feb 2011 - waving those pom poms

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just to start a new (and possibly last) ante natal thread - come on knitta

angels I gave dd1 and dd2 Calpol before the jabs and it worked a treat, didn't bother with A and she was fine yesterday but deffo a bit grumpier today. My best friend did baby massage and loved it, made some really good friends as well.

Re: getting pregnant again - a friend of a friend of mine is 13 weeks pregnant and her baby is 5 months old. Got pregnant the first time she had sex after her sons birth, you may remember me mentioning her earlier on one of our threads, she was the girl who convinced herself she was having a girl, bought pink clothes, painted the nursery pink and had another boy. She didn't even have a period inbetween. That is my scare story for the night, I actually don't find it that scary, I mentioned it to Mr W, how it was sort of sweet, well it was one way to put him off sex .

Jane just give yourself time, I would imagine that the fear of getting pregnant will always be there until you are ready to think about trying to conceive.

ponyo I'm worried about alice crying alot during class too but the lady running this one assures me she's never had a baby dislike the massage and that however alice behaves is fine. Prob with babies is they are so unreliable!

sky sounds like you're having a tough time. Don't know what to suggest as I'm only getting by myself and don't know how mums with other DC manage. Rant as much as you need to though and from what I've found on this thread everyone has meltdowns, so don't think you're coping any worse than other mums.

Meant to say ages ago congrats knitta for the one nap pablo (did i remember right? hope so and sorry if not) manages not on you . Hope that continues.

MizK gorgeous pics :) Seen on your profile that you live in Nottingham, do you mind me asking where?! PM if you'd rather not put it on here. Or just tell me to mind my own business! I live in notts too so am being nosy

Ooh I hope this class is similar then! If I end up going in the next couple of weeks I'll let you know how I get on...

Sky Mr W works 10-12 hour shifts as well, there's only so much he can do and sleep as well!

My other girls are 5 and 3, which looks a bit of a nightmare when written down, but at least it means that I haven't had a good nights sleep or any time to myself in 5 years so I haven't missed it this time. I think that must be difficult getting used to having some independence from your children, having them at school, able to feed themselves, go to the toilet etc then almost having to start from scratch with a newborn.

At least that's what I keep telling myself when the baby is crying, dd1 needs me to help her with her homework and dd2 is telling me from the bathroom in great detail about how big and smelly her poo is By the way if your user name has anything to do with your date of birth then you are the same age as me and last night I was coping by eating as many sneaky Easter Eggs as I could fit into my mouth, only to go to Tescos today to replace them to find out that they have put the prices up

They've started on me now but i like a ruck

Bens mum you are right to leave it for a bit? Can you get a copy of the baby whisperer asap,its helped me lots and your Noah is a lot like naughty D.
Did you catch my post re using the pram?I put her in it when she is tired and let her work up to a cry,i then push her up and down to get her off to sleep.I have to say that sometimes like today i had to keep re pushing now and again to keep her asleep but at least shes sleeping and i have some breathing space.Sky, may work for your lo too.
I have to say Delilah doesnt really cry much,even her reflux just makes her grimace and wriggle.The only time she cries is when her bottle is too slow coming and she does that shouty cry which makes us laugh and then as she starts to feed she makes a couple more grunty sounds as if to scold us its hilarious.She has lost that newborn look at last and looks really pretty especially in the morning when shes also really chatty too.

40 i read the aibu thread and got quite mad to dh about the things they had said, he said they were pathetic bitter twats (very polite wording as his was very blue) sod em!
Haven't done the deed yet either jane and freya is 7weeks tomorrow. I'm still bleeding though.
Haven't tried calpol yet but i'm very tempted as she has a stinking cold thanks to her darling brother. She won't have jabs till 13 weeks but tom was really good with his so i'm not too worried.
On a good note had another appt and scan for freyas hips and there is a noticeable improvement. Her right side is normal and her left is nearly there. So she is allowed an hour a day without the harness and the doctor said hopefully in 3 weeks no more harness :) :) :)
Which means she will only have been in it 6 weeks.

blimey hubbard thats great,so much better than you first thought,love it when things go well.I laughed about the pooh on it cos ds3 was in plaster at 13 months and the top of it was covered in pooh within days.I think they sounded bitter on that thread too,there are some right morons on mn at times.In bed now,dh is on baby duty when in at 12,i feel terrible leaving her in the spare room until then even tho i have the monitor up here with me.

The thing is i do want to get pregnant again, but we are waiting until Jul/August before ttc. We dont want to conceive before we get the PM results and after June as the EDD would be too close to Zoe's birthday.

Dot get me wrong I am/will be a nervous wreck during the next pregnancy but i want to be a Mummy so badly. Zoe will never be replaced or forgotten, i just want to have a living child in my arms we both have so much love to give!

Sorry for rambling on just feeling a bit down.

Hubbard that is excellent news for you and Freya!

Jane you will be a great Mummy because you were a great mummy to Zoe, you were strong and brave and gave birth to her, held her, picked clothes for her to wear, made sure you and the rest of your family were with her at her service, touched all of us with your strength and we can all feel the love and pride you have for Zoe. As I said to you in a previous message every time I put Anna in pink I think of Zoe and everytime I hear the name Zoe I think of your precious daughter.

So you will be a fab mummy as my eldest says to me you're a yummy mummy. (she is just learning to read and reads it off a cup Mr W bought me)

You have no idea how much that means to me wiggles, thank you. You Daughter made me smile, i remember when i was learning to read and proudly announced to my dad what the graffiti said on a wall (it was the horrid "C" word).

Jane I remember my little sister gyrating around our living room singing "Like a Virgin" in front of my whole extended family, oh one of my favourite Christmas memories, funny enough not one of hers . Well off to bed, night, night, hope you get some sleep xx

well said wiggles,was going to say just that,i was rubbish when D was ill and in hospital so have always looked up to you Jane for your strength,Zoe is often my reason for staying sane when things are tough cos i remember how lucky i am. My Mum wanted to be pg straight after she lost her term baby and was greatly comforted by my sisters arrival.I have only suffered a miscarriage but the urge to concieve afterwards was overwhelming.When you do become pg again dont forget we will all be right beside you all the way and having a virtual knees up on b day.We can all be honary virtual godmumsnetters

dd sang "shakin that ass" at the brownie talent show.

Wow what a lot of posts!
Skyrme74 welcome, I agree with everyone else that you should use this board to have a good old moan and groan, it really does help to get it all written down! Babies are bloody hard work especially with a large age gap between children. Ledkr is in the same situation as you with an older child.
Jane, I second what Wiggles said. You were a fab mum to Zoe and will be fantastic to any other babies you have.
Hubbard, great news re Freya! Im so pleased for you and her, what a relief that the harness is working, and only three more weeks to go!
Read the thread in AIBU 40. Wanted to post something nasty to those bullies, like leave my mate alone, but thought it best not to. What a bunch of bullies though! Lucky you seem so level headed about it. I'd be in floods of tears (again).
Ledkr, I have the baby whisperer book from when Ben was a baby and will give it a read again, thanx

jane you are already a great mum and future doe's will benefit from the strength, grace and love that you so obviously have and have shown. My ds has learnt "oh god" when he drops something, not good when in church also when he says fork and clock it sounds like something else and very rude. Actually managed to put freya in her cot at half 9 and she is still there without a peep. Dh is downstairs with the monitor so i can tell him i need a bottle cup of tea so i hope she'll go a while as having the bed to myself is wonderful.

how did it go hubs?

she slept till half 2 fed went back down till 7 fed then slept till just now. So not too bad. Hows d doing ledkr??

jane I second what wiggles and the others have said far more eloquently than I could, you are a very special person, I think it has meant a lot to us all that you continue to support the rest of us on this thread. I hope when you do decide to try again you will stay on this thread, we don't want to lose you to another group!
ponyo I'm a Sherwood girl, had Cassia in the City Hospital, how about you? Nice to have another Nottingham person on here...

jane I can't add anything to what others have said as they say it far better, just wanted to say that I agree with everything.

wiggles can I ask you re: annas weight? I remember you said a while ago either you or hv were a bit worried about it. What did she weigh? Just had alice weighed and they are a bit about it again. She's just weighed 9lbs14 at nearly 7 weeks. They got obsessive about it after she was born as she lost over 10% of body weight and they just started relaxing about it and she's gone down again on the percentiles

lol at the inappropriate songs etc DC have sung

hubbard dh had D but she woke at 2-unusual i hope she's not starting that nonsense-then at 6 then till 10,i was naughtily thinking that if shes still waking for feeds by 3 months i will probably give her a light "supper"
My 2 eldest had a bit of baby rice by 3 months just to see them thru the night,id get burnt alive if mentioned it on mn tho haha.

Bensmum,i had a thought,have you tried wrapping clingy pants in an item of your worn clothing,it worked in hospital and have done it since,d sleeps soundly wrapped in my worn nighty.
Felt all maternal just now,hadnt seen D overnight and then dh gave her first feed at 10,he passed her to me at 11 and she positively snuggled up and had a blissfull look on her face,she then spent an hour gazing at me,ahhh how sweet.

Off to see calendar girls tonight tho so she will have to get over it

angels in my experience of Delilahs poor weight gain they took no chances and i felt,overreacted to some extent so im sure if they were concerned they would tell you,D weighed 11,5 yesterday and she is 10wks and was born at 7 13 dropping to 7 4 at 3 wks if that helps.

I cant believe how fast this year is going. My little Corey was 14 weeks yest and is now 12lb 2oz. He has just finally started sleeping through the night but i keep waking up checking he is ok. I hope everyones little ones are doing well.xx

Good idea Ledkr. He is currently asleep on me in his grobag so I'm hoping it will smell like me when he goes to bed tonight. He goes down ok after his last feed, and again after his dream feed but after his early morning feed he struggles and I ended up with him in bed with me at 5am this morning.the second I put him down on the bed he fell asleep!

MizK I'm in Radford, but one of the (very few) nice bits I had dd at City hospital too, most people I spoke to recommended it over Queens but I wasn't that impressed tbh? Maybe I was expecting too much :)

jane I completely agree with everything wiggles said, she put it so well. You're going to be such a fantastic mummy in the future, and of course you have to let us know when that happens!

ledkr that is so sweet about D looking at you all snuggly. I love it when we have visitors and they are holding dd and I can see her looking at me and following my voice, makes me feel all proud and protective.

Which reminds me...we have been threatened with a visit from the PIL next weekend. For some reason MIL always wants to feed dd her bottle which winds me up. (ok probably only a couple of times but who cares). Right now I don;t even want them holding her, am really feeling quite resentful towards them and not looking forward to the visit Ah well at least I might get some funny/annoying stories to tell you all afterwards...