Jue in June 2011....... labour here we come!!!!!

[Jer79]

New thread. Should last us a week.

Hi, I've had really really bad reflux to point of waking up in night to be sick and the midwife said I could take Zantac... I've heard that chewing gum after eating helps too

Oh thanks Petitech (and welcome back BTW) I'll have a look into that tomorrow.

Have you tried peppermint tea confessions? Or gulping really, really ice cold water?

For heartburn/reflux I've eaten about 60 packs of Love Hearts at sasamaxx's suggestion, and they work :)

Really glad it went well nurse. If it's any hope my dad was a million times better dad than he would have been if my mum had stayed with him. It really made him step up and appreciate the time he did have with us. When your XP falls in love with Jasmine I really hope/bet it'll be the same for you :)

Now, I know this will probably out me in real life, if anyone I know is hovering round here....but guess what?!

I won a years supply of Huggies nappies today! £350 in vouchers heading my way! Good timing or what?!

OMG Almightcitrus what a massive prize!!

Glad the love hearts are still working for you TTL - I really need to get some as my hb is def getting worse.

Oh no 8rubberduckies - you too. So depressing that we are fit and healthy but still feel like this lol

Did anyone see the breastfeeding programme tonight? It was quite good, and has convinced me to donate milk to SCBUs this time around. It never occurred to me before but I didn't realise how difficult it sometimes is to get milk for the poor babas in there

Just wanted to share my supermarket experience with you all! I live in Eastern Europe and was in the local supermarket stocking up on chocolate buying some fresh fruit and veggies when I woman came over to me, she spoke perfect English with a very English accent.

She said 'you might have paid for it, but that is still my baby you are carrying' and off she ran.......I was so shocked, and I feel like something out of a fairy tale - is my baby going to fall asleep for 100 years!?

Jimper how weird.

Almighty that's great.

petitech thanks - would be really useful if I lived somewhere it wasn't banned here

ALmighty - woohoo, lucky you

Jimper she must must have been a fruit loop!

Hope everyone is well.

Can't believe I have less than 8 weeks to go...

Almighty wow, thats fantastic.

Jimper mwa ah ahhhh...creepy

Ive woken up this morning with the Duran Duran record 'The Reflex' going round in my head, except all I can hear is 'The Reflux' . Sorry to hear others have this too, its horrible trying to have a good burp and finding lunch coming out of your nose instead.

I'm on the verge of having another skype row with my DH. He's now saying he is planning to come back at the end of May 'because that leaves 2 weeks before the baby'. I then said perfectly calmly that I would like to engage the services of a private midwife or doula to be a birth companion at the hosp because I need someone there who knows what is going to happen, knows my birth plan and why it contains the things it does and I can trust to make decisions on my behalf that have been discussed and agreed beforehand. If hes not going to be around for any antenatal preparation then thats not something I'm going to make an issue of but he needs to understand that I have to have someone with me who I can totally trust. Of course he will be there too. I also need to be prepared with assistance if bump decides not to wait until the end of May to appear. He's gone off at the deep end and is now refusing to talk to me. Not sure how to play this...AIBU?

Jasmine I don't really know the background of you and DH being apart...but I know how you feel.....

I will be coming back to the UK 5 weeks before my due date and because of work DH will only be able to come when he gets the 'I need to push' call.....my biggest fear is that he won't make it :(

From my personal experience DHs are not the best people to have by your side. Its obviously good to have them there as well but having someone who has been there done that (in my case my mum) is really useful. DH just was clueless and very scared (well DS was premmie but still...).

Jimper has your DH got to get from Eastern Europe? thats tough. Have you discussed any other options? Mine is in the UAE and realistically it would take 48/72 hours to get here in an emergency hence we need to get him here when we can...even if that means he is sitting around being grumpy about not earning money for a few weeks. I might be more sensitive about our situation than most because he had 2 DC about 20 years ago when he was in the army, took no interest in them and has never even met the younger one. This obviously makes me a bit paranoid that history will repeat itself.

Jasmine - yeah, unfortunately his work is not very flexible...he is a teacher and breaks up on 17th June....but baby is due on 12th...if she comes early he will have to rush back for a week (they will only give him a week) and then go back and then come back (if you see what I mean!?).

I know he won't make it :( unless I have the world's longest lab....and I DON'T want that!

Jimper well, thats bad planning isnt it...didnt you consider that when you conceived...fancy not fitting it around school holidays..... You have my real sympathy. Gaffa tape or a cork seems to be the only answer. My builders here are eastern european. I have confused them a few times because I know a few words of Slovak/Czech and asked them if they wanted a beer with their lunch. They are now being very wary about talking in my vicinity in case I undertsand what they are saying!

Can I just mention that I am eating smoked salmon for my breakfast...get me being all posh! I'm experimenting to see if a more protein rich breakfast eases the sickness at all..dont tell the DH what I'm spending his hard earned money on!

Thanks a million all, I know - I am so fed up over the care to be honest. . Am in the process of writing another one of my hormone induced an angry letter.

Nurse so delighted to hear that talk with X went well, he sounds like hes going to behave as he should.

Almighty Wow well done!!! lovely timing is right. Really pleased for you.

Sasamaxx, was looking forward to watching the programme and then realised we dont have BBC3!!!

Petitech I remember you well, actually, I was on the stats list for June yesterday and seen your name and thought "I wonder where Petitech is gone to?". So delighted you enjoyed the scan!! am excited now. Did you see loads?

Sorry to everyone whos having worries about DHs making the birth.

33 weeks today .

Jas and Jimper I'm sorry to hear about your travelling husband woes (that could be the name of a band :)) Jas I do not think you are being unreasonable. If he wants to be there as your main supporter then he needs to commit to being there! He can't expect you to risk going through all that alone, that would be unreasonable of him. Stick to your guns on this one my love you are right...and if he doesn't like it get him to log on here and we will all tell him what we think! :o Jimper maybe you and DH should consider a fake call if you haven't started before the 12th? that way he would be there a week early and wouldn't have to go back.
I'm hoping my DH is okay at being firm with all the decisions. He isn't normally not good at deciding things under pressure so I think we will need a lot of preperation before hand, maybe that's one reason for having a very detailed birth plan? How do you think we should handle it if you've done it before?

Thank you 8RDs for the peppermint tea advice. I had one before I went to bed last night and haven't had any reflux since. Will try it again the next time I get a bout of it and will report back if it still helps. TLL I have no idea what love hearts are, but assume I can find them on any good lolly aisle.

Jimper that is the weirdest thing to have happen! Crazy lady (her not you). And boo about the timing of DH finishing work and LO being due. Maybe you'll go over enough for DH to get home (that's the first time I've ever wished someone will go late with their baby!).
And Jas I second you putting DH on here to us. We'll kick him in the arse sort him out.

I'm already ready for my second nap of the day. I fear it is going to be a long day.

Barbie The wonders of teh interwebs

Jasmine I don't think yabu, what does he expect? Is it the cost perhaps? (doula would be cheaper than private MW I think?) Or is his male pride dented somewhat? Unfortunately he's just going to have to get over that because it is YOU who's going to have to go through this birth and the prospect of doing that either alone, or with a totally unprepared DP is very scary. And like you said, as we know, babies come early sometimes! Whatever the circumstances are, you need someone you feel you can trust to make decisions and advocate for you so stand your ground!
RE heartburn, I always have cereal for breakfast as the milk helps. Or have a glass of milk with your breakfast. I'm not sure if protein rich foods would make a difference, though I find that carby things do, so I try to avoid bread.

Jimper at that weird woman. Sorry about your DH as well. If he didn't make it would you have someone else there with you? Mum, sister, friend etc? Or could you do what joanne suggested and fake an emergency? Something like, you've been taken into hospital "for observations" or something. Sounds vague, yet doesn't really encourage any further questioning.

Joanne I LIKE the fake call idea.....although knowing my luck it will still be 10 days after that! I do have my Mum there as a very capable alternative but being without DH just seems so wrong :(

jimper I know it is very controversial and I dont wish to start an argument...in fact I'm not going to indicate in any way whether I am for or against this...but elective inductions are possible. The area I live in has a large RAF base with obvious time restrictions on DHs being on leave. Elective inductions are arranged quite often. I was offered one but an early delivery is not the issue with me, tis the other way round so I didnt have to make that decision.

Jasmine hopefully DH will have calmed down today and realised that you are DNBU.

Jimper hopefully for you you'll be one of the ones who goes 10 days over or something - when are you heading home anyway - must be soon?

Peppermint tea - now that is something I can try.

jasmine I'm sorry you are not speaking to your DH. I don't really know what to suggest as I'm rubbish at these sorts of things. What I do know is that you definitely need someone with you for support and so therefore I don't think YABU.

nurse Really pleased that your ex is being reasonable and you have managed to sort a few things out. Must be such a relief for you to have that sorted out.

confessions I'm with you on the napping thing. I'm so exhausted all the time!

jimper I defo think the fake call idea is a good one. Fingers crossed everything works out for you.

petitech welcome back :)

barbie defo write the letter while you are feeling hormonal up to it!

I managed to get the maxi-cosi cover off. So it is all washed and dry and has been fitted back onto the shell. Wasn't that difficult in the end. If anyone else is struggling I will try and point you in the right direction.

I'm off to reupholster a chair now... wish me luck!!!

Just a quick one as I've got to run. (When I say run, I mean hobble, since my fanjo, my lower back and the inside of my thighs all appear to be broken.)

Just thought that it might be, jasmine, that your DH is upset because he's not wanting to miss out on this baby after what happened with his first two. I'd be reassured rather than worried by his reaction - after all, he is pissed off because he actually wants to be there (rather than because he doesn't). YADNBU though, and he definitely needs to realise you've got to do whatever makes you comfortable, and put yourself and the baby first. But I reckon at the root of it all are some good intentions :)

Merlion I am heading back in just over a week - if I wasn't so terrified about travelling, I would be really excited! Luckil DH is depositing me back to the UK so I won't be making the journey alone.

neenewps good luck with the chair!

Now, can someone please yell at me - it is parent conference day at school today so all I have done is sit down all day, say a few nice things about some really spoilt kids and eat, eat and eat. :)