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"I'm a July baby.....GET ME OUTTA HERE!!!!"

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JimmyChoo17 · 14/07/2011 19:42

hi ladies fresh new thread in which hopefully we will ALL have our babies happy and healthy on the right side of our bellies by the time it comes round to a fresh new July new born thread :)

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BlueKangaroo22 · 21/07/2011 20:42

Hello guys. Purpleplump here, name changed. (Obviously!) I still can't believe my little one is here, was a bit teary at first etc, but am slowly getting used to the sleepless nights and having a baby in the house!
Birth was a little strange, I wouldn't quite call it traumatic but I have contacted the hospital I gave birth at to ask for a copy of my labour notes so I know exactly what went on etc, as I was so out of it on G&A that I really cannot remember most of it.

I had my DD at 10:40pm on Sunday night, during her birth, her hands were on either side of her face which I believe caused the third degree tear that I suffered, following her birth I was examined and informed that I had tore quite badly, and was given the injection required to help delivery of the placenta, they gave that some time to work and then tried to get it out...no joy, so okay they say, we will give that a bit longer to seperate then we will try again..a little while later they give it another go, no luck. A whole 2 hours I'm told go by before the placenta comes out, had a massive urge to push once more and out it popped, but they were literally giving it one more go before sending me downstairs to be put on a drip to get it out. All the while I am still huffing on G&A as I was still in pain, so placenta is out and I am taken to another room to have my tear examined by a doc, let me tell you she was NOT subtle and stuck her hand right in which caused me to yell 'get off!' so I was told to have 5 breaths of gas and air and she examined me again, I heard words to the effect of third degree tear and that it meant I'd tore down to the anus and that meant I might leak feacal (spelling?) matter or something like that (again, i was off my face on the gas and air so its really fuzzy) so I would have to be taken down to theatre to be stitched up under a spinal block.
Okay, I agree to this, the form is brought for me to sign, risks explained etc, so I was expecting to be took down almost immediately as obviously I am bleeding all over the bed. Some time later (half an hour?) they came by to tell me that they were sorry and there was a backlog in the theatre and they were going to get me down as soon as possible, both my partner and sis in law were still here at this point (both of them were my birth partners- greedy eh?) was lying there awake most of the night until they left at about 6am to get some well deserved sleep, I was helped by a nurse during the night to go to the toilet, leaking blood everywhere as I went, I remember repeatedly apologising for making a mess, I could barely move hence why I needed help, I had to get my SIL to change little ones first nappy as I couldn't stand unaided to do it myself, something i feel terrible for, fancy not being able to change my own baby's bottom!! So poor SIL was subjected to lots of nice sticky meconium!

Taken down to main delivery suite approx 9am the following day in preparation for being took to theatre to be stitched up, I was spoken to by surgeon about 10am, who apologised further for the delay and said I would be taken down to theatre at about 11:15, I am not sure what time I was finally taken down to theatre but I remember looking at the clock when they were finishing up and it was 12:30pm. so all in all I was left 'open' for at least 12 hours? Taken to postnatal ward and I was kept in for 4 days, when first visitors arrived I was just regaining feeling to my legs and had a catheter in which was lovely, but was not so lovely when the aforementioned catheter pipe came undone and I wet the bed, how embarrassing!! Had a moan to the midwife who came (after me repeatedly pressing the call button about 5 or 6 times) that as I felt I could be mobile I wanted it out and she said something to the effect of Ive only just came on shift Ill have to see what I can do, I apologised and just said it was embarrassing to have wet the bed like I had.

All in all, not fun, thats the gist of it as far as memory serves (I am worried about how much I cannot remember!)

Like I say I don't know whether you would call that traumatic but it certainly wasn't the best birth and certainly wasn't what I expected.

Sorry for the huge post!

Lynzilove · 21/07/2011 21:05

Ok bizarre question. Had had really major tightenings and pressure all day. They don't hurt as such but are realllly uncomfortable to the point i have to properly breath through them. Are these contractions?? My mate said 'you'll know as the first proper one I had floored me'. They've got progressively closer and more regular throughout the day but because I'm not screaming in pain I've kinda partially ignored them.

Any thoughts?

cara2244 · 21/07/2011 22:39

Bluekangaroo sorry to hear about your experience. MY friend had a baby in April

cara2244 · 21/07/2011 22:43

Bluekangaroo sorry to hear about your experience. MY friend had a baby in April and had a lot of gaps in what she remembered. She went back a few weeks later and talked to the midwifes and she said it helped to fill in the gaps.

Button, Hannah lost 12% after three days, despite feeding fantastically, but then at 5 and 7 days she had gained loads again and was back to birth weight by day ten. Once the milk is in he should start to really gain. You are right to do nothing but rest and feed ...harder at home of course but you'll end up back in hospital otherwise!

SpannerPants · 22/07/2011 00:20

bluekangaroo that sounds horrible, I think some kind of debrief would definitely help you understand what exactly happened.

I was the same on the gas and air, i really don't think I was competant to sign the consent form for the trial of forceps! I asked one of the midwives on the postnatal ward to explain why I had needed the forceps as I couldn't remember, and it was due to the baby being in possible distress which I had no idea about at the time - I thought it was just because I had been pushing for so long. I keep having sort of flashbacks to certain points of labour which isn't very pleasant, I'm not sure if this is normal or not though!

SpannerPants · 22/07/2011 00:21

Ps. I just had a dream in which jimmy had a baby boy and FAB's little girl had arrived, I guess mumsnet has truly invaded my mind!!

HighFibreDiet · 22/07/2011 01:38

bluekangaroo sorry about your experience, many hospitals have people specifically to debrief after birth experiences maybe you could find out if there's someone at your hosp who does that?

lynzilove sounds like you are in pre-labour, which is all good as it means your body is starting to get ready and your cervix might even be partly dilated - but prob not worth calling midwife/going to hospital until they are lasting 45 s or longer and coming pretty frequently.

I started having some irregular contractions last night and expect things to kick off properly either tonight or tomorrow. Lying in bed with a hot water bottle to my back as my coccyx is still pretty bruised. Ds3 is bringing me cups of 'tea' in his new Dora the Explorer teaset. Smile

BlueKangaroo22 · 22/07/2011 08:19

I recieved a response to my email this morning, they have told me to ring PALS so they can investigate what happened? Thats a start right?

SpannerPants · 22/07/2011 08:30

Definitely a start, hopefully they can arrange a debrief session with you.

For those of you who haven't seen Facebook Jimmy had her baby this morning, a little boy weighing 7lb13.

Henry was really well behaved overnight considering he spent 4 hours cluster feeding/fussing in the evening. I sent DP to bed early with earplugs because he was exhausted but he fed 3hrly overnight and only cried once during a nappy change so we all feel better today :) (and DP got 9hrs sleep!)

buttonmoon78 · 22/07/2011 09:02

Great news re Jimmy.

Spanner We had a bit of a more settled night too. S got a sticky eye now though. I keep trying to get some BM into it but he rarely opens his eyes so that's not working too well! I keep putting it on the outside in the hope that it'll seep in.

BlueK I'm sorry you had such a traumatic time. I really hope you can get some answers and that it doesn't cast too much of a shadow over the early days.

Cara thanks for the positivity! He's well and truly guzzling now - treats each feed as if it is the first for oh, at least 100 years!

Nic I'm glad you're happy with your decision. As you know, I was suffering from the same dilemma. I'm really surprised and relieved that (touch wood) it's working so far. I think that if I fail again (and there's still time...) for all my 'I won't get stressed out' bluster I know I'll be devastated really. So I think you've made a brave decision which is the right one for you - and that's what matters! Time will tell if I made the right one for me...

Enough of such maudlin thoughts. I've got a baby to snuggle don't cha know

nicolamumof3 · 22/07/2011 09:19

bluekangaroo, yes does sound traumatic to me def need a debrief i'd say there. It is all the having to wait for everything with the NHS which can make things which would otherwise be straightforward or not so bad so much worse. I hope you are feeling better now back in the comfort of your own home.

Well we had a truly 'newborn night' here. Isla feeding/changing/needing winding all night so barely any sleep! She is quite windy but that is because she's only taken very little formula so was just making up small bottles so hard for her not to end up taking in some air. But the good thing is she's feeding more.

Think she prefers carrycot to her cot, its more cosy, she slept in it three hours this morning as i brought her downstairs at 6am dh just feeding her now. Beautiful day today.

Fantastic news about Jimmy I bets she's soooo relieved thats over!

Button how are you hips? my pelvis feels almost 'bruised' suppose it will take a week or so to settle? Good for you with the feeding, I am sure you will get it you have the right approach definitely. I feel so much more confident whether i'll feel like that when dh leaves for work Tuesday morning I can't say!!

FlyMeToDunoon · 22/07/2011 11:37

Hello Nicola,
Congratulations!!!!
I have been lurking and waiting for that baby to arrive. So thrilled for you, I love the name but won't you have to change yours now Nicolamumof4?
xx

inbetweener · 22/07/2011 12:53

Congrats all you lucky* mums !!!!!!!! Envy

Please dont leave and start a new thread yet !! I am 40 + 2 today and still bloody here !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Strong braxton hicks all the time and the need to change my knickers 3 times a day becuase of gross yellow discharge Blush but thats it for symptoms !! I dont think he's ever going to leave !!!!!!!!!!!!!
In typical my crap hospital style I dont even have a MW appt book till I am 41 weeks so no chance of getting things moving ! Mind you I havent been since I was 35 weeks as you know so why am I fucking surprised Angry

Glad Jimmy has popped and sooooooooooo jealous fo you all !! The girls break up today too and I cant help feeling anxious about it as Im crap at entertainuing at the mo !

nicolamumof3 · 22/07/2011 13:26

hi Dunoon, if you go onto facebook theres lots of piccies! Hope you are well xx

FlyMeToDunoon · 22/07/2011 13:52

I did. Have commented. I am fine thanks.

Eglu · 22/07/2011 15:49

Nicola glad you have felt able to make a choice that suits you and will reduce your stress. Hope that doesn't sound patronising.

Blue your experience is very similar to my first birth, including the catheter detaching. You have my sympathies, I hope you get some answers.

I had a visit from the hv this morning and DD is doing really well. I also ordered some new nursing bras, spent about £100. I don't plan on keeping them all but want to try different styles.

cara2244 · 22/07/2011 16:48

OK time is going too fast - I put Hannah in a dress instead of a babygro today! Sadly the look was spoilt by the car socks! They were all I had.
Inbetweener hope things start soon for you. I was useless at the end of my pregnancy and I only got to 36 weeks! I played with my two year old for a couple of hours today and it felt like the first time in months.

cara2244 · 22/07/2011 16:51

Button, get some oats down your neck! They're meant to be really good for breastfeeding. With my son I craved porridge every day while I was feeding, this time its flapjacks. None in the house tho so I just ate a whole big green and blacks instead! (Puts away size 12 clothes for another six months)

Eglu · 22/07/2011 17:14

Ooh oats. Sounds good I am permanently hungry atm.

Want2bSupermum · 23/07/2011 13:01

Things are super busy this end. I have not had time to read all the posts but congrats on the new additions and some of the hospital treatment sounds shoddy (bluekangeroo - I would def follow up).

Anna gained way too much weight last week so the dr has had us space feedings. It was 110F yesterday and 89F when I took her for a walk at 5.30am this morning. Poor girl couldn't settle after her feed and DH has to study today. My recovery from CS is going very well now. I did the cleaning yesterday and washed the dog.

buttonmoon78 · 23/07/2011 19:08

Cara porridge every morning Grin

MW came today and... 3oz on! I'm so pleased as it's the first time I've managed to get some weight onto a dc before 10-14days. Felt like superwoman all day Smile

Also (and please bear in mind I was overweight to begin) when I weighed myself this morning I've only got 8lbs to go to pre pg weight. That's pretty par for the course for me as I don't put on much other than baby, but made me happy all the same. TBF it's the only time ever that I don't put weight on far too easily!

Lynzilove · 24/07/2011 07:54

Morning all, I'd like to announce the birth of Jayden Thomas as 22.20 on 22 July weighing in at 8lb 8oz!

Went in for a pool birth, nearly got it then the dreaded meconium struck, was strapped to a bed in monitors, I hated the gas and air (wet to 4cm with no pain relief) and decided on an epidural - which I surprised myself with as previously had been dead against, however items always down to the immobility, which I was anyway due to monitors.

It was amazing-would definitely recommend! Did te next 6cm in 4hrs and and hour and half of pushing and he was out. Did have a small amount of help with a kiwi ventouse to get him round the 'u bend' but it was fairly minimal.
Unfortunately suffered a tear and had stitches so feeling battered and bruised at the moment but actually rather enjoyed the labour experience which Is a real surprise as it was the opposite to what I originally 'wanted' ALL HAIL THE OPEN MIND!!

Hospital were amazing in aftercare and subsequently was home for 10 last night. Now the fun begins!

nicolamumof3 · 24/07/2011 08:04

congrats lynzilove! Its esssential to go in with an open mind i've found!! I was devastated to not get my epidural this time, but then fortunate i suppose for a quick birth with no tear/stitches. Tho it bloody well hurt, and I was scared to push through the pain this time.

Anything is worth it though once they are here.

New mummies all sound as if we're recovering well which is great. Who's still waiting then?? Feel like this is fast turning into postnatal thread now.

We've had two great nights with Isla. She woke once at 3am last night and the night before slept through. So feel not too bad at all.

The boys however are more draining. Am lining up lots of playdates and childcare for the holidays. Dh has today and tomorrow then back to work. Isla will only be 6 days old.

inbetweener · 24/07/2011 09:56

Waves at everyone !!!!!!!! ME !! I'm still waiting at 40 + 4 and no MW booked till thursday !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats to lynzi sounds like a great experience and yes the open mind approach does work.
nicola eeeeeeeeek to DH going back to work. I kwym about the younger kids being hard work. I can barely walk and am a right grumpy mare so we are barely going aanywhere and they are soooooooooo bored ! Luckily mine are 7 and 8 and can sort of entertain themselves but for how much longer I dont know !

Well, nothing seems to be happening here Sad. Im utterly confused. Had a hot curry and dtd last night, quite energetically too lol Blush but still nothing !!!!!!!!! Strong BH pains and period type back ache but ive had that for a fortnight now !!!!! Am getting loads of yrllow discharge but again have had that for a fortnight !! WHY IS NOTHING HAPPENING !!!!!!!!!! I have never been this pg !!!!!!!

I just want to see what my boy looks like Sad and be able to walk, turn over, and be comfy........................

buttonmoon78 · 24/07/2011 14:00

A good night here too - S went to sleep in his basket just before we went to bed, woke at 1.30, 4 and 7, so not bad at all.

BF getting easier all the time, nipples not sore at all now, which is a relief Grin

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