend it - it stretches out the neck and back muscles which can get pulled the wrong way, especially if you work at a screen all day. In any case it's relaxing so I'd recommend it to all of you, especially if you're starting to get upper back pain/neck/jaw issues.

It's different hospitals, different ladies and different approaches. You might get a non intrusive lady who understands or someone who really doesn't have a clue and just wants to make money.

makescakes I feel the same, worried, wondering whether to call midwife or what to do. I have a really bad cold, and woke up at 2am not being able to breathe, after a scary nightmare that something was wrong with the baby.
I then realised I haven't felt Little Snuggs wriggling for a few days, or have I? DH told me to stop worrying, then when I eventually got back to sleep about 4am I had a great dream that the baby was ok and that I felt it moving loads. But was that in my dream or in RL?!!

But still not felt anything this morning.. I am going on holiday tomorrow to travel for brother's wedding on Thurs, not back here til next week. Dont want to be worrying whilst I am away, but still, think it might just be my hormones playing tricks on me....

Haven't had any previous worries/problems in this or previous pg...

grr, bloody hormonal worrying baby brain! what to do what to do

Sorry to bang on!

miamama sorry youv been feeling lousy. I was in bed with a really bad cold when having dd. Didint feel her for a few days. Doc told me that was normal for baby to be quieter when we're ill. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy your brothers wedding.

Bounty - That article brought back a few memories. At the hospital the mw gave us the Bounty bag when we were leaving. But I do remember the Bounty photographer coming round mid morning to take photos. Fortunatly I was last in the room to be approached so I have mustered my response before she came. She wasnt happy that I wouldnt let her take a photo of dd and that I said the Bounty photos werent very good. Of course she claimed to be the best photographer in the world. She left after I asked her why I should pay her when BIL is a photographer and would photos for free.
There are some shocking stories out there.
I think the key thing is to be strong and assertive with them and remember that you can get the child benefit form online regardless of what the crazy Bounty women says.

miamama - big hugs of solidarity - so easy to get scared, isn't it? Sproglet is definitely quieter than normal today, but it did have a very active couple of days, so maybe its just tired too. Plus I felt so dreadful I called and told work I wasn;t going in. I had hot and cold sweats and thought I was going to hurl. Managed not to in the end, but didn;t think I'd do anyone any good by going in, and then I found out that neither of the people I needed to talk to were in today anyway, so it would have been a total waste of my time (I do most of my work from home unless I need to talk to someone).

Hope everyone has a better afternoon. It means a lot to me to be able to come on here and talk to you all - such a comfort.

shonnomanom and makescakes thanks for the reassurance! Hopefully I will feel better soon and the bambino will make some more nudges to let me know all is well in there! Just need to try and relax and not worry, that's the worst, the worrying, cuz once it starts it's so hard to get out of that mindset.
thank goodness for you guys on here!

I've got fanny burn :-( I remember this from DS now, it's like it's really bruised in certain spots and stings for a bit, then goes away. I'm sure there are other aches and pains I have yet to remember .

DS had a fabby 2nd birthday on Sunday. We went to Sundown Adventure Land and he LOVED it

Bought him a fire engine cake from waitrose and just decimated it at playgroup this morning. All the little toddlers loved their cake

Tunic number 1 came out really well, and I'm cutting out and starting number 2 this afternoon. It is so brilliant to wear something comfy with excess room in it! Really pleased with myself.

Having lots of fun with my doppler. We got the Sonicline B and it's really fab. Can't always get a strong response, but always manage to get something. Cost about £50 but they sell on ebay for about £35/£40 so I figured if I sell when I'm done it'll not cost me much overall.

I haven't caught up with the thread yet, so hope everyone is well!!

Just got back from 20wk scan.
Girl. Eeeep!!

I have lost my amazing skill of being able to get back to sleep! Used to be able to wake up, have a pee, tuck DS covers back on him, let the dogs out, let the dogs back in, let a cat in, go back to bed, go back to sleep within 5 minutes. Now, wake up at 5.30 am needing pee...and that's it, doomed to lie in bed awake for aaaages, wanting to sleep. Argh.

miamama I feel for you! Especially when you think actually maybe you did feel something but aren't sure. Doh. Hopefully little one is just letting you have a rest without hoofing your around. Get well soon and enjoy the wedding.

makescakes hope you're feeling better soon. I was feeling really dizzy yesterday for no apparent reason (other than another night of broken sleep thanks to DD) and ended up bunking off early to lie in a darkened room.

On the Bounty front I somehow managed to avoid her with DD - no idea how as I was in for 2 days. I'd probably actually have gone for the photo if she had come up to me as I wanted everything at that point!

ghost top tip on the neck front - I'm a real screen sloucher and can definitely feel it more these days, so in the face of a laughing DH I shall get towel rolling and lying!

supa - fanny burn? That made me laugh (sympathetically, obviously!)

tigana - girls are lovely, and they don't wee in your face (well, you'd have to be really unlucky...)

Just signed up to antental yoga - very excited, not necessarily about the exercise but about actually spending an hour on my own without DD/DH pestering me!

giraffe - meant to say congrats on the scan and the bootees!

Just came back from 20weeks scan. All looks fine...and I'm having a girl :)