May 2011 - The Home Stretch!

[sesamesmith]

Old thread here: The Rosy Glow Before the Storm

Stats thread here: Due May 2011

And on the bright side i have avoided an April Fool birth which was a distinct possibility this morning!

Dontworrybaby - thanks for the tip about the maternity pads. I only bought 3 packs thinking that'd be enough!

I bought my cot mattresses from a website called something like babymattressesonline - seemed reasonable prices and has lots of options in each size/shape

Brillo - I noticed that amazon also have labour tens machines for £30 + £5 p&p since I was also frustrated at Lloyds being out of stock at the moment

Jbells and qwerty - I hope things improve. I had a real meltdown last night but luckily today was a better day. Hope it works like that for your birthday especially

dontworrybaby - thanks for your advice... instead of sitting of the sofa waiting for something good to happen and feeling miserable, I took my son to the park on his bike and had a wander and then went for fish and chips, and baby / bump definitely relaxed.... tightenings back to normal.

jbells - it sounds like we are in similar positions. Things are terrible with me and DH, but that is a whole other thread. He is a bit of a Jekyll / Hyde character and at the moment the evil one is out to play. He makes comments like he wants to leave but isn't as "what would my friends say" about him leaving his wife 8 months pregnant. Nice. I know it is his way of dealing with tough situations (he also has other stuff going on) - he does this whole wanting to throw everything away thing until he feels better. And luckily a friend gave me similar advice to Stripey - not to make any rash decisions, as my instinct wants to force his hand and make him either leave if that is really what he wants to do OR admit he is being a knob and he doesn't want to leave but is saying hurtful things in the context of what he thinks is an argument. Sheesh it is a very complicated issue with him, I couldn't get into it all on our lovely ante-natal thread! Thanks for the thoughts, Stripey
I am normally very resilient to stress but at the moment I feel like I am the character on some sort of weird video game, where stress is being thrown at them from every angle!!! It is 3:30am here and when I wake up for this early morning loo trip I can't go back to sleep :(
Jbells, I am truly sorry you are going through this too, it is so hard to deal with, especially at this stage of a pregnancy. But I 2nd Stripey's advice. Let's both try and focus on the baby, allow ourselves to get excited by it, start preparing for it and perhaps make OHs know that we are getting on with it, and it is up to them whether they can jump in and enjoy the journey with us or not. You are welcome to PM me if you want to share with someone who is not in RL but will understand..... take care of yourself too xxxx

And the group hug was very needed, Loopy! :D
My friend gave me big hug the other day and it was the best therapy!
Hope things at home improve for you too...

vicbic, welcome back and good luck. I am being closely watched for pre-eclampsia too, I have to keep reminding myself to drink water to help.... it is good you are being monitored so closely.

Icanonlytry - do you really drink that much water?!?! WOW!!!! I would imagine your baby has the roomiest delux double suite in the hotel ;)
Can only be a good thing, I would imagine?

yes, I agree that too many people are judgey about sizes of bumps and can make you feel crap for various reasons with their comments. I was asked if I was expecting twins at 22 weeks or so - WTF?!?!? It made me feel awful, and then I "measured" 1 week less that I was at the next appt!

OK ladies, my positive message to myself and all or us going through crap for the day is keep your eyes on the prize!

Have good weekends...

Yes I am really drinking 15 pints of water a day I have to carry 2 bottles of water around with me everywhere and keep filling them up whenever I get the chance as it is just an uncontrollable thirst and if I dont keep drinking i start getting really bad headache and feeling faint. have mentioned it to my midwife a few times (have had the constant thirst since about 6 weeks although was not drinking as much until a few weeks ago) and she said it wouldn't do me any harm but only to drink if I was thirsty not just constantly.
Hoping this is the cause if I am carrying too much water. Have been tested for gestational diabetes due to family history but the results came back fine. I like the idea of the double delux suite qwerty
VicBic my cousin was admitted at 33 weeks with pre-eclampsia and delivered her baby at 37 weeks. Mum and baby were both fine. Each day you can hold on is a huge bonus, you are in the right place

Sorry to hear those that are having relationship problems, luckily we are fine this time but when I was having DD we were in an awful place too thinking of you all and hope things improve.

Icanonlytry - morning.
I just wanted to say that your water intake is massive, i once, and this is very odd, became addicted to water. Was drinking about the same as you, ended up in hospital for a week. I used to get alot of kidney infections and i suppose i drank the water in a bid to flush it all out.
Anyway, it is possible to drown if you drink too much water repeatedly. Please be careful.

Thanks everyone.

Qwerty thanks when i get a chance i will message u. Dp has sed similar to me that tje only reaons hes not leaving is for dd and a baby on the way and like u im tempted to push his hand to just go if thats wot he wants. But then the thought of dd at 24 months and a new born and being newly single petrifies me. Not sure which situation will b the most damaging if u know wot i mean :(

well its my bday and im feeling very sorry for myself no hug or kiss for me thougjt he may hav made the effort today. Will try and snap out of it and enjoy the day the best i can

loopy i hope things improve for u to. Group hugs def needed

ican. Do u hav bad water retention and mayb thats y u r drinking so much

vibic. Goodluck i hope that they r looking after u well and your ok

sorry if ive missed anyone im on my fone in bed cheering myself up with a bit of mn :)

Jbells Happy Birthday! Sorry your day has got off to a bad start. Can you ignore DP and go out and do something fun either with DD or friends/family? Something that will get you out of the house with people that will be birthdayish with you...

Thanks rollercoaster. Going round to my mums later so that will help :)

Labella, what were you admitted to hospital for? I havent noticed water retention, no swollen ankles or anything, I will try and ease off the water a bit, but would rather drink too much than pass out, which is how I feel when I dont drink.

JBells, Happy Birthday. can you take DD out somewhere, for a walk round the park, cinema or something, Will probably help to just get out of the house for a while, I always feel down on my birthday but for no apparent reason and I always find getting out of the house helps..

kiwigirl hmm, has the TENS machine @ Lloyds pharmacy been out of stock for a while then? Their site is not v. helpful- allowing you to Click "BUY" before telling you that it's out of stock

jbells birthday wishes from me too x

we had a bit of stress here last night, DH flipped from his usual "do what you want it's your pregnancy" to saying that he doesn't want to get the Bugaboo pram- because we wouldn't have been able to afford it by ourselves/ even consider it; that the cold, hard cash my parents are putting towards it would be better for us (that's not the offer they're making!) & said that I must have been going on about how amazing the Bugaboo is & that I really want one to my mum for her to offer half of the money
Just because I'm the one who's pregnant it seems to make me the expert on all things baby-related, but I know as much as him about it all!!!

Thanks everyone

Happy birthday

Icanonlytry - i was admitted to hospital as i kept passing out because of too much water! I may well have been an extreme case. It's something about electrolytes getting flushed out of the system, here's a article about it:
chemistry.about.com/cs/5/f/blwaterintox.htm

jbells happy birthday! . Can you have the, 'our relationship is on hold, but you need to be kind to me as I will always be the mother of your children...' conversation? You are both under stress, but he needs to grow up and at least support you as best he can.

Wow I dont come on in 2 days you theres a lot to catch up on!

Loopy: I did know but not making enough of an effort to, I fidget too much and thetop strap pops up over my boobs to strangle me every now and again but glad I had it on as would not like to have hit the wheel. I hope your DDs performance goes well tomorrow.

Brillo: I really like that bag and samsonite are always good quality so well worth it. The Lloyds TENs I spoke to the lady in our local store who was really helpful and said she would give me a call when it came on but everytime they have ordered it to come in it doesnt arrive on there delivery.

pistachio I 'liked' and I think its gorgeous! Its winning as well so fingers crossed for you.

JBells Happy birhday! I hope your doing something nice today or at least relaxing. Sorry your having a rubbish time with your relationship. I think strippeys words where great.

Vicbic I hope things are going as well as they can for you, must be very scary and I can only offer support and company not advise as I have never had any experience of it.

QwertyQueen Thats my fave saying and had it on a post-it on my desk!
Sounds like a horrid situation with him and what a thing to say! I got shouted at for making DH look like a 'knob' infront of his mate yesterday when he commented how did I have so much paint on me when DH was clean and I said its because he has not been near the nursery or paint all week!
Not sleeping doesnt help either, I was up at 3.30am and then back to bed at 5am this morning and I just dont know what to do to make it better except punch the next person who says 'if your struggling now you will have no chance with a newborn'.

Labella I remember that now from a scary one day thing I went on as a 'waward' teenager that people more people die from drinking too much water when taking ectasy and other stimulant drugs that the drugs them selves as they make you so thirsty that your brain swells. IcanonlyTry thats not to scare you at all but a facty to share as they where talking about even more than that. I understand what you mean tho as I have been feeling constantly thirsty and somehow more confident when I have a drink handy from the rubbish MS days when I would stress out if I didnt have one to hand, think I have about 9 or 10 pints a day.

Not sure what to do with myself at the moment, I dont want to go for a walk as woddling is doing my head in and put off the car so will have a look online for some 'essential' baby cuteness!

Bugger - cannot get used to this new phone and just lost my post twice.so will keep this short. happy birthday jbells - hope it was a relaxing day in the end?
Thanks for.your.thoughts Cowboylover - much appreciated! All the nice messages made me.have a little.cry earlier (in a.good way!)
Loopy - yep still pregnant! BP went.sky high again today so they have upped my meds and increased the frequency of obs, but apparently the baby isn't stressed so they are just going to attempt to keep her on the inside for as long as possible - realistically every day is a bonus at the mo!
Hope all are well and that the increase in traumatic situations isn't a lasting trend!

Thanks for all your kind words today. Thankfully my mood and the day did improve. I will take on all your advice i think the most i can hope for at the moment is hopefully for me and dp to be civil and considerate of one another and hopefully once this little man is born and the sleep deprivation stops we can build on that ( fingers crossed)

Well i hope everyone has a lovely mothers day and gets to put there feet up and relax tomoro x

Loopy I hope she enjoys it, we are a friendly bunch!

Vicbic Good news and they all want the same as you do so I hope she stays put for you!

So as you maybe able to tell the sleeping thing not going so well again tonight, DH is flat out sleeping next to me, bump is practicing some serious Kung fo moves between braxtons so I am thinking do I stick it out here, going down stairs to get another book as finished Harry potter 3 or finish glossing the skirting boards in the nursery!

Hello Ladies... name changed from Chefswife. Hope all is well. I was on the initial thread but fell off as the timing was off with other things going on in my life and keeping up to date with ante-natal thread.

It is the home stretch and boy, do I feel stretched, my belly that is. Otherwise, pretty uneventful pregnancy, again. Good thing. I'll keep popping in and keep up with you all from here.

Have a great Sunday.

Hi all,

Sorry for not popping in more often - I honestly don't know where the time is going.

Sad to see so many of you having relationship issues and hope that your LO's bring you closer together.

Vicbic I spent a few days in hospital 2 weeks ago with high BP so sympathise with the worry and the lack of sleep on the ward. Luckily mine came down again - try not to worry and count every day as a blessing that your LO is getting bigger and stronger. Have they given you steroids to mature LO's lungs?

Loopy I too have been up for a few hours - is this it now for sleep?

Well I have less than 4 weeks to go until the twins will be here which is little scary and will try and keep up with you all better between now and then!

Happy Mother's Day to those of you with DC already. Hope you are treated suitably special today with actually should probably be ! :)

It's not mother's day in France, so I have to be very, very organised to remember to get a card etc a few weeks before, without having the reminders in my local shops. I think I should make celebrating mother's day in France - it's on 29th May, and I'm due on 20th May (and here our due date is 41 weeks not 40 weeks - if I was in UK I would be due on Friday 13th :o) so I doubt I will be more than a week after that.

I would like to know why my mother hasn't thanked me for her flowers yet that should have arrived on Friday.

I'll come back later to catch up on all your posts and write some personal messages. :)