Jue in June 2011....... labour here we come!!!!!

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New thread. Should last us a week.

LOL @ NoToast. Remember, they will have seen a LOT worse! A LOT! Oh the tales I could tell about being out in the community and visiting patient's houses (were I not bound by confidentiality laws!). Believe me I would have welcomed a hippy Adam's family with open arms

bugger the boiler has broken.....no heating or hot water. why do these things happen when DH is away for the night. Hope Flo will be warm enough until its fixed........

Oh no what a PITA Moomin :( Plenty of blankets and hot water bottles and she'll be fine :)

BP I am also planning on having baby sleep in the moses basket next to the bed so that when she wakes up in the night it will be easier to get to her! Im just worried that she will grow out of it too soon as her cousin did and then we wont be able to fit the cot in our bedroom and she would have to have her own room then :(

I had a letter through saying that my health visitor isnt coming until after the birth which is a good thing coz I dont want someone coming round my house poking their nose in before she arrives! Dont see the point in that!

My home visit was a home assessment to make sure I have everything in place for when the baby comes home from the hospital as i'm too scared to contemplate having a home birth!

Thanks for the link neenewps, have just done it (hangs head in shame at the fact I forgot about doing it the minute I posted my last message . . . . I have no hope in an exam!)

BP Both mine were in moses baskets next to us and this one will be as well. I have a sneaky suspicion that this one will be with us for much longer in the room as it's our last one.

Now to do a birth plan . . . . . .

Nursesunshine and anyone else thinking about co-sleeping, [[http://www.babyfriendly.org.uk/pdfs/sharingbedleaflet.pdf
here]] is the Unicef advice on doing it safely:

And here is a good book on the subject.

Sorry bad link for the Unicef/FSID leaflet - here it is again

All this talk of moses baskets next to beds is reminding me what my NCT teacher said last week. The recommendation is that the baby sleeps in your room for the first 6 months as this can help reduce the risk of SIDS and other baby deaths, however all the research is based on co-sleeping couples. BUT the risk of SIDS and baby death while sleeping is increased over sleeping alone if either of the parents drinks, smokes or takes drugs or has a condition which makes them unresponsive while sleeping. So because the guideline needs to be easy to understand because we are all stupid, they say the baby should be in your room, but not your bed. There is however NO EVIDENCE that this is any safer than the baby being in it's own room. So there we go.

Also on Health visitors...if they try ans tick their nose in and tell me what to do they will get the sharp edge of my tongue! And if they want to report me to the social then they can, they aren't going to take my baby into care just because some unreasonable old bat says i'm not doing what she says! Even if they come round they will see a nice house, two loving parents and a happy (hopefully), healthy (fingers crossed) baby...maybe then they will tell the HV off for wasting their already over stretched time!

Can you tell i'm feeling belligerent this evening - sorry I think it's past my bedtime :o

Neen thanks for the link - looks like a good deal, think I'll go for it!

What is everyone else's (non first-timers) experience with TENS? Any use?

Moomin sorry to hear about boiler - hope it's sorted soon. Warm evening here though, hope it is with you.

knackered and crazy, how long do you think it takes to outgrow the moses? I hadn't really thought about that pitfall... do you think by the time she's outgrown it it'll be time to put her next door in the cot? Will she be ready to sleep by herself by then? I know so little it's scary!

Fingers crossed for you Moomin that it stays mild.

I, too, am curious about tens machines. Have been thinking about hiring one from boots, but didn't want to make a chump of myself by booking it too early. Am somewhere about 34w now, so will look into it.

BP - my DD was a but squashed in her Moses at 4 months, iirc. But it is a fairly titchy basket. My neighbours son stayed happily in his for 6

Argh, bloody phone. I shall continue...

My neighbour's son stayed happily in his for 6 months. I was a bit jealous.

Not sure that was really worth continuing - I'd kind of finished anyway!

BP I used tens with DS2 & it was helpful. I think it helps you feel in control as you have something to use against the pains, same as entonox.

I would recommend it especially for earlier stages.

bp it depends on the size of your basket and baby as to how long they stay in it for! My dp's nephew had grown out of his by 4 months but then again he is a big baby!

Thanks for those links Sasa, I'm going to have to compile a good list of evidence for co-sleeping as my mum's against, probably because of being told things by HVs that aren't actually evidence based like Joanne said!

Morning all :)

Hope your house felt warm enough moomin

My iPhone babybump ap says I have 15days til due date... Maybe that's why I have lost all desire to work? I have 1 new client consultation this morning but I really CBAd! Not so much with the work but I am finding it hard to motivate myself to style my hair, put on full make up & dress smart...wow I really am sounding a bit slovenly now but TBH I just want to stay in my tracksuit these days & that's if I am actually up & about. My power naps are definitely getting longer & more frequent too!

Just noticed only space for 8 more messages on the thread. I would do the honours if I could think of a title?!

No debrief after birth for me kara which was probably my fault for not asking? I was just so startled with midwives and everyone telling me how lucky I was for having such a quick birth, and congratulating me for how well i did it(!) when it was nothing to do with me, I was just lead on a bed and the synto drip forced the contractions and forced baby out before my body was dilated and ready. It took twice as long to stitch me up than my whole labour took and I was separated from my new baby during this time whilst I was in theatre.

Hmm, might be a bit late to consider this but I'm starting to wonder if a homebirth is a possibility for me. I hadn't even entertained the idea as induction last time was for high blood pressure/PE and I was aware of the risks and thought it was told it was very likely to reoccur in this pregnancy. BUT throughout this pg I have been taking daily aspirin to thin my blood and I'm 36 weeks on Friday and have had not a hint oif blood pressure problems so far. Although thinking about the thinner blood this might put me as risk of bleeding after birth. I might raise it with the hospital midwife on Monday although maybe I should have thought aboutthis a lot earlier.

I'm another one with a broken boiler since sunday moomin It's not been so bad for us as really just means I have to boil a few kettles to do some washing up, and we have an electric shower. But DS is scared of the shower and could really do with a full bath soon so hoping it gets fixed asap. Hope Florence had a nice warm night snuggled up with plenty of balnkets

crumbletastic the stitches sound awful
How can you have no boiler? What if you go into labour and need boiling water and torn up sheets?

Glad Florence is doing so well Moomin - and you too

I gave myself a bloomin pile last night, through constipation - so angry with myself as it's so close to due date - what are the chances of the whole area settling down again in time???

Moomin - hey glad to hear Flo is doing so well! Sorry about the boiler, hope it gets sorted as soon as possible! Can you borrow some kettles from the neighbours to get some extra hot water in the mean time?

I am pretty sure I didn't hear from a HV until I had been signed off by the MWs when I had DS! That seems to be the way of things around here.

MrsNoggins - how bloody rude that MW was! You should have told her you were going to feed the baby condensed milk and leave her to sleep in a drawer downstairs

SIDS research - I am keeping baby in our room as long as possible, just because it is bloody convenient when baby is waking up 2-3 times a night. We moved DS into his own room when he was 7months and I wish we hadn't bothered as he was still waking up 2-3 times a night! We are having a co-sleeper so I can reach over and bring the baby to me for a feed more easily than if she was in a Moses basket.

My cot mattress has arrived and it is great, have just put it in the cot and fits perfectly with out mattress, woohoo!!

I managed to catch up late last night when I wasn't sleeping (?? I was certainly tired enough), but wasn't lying in the best position to type. Now it's morning and I'm exhausted from lack of sleep and can't remember most of what I read.

Had my MW appt yest and all is well. Mine and LO's heart rates good. LO is head down (though not engaged yet) with it's little bum under my ribs (it got poked ), bloods all okay, even my iron count!! And I asked about a Home birth Now just waiting for someone to ring and make an appt for a home visit to carry out a risk assessment of the house and talk DH into it through things. Am feeling very pleased with myself.

I can see in front of me Sasa's pile. Hope it settles down for you. Sorry I have no words of wisdom in that area.

I think I started a new thread called "June Just around the corner now..." just trying to figure out how to post the link, can anyone help?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1212055-June-Just-around-the-corner-now

Hi ladies, sorry for not replying sooner. Thanks for all your comments. I had another bad day yesterday and felt like I was pulling my hair out but I decided to take the kids to the park at 4pm rather than wash and tidy up before dinner and we all had a lovely time so I think I'll be doing that more often :) sounds simple I know but I always feel bad when DP has to come home to a messy kitchen but there wasn't alot of mess and at least we were all happy :)

TENS - Highly recommend it. I bought mine with my first DC so this'll be the third time I've used it so I'll definitely have had my money's worth (£69 I think 4 years ago). It's gotten me through 90% of both my labours so I've only needed entinox for the last half hour. The boost button is great, I think I had it on continuous boost whilst waiting for the ambulance with DD (she was nearly crowning and no midwives were available for home birth, was a popular night for babies!).

HOME BIRTH - I've probably said it quite a few times but it's much easier to book in for a home birth and then go in if you need/want to but if you're not booked in and you decide mid labour that you want to stay at home then that's not so easy so to anyone thinking about it - speak to your midwife, get booked in if you can and then forget about it and just see how the day goes.

MOSES BASKETS - My DS was in it for about 7 months and DD 6 months but only because she started turning over and trying to look over the edge.

Moomin - really pleased Florence is doing so well.

Hope you all have a nice day, DD spends wednesdays at her nan's so I can take DS swimming and spend some good one to one time with him :) xxx

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Thanks Petitech