October 2011 Baby Bus... PART 4

[happymummytobe]

A new thread for the bus!

Thanks for the kind words, especially as I haven't posted much recently!

Well I went to antenatal assessment unit this morning for second lot of steroids and ctg. Unfortunately ctg didn't 'meet criteria' so they put me nil by mouth and admitted me to labour ward to give me EMCS.

However, they then did another trace which satisfied the 2 registrars. So, they moved me to antenatal ward where I had another good ctg at 8pm. So I am now in bed, waiting until 10 to take my pre op anti acid, then I am going to try hard to get some good sleep before they take me back to labour ward at 8am to queue for ELCS.

Feeling more relieved now after 2 good traces, and am actually excited for the first time to meet my little girl. Wrote each of my dds a little card last night to give them as a reminder of me whilst I am away. That was the first time I cried, think it hit home that this is earlier than expected, but just as real.

Good luck for tomorrow cupoftea, hope everything goes well!

Wow cupoftea you're handling it all very well. Bet your ds' can't wait to have you and their little sister home. Hope you get lots of sleep ready to meet your DD x so exciting xxxx big hugs xxxx

cupofteaplease Very excited for you! Sleep well and enjoy that excitement of knowing that you'll have your baby with you very soon! Think it's lovely that you've written cards for your older daughters. Bet they keep them forever xx

Cupoftea how exciting! Glad everything was ok this evening and good luck tomorrow.

Monkeybubbles it sounds as if you are in the same boat as me- endless uncomfortable contractions but no baby at the end of it. I was so achey the other day after a night of really strong ones- they don't properly hurt, just feel horrible. I have been googling too, there are no answers! My midwife said that some people are just 'contractors' and this tends to happen but that usually they don't need inducing and have shorter labours because of all the practice beforehand. I'm still fed up though.

Cheshire we have our pool up too, I've turned the den into a birthing room, complete with candles, motivational crap written on whiteboard etc (much to my DH's annoyance as it was HIS room). I feel you on the other things too- we have had the same responses about our dog and our home waterbirth plans.

I have been a nightmare lately- it was my birthday yesterday but I just felt so tired and sore and didn't really want to have a birthday. All the people telling me to 'have a lovely day' and trying to cheer me up led to me sobbing hysterically, then apologising and sobbing again as I felt so ungrateful. Stupid pregnant hormones! I think my DH will be very glad when I'm not pregnant, most of the time he's great, but he's unemployed at the moment, job hunting is awful and I don't think he has the energy to cope with me too.

dd's not ds's blinking iPhone!!!

cupoftea best of luck!

sounds and monkey how annoying with all the random contractions - must be a good sign though. I had a bunch this time last week, but since then nothing. And sounds you are allowed to be irrational, at this stage of pregnancy it's the rules!

I was thinking last night about the things I've loved about being pregnant, and the things I've hated. It made me realise that for me at least it's been a pretty positive experience, as I've loved feeling him move, the hilarity of random cravings, feeling closer to DH and for the first time that my body has some other purpose if that makes sense. I've also loved the scans - but then, I have had a good pregnancy and appreciate that not everyone has the same.

Main things I've hated though (apart from trouble sleeping) is the way some other women scaremonger you in early pregnancy about labour and how hard it will all get, I got so sick of my sister telling me "you think it's OK now, wait till you get to 20 weeks/30 weeks/35 weeks etc". I also didn't enjoy the first trimester with its obsessive knicker checking to see if I was having a MMC - I remember writing on this board about that at the time

Interested in your thoughts.

Morning all,
Didn't manage any rest at all yesterday however house is spotless top to bottom and baby's room is finished!

So it's hospital bag today, MW has said I'll most likely be discharged within 6 hours of delivery so was thinking in packing a bag for labour/delivery for this timescale a bag for baby and and overnight bag (just incase)

What do I need in short stay bag?

Good luck cupoftea! hope all goes well for you today.
sound and monkey I've been having random braxton hicks so empathise as they are uncomfortable when they come. I've been lucky there're not too frequent though so feel for you both.
edward yay for hospital bag, I'm going to repack mine as I rushed it after the scare and don't think I got to enjoy it enough!
My last day at work today (possibly forever) as DP and I are hoping I can be a SAHM (depending on money and how I feel once LO is here) feels very odd and a bit scary to have such huge life changes going on.
Penelope I have loved being pregnant even though I felt sick for six months and now have back/ pelvis pain and no sleep. I agree with everyone scare mongering and will vow not to with anyone in future (also making mental note not to tell pg friends they will never sleep again/ have a life once LO is here)
I love feeling the baby move, I love that my body is performing a miracle each day and it's all without me doing anything! I've also loved guessing each day what the baby will be (currently convinced it's a DS), and love DPs reaction to the bump and all the preparations in fact I could go on and on!
Hope everyone has a good day and looking forward to the first baby on the bus!

awh pebble it is so lovely. but you know what everyone has neglected to tell you? that none of that will compare to the birth! i love it. its the most magical day ever (for most people) i could relive mine over and over.
my birth story last year contains my best memory ever. i'll just tell it briefly. when my waters broke my dd1 was with us, so she was aware of what was going on and after the babies were born which was gorgeous, i was desperate to tell her what we had had. i phoned her up before i was even on a ward. she answered :
chloe have you had them?
me yes
chloe what've we got?
me we've got jacob
chloe (shrieking) we've got jacob. what else?
me we've got isobel
chloe we've got isobel. (then big happy scream)

and all the time i could hear my mum sobbing in the background. i was crying on tears of happiness at the same time.

infact im crying now! i cant think of it without getting choked. and that doesnt even include watching dp's face as he saw the babies coming out or him being the one to tell me the sexes etc.
it is just the best day ever, despite the pain or all the crap things the nhs may do!

Oooooh I like these.

This pregnancy I have loved my friends and families reaction to hearing we were having two. Ds kissing my tummy. My body doing completely different things to my last pregnancy. Kicks, that first scan where all i remember is 'there's more than one in there!'

I've hated the fear of this pg that I didn't have with DS, I've hated my size, discomfort, pain etc but you know sassy is right none of it matters at all on the day of birth. I ha a horrible early labour but I absolutely loved, loved, loved pushing him out, like I was pushing against all the bad stuff in pg and just wanted my baby. Then out he shot all tiny and a mass of hair and all I remember saying is 'it's a boy!' 'his feet are huge!' then he was on me cuddled up and feeding away. And then wondering what on earth I do with him! At night time DH was asleep and DS stirred and I just thought bugger it's moving what do I do?!?!??!

Right I am going back to catch up now...

Right again apologies doing from phone so lots of little posts!

monkey how are the contractions.
bilblio. thank you. Mr tumble is actually on now. Aside from the signing DS likes the emphasis he plays on words and giggles most of the way through it. We try not to have tv on constantly but you know it's funny in the night garden (in the evening before stories) and mickey mouse seem to be two programmes he interacts with copying the dances, repeating words (even if they don't sound the same).

cupoftea you'll be in the queue now!!! How exciting!!!

tally glad fluid levels are up and consultant isn't concerned.

sassy bless Dd1 both got the letters and her excitement at the birth! She sounds like a very lovely bug sister!

Leo does sound like you are in te running for the biggest baby prize - think you and sassy are front runners at the moment glad fluid levels are better (even if not perfect. And now you have a date too you can join the water torture countdown with me.

cheeky I'm with you on nct, didn't do then last time because of work and felt odd this time doing them as second timer as such but have always wondered whether I would have made more friends (that are mothers) if I did - was very lonely after DS was born as non of my friends had kids and didn't know anyone apart from my mn antenatal group as my old house was a commuter base not really somewhere we settled.

Cheshire I can't even see my bikini line let alone tidy it up! I don't think I could even reach it to do it. They ask you to shave the top before cs and think I'll genuinely have to male DH do it! Oh the romance!!!

sound I think you're doing incredibly well. I think not only the hormones but the frustration of is this it? No, maybe? Does get too much. [hugs]

pebble yay for last day!!!!

edward baby bits change of clothes, toiletries for freshening up afterwards. Food etc. I was really hoping to be out same day with DS but the little monster was delivered too late in the day so by the time we had got down to the ward the peads had left so had to wait for morning. I was up and packed waiting for them by 7am (they didnt dart until 9!) an was put by 10am!

Right sorry if ive missed anyone

36+3 and 10 days til d day xxx

Oh, cupoftea, best of luck. You're gonna have your beautiful baby soon.

sassy So we'll be age gap buddies. Only you have some more children as well. Makes me feel really good how relaxed you are/seem. I've started to panic a bit lately with lots of people saying, but DD is only a baby still, it's not fair on her. And: It's gonna be soooo hard, you're gonna be knackered, you're not gonna cope, yadda, yadda, yadda. Unfortunately this has resulted in me being scared a lot of the time, rather than really looking forward to my new little baby. Oh well.

penelope I hear ya on the stories of others. I swore never to scare any of my friends and just tell them the magical things unless they really push for details. TBH though, like sassy, I like to think back to the good parts of giving birth or rather having given birth. When I called my parents (who were on holiday and had no idea, cos she came early) and when my dad started crying. I've only ever seen him cry once before in my life, so it was very unexpected and makes me cry even now.

BB3 I thought exactly the same when I had DD. How on earth will I know what she needs/wants? Unfortunately 13.5 months on, I still feel pretty much the same.

Going to have a scan this morning, hopefully baby has turned around, last time he was firmly sat up, like his sister at that time. When should they have turned around again?

Have a good day all.

33+5

I think today would be a good day for baby to come. Just sayin' on the odd chance he picks up the vibe ... Although next Monday would be good too as he would be born on international talk like a pirate day.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_Talk_Like_a_Pirate_Day

Am 38+3 today.

good luck for today cupoftea8 - and leo* - I am soooooo jealous you have a date set!!

Am wishing away the days until my scan on the 22nd when we find out if he's still in breech & try the ECV. Kind of hoping he is so I can have a c-sec, as at least then we'll have a date set - can't bear the not knowing, and thinking it could end up being 2 weeks over!

trudy its like this to me- how can you not cope? what choice do i have? so the house is a disgrace (at times) and the babies are still in their sleepsuits and they may have a bath one day a top tail another, but some days i might have only wiped their faces and hands with a wetwipe. who cares? not the babies. as long as they are fed, warm, changed and loved- its all irrelevant.
you might feel like crap cos your make up as dust all over it, or your hair is 2 different colours cos your roots are at your ears but you'll get round to it eventually! ha.
dont take them on. everyone told me i wouldnt be able to breastfeed 2 babies exclusively to 6months. i was 3 weeks off, and that was my decision cos they seemed to be hungry after a feed and would cry. if someone tells me i cant do something, my eyes narrow, my teeth grit and in my head i say 'watch me' but i just smile and say something like'only time will tell'.
obviously there are days were you feel like this is to hard or i cant get through this. me and dp have had two episodes in the past 12 months were we could have walked away from each other cos we were knackered and just werent getting on, but you have to tough it out. it gets 10 times easier around 6months when you can achieve a routine. im just thinking- head down and get through it until baby is 6months!!!

cupoftea good luck for today! First baby, yipee!!!

What is it with these oct babies and their lack of movements..?! I spent 6 hours up in hospital last night as it had got to 6pm and I was aware that I hadn't felt her moving really all day. Called mw who told me to come up. Spent 2 hrs attached to heart and movement tracker. They were happy with her heartbeat, nothing of worry there but in that 2hrs, she moved only 3 times, def not what I'm used too! Spent nxt few hrs waiting on doctor coming up. She said that if her movements were dif from what I'm used to, then they take it serious and will look into it. She suggested keeping me in overnight to observe but wanted to speak with another doc first. So waited another few hours and someone else came along. He again said he was happy with the trace but not the movements. Said I could go home if I wanted and come back this morning for a scan where they will check growth, fluid and placenta. Said if I had been another week further on, then they could have started an induction but at 37+4, he still felt it a little early.

So, I'm just getting ready to head back up for scan. Hopfully everything is looking good, but she for sure isn't moving half as much as normal. Tried all the things that normally get a response, but nothing. Few friends have said it could be a sign things are about to get going, but who knows!!

Not had chance to read back thro all posts from yesterday, but will do when I'm waiting. You all know how hospital waiting times go

edward i would think you need much the same really.
the list again, to refresh my memory and as we are nearer:

for baby.
sleepsuits
vests
nappies
wetwipes
muslim squares
cotton balls (i use these for wiping the eyes with cooled boiled water)
scratch mittens
baby towel
cardigan
coat
hat+ mittens
formula and bottles if bottle feeding- or maybe hospital provides?

for you:
niightie
dressing gown
slippers
brush
shampoo
conditioner
shower gel
make up (if you cba)
towel
breast pads
maternity pads
knickers, bra, socks
going home clothes
food/snacks
mobile
magazines (ive never managed to find the time or concentrate enough)!!

have i forgot anything? my hospital provides blankets but you will want one or two for the car seat on the way home.

Yes it is nice to have a date set...but its not like a c-section because I won't definitely have LO on that day with induction...but its better than nothing :) Good luck Scherezade I'm routing for you! If baby doesn't turn round though ...you will be getting the date you wanted ...although not the natural labour! But again whatevers best for baby! And BB3 Yes I am heading for biggest baby but I am trying all methods possible to go into spontanious labour so babies not so big...consultant said it would be perfectly fine to have baby now! :) Not worked so far though!

Penelope I really have had an awful pregnancy mainly to do with not knowing the wellbeing of baby and countless scans and an amnio and MRI! So those were the parts I didnt like as well as being massive and not being able to sleep in the last couple of months! O and people asking if I know what I'm having after telling them for the millionth time Im keeping it a surprise?!

But the first time I saw the babies HB at the 9 week scan was amazing...the countless punchups my babies been having inside me and ..just knowing I'm going to be a mum is amazing! Im so excited cant wait!

sassy Loved your story about your little girl when you had the twins...It's so endearing...:) Children are so sweet! :) My mum said when she had my brother I was besotted by him...there is a 18 month age gap..I used to ask to feed his milkies haha! And I can't wait to have the emotional feeling after labour which everyone talks about..when you have your baby and you know you've created that life! I got all emotional reading your story honestly!

Really excited for cupoftea today! Hope everything goes really well!

groovyrach hope everything is ok. x

cupoftea thinking of you. x

Good luck today cupoftea! So exciting we are getting off to a good start on the babies.
Gro0vy: keeping fingers crossed for you - let us know how it goes
x
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