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confuddledDOTcom · 07/03/2011 20:21

F1rstT1meMummy 25/6/11
Ickle: EDD 29/6 pg#1 age 31
Pesha: EDD 30/6 pg#4, age 32, (dd 10yrs, ds1 7yrs, ds2 3yrs)
Blueberryjam EDD 1/7 PG#5 AGE 27 ( 7,6,4 & 8 months)
Loueytbg EDD 1/7 PG#3 Age 37 (DS1&2 3.6, 1 mc)
Tebbles EDD 1/7 PG#1 Age 29 (No DC yet)
Orchid: EDD 1/7 pg#2 age 31 (DS 2)
WolfcubEm83: EDD 1/7 pg#1 age 27
Phlebas: EDD 2/7 PG#10, age 35 (dd1 10yrs, ds 4yrs, dd2 18mo)
Riddzy: EDD 3/7 PG1, Age 31
MadAboutTheBoys 3/7 PG#3 Age 34 (DS1 3yrs; DS2 17 months)
Emmylou30: EDD4/7 pg#1 age 30
Mitchell81: EDD 4/7 pg#4 age 29(dd 10 yrs,ds1 4yrs, ds2 2yrs)
Eglu: EDD 5/7 pg#3, age 33 (DS 7 & 3) - Girl
Twit: EDD 5/7 pg#6 age 35 (3 ds's 12,9,3 one dd 4)
Countrybunkin: EDD 6/7 pg#14 age 26
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Smiler80: EDD 08/07 pg#1 age 30
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MeesaMum: EDD 9/7 pg#1 age 30
wolfhound, EDD 9 July pg#3 age 40 (DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 16 mths)
Mrsfarge: EDD 9/7, pg#4, age 34 (ds 9, dd 3, ds 2)
Scarthy: EDD 10/7 pg#2 age 35 (DS 3yrs)
SpannerPants: EDD 10/7 age 27 pg#1 - boy
emilyplus1: EDD 10/7 pg#2 age 25 (DD 17 months)
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Sues1974: EDD 15/7 pg#2 age 36 (DS 21 months)
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JazzS: EDD 16/7 pg#1 age 29 (no DC yet)
Nicolamumof3: EDD 17/7 pg4 age 33 (DS's aged 11.6, 4.11 and 3.3)
youpie: EDD 17/7 pg#2 age 34 (ds 16 months)
Nitnatnaboo: EDD 17/7 pg#2 age 38 (ds 5 yrs)
Highfibrediet EDD 17/7 pg#4 age 38 (ds1 8y, ds2 6y, ds3 2 1/2y)
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Fab123: EDD 19/7 pg#1 age 29
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Twit · 05/05/2011 20:28

I smear vaseline on my parts before I wee to stop the sting.

WTF is a dangleberry?

JimmyChoo17 · 05/05/2011 21:05

Wondering the same twit! I'm thinking piles?

buttonmoon78 · 05/05/2011 21:07

Def piles. Never suffered myself but DH calls them dingleberries. Cos they look like what sheep have hanging from their bums. Which is apparently the technical term for them Hmm

nicolamumof3 · 05/05/2011 21:26

evening all from a very tired achy me!

button, mw was rather dismissive yday of the pgp/spd, as it is now 'so common' apparently. Think she thinks i should just put up and shut up. So onward i go!

hope everyone is well, and im also looking forward to reaching 30w on saturday. Little things keep me going. I had ordered Bee+ in unisex red but just ordered new pink hood for it! lovely.

Fab123 · 05/05/2011 21:43

Yes, sorry guys - used to call them dangleberries at school rather smugly as they were described in our sex health lesson as "sometimes similar to the size of grapes hanging from the rectum". Just shows it WILL happen to you if you poke fun :( Don't really understand why as I've not been, ahem, straining or constipated or anything?

Jimmy I'm empathising with the talons. Ouchy! I keep moving from side to side when she starts using my insides as a nail file. Sometimes does the job of making her stop.

Nicola I can't believe that MW - she's clearly not suffered from it herself. I thought they were all meant to be in the business of keeping pregnant ladies comfortable and less stressed? Can you get a second opinion? I have 2 MW's and fully intend to run to the other if I ever feel snubbed by #1.

buttonmoon78 · 05/05/2011 22:00

Nic don't put up and don't shut up. See your GP. Make a nuisance of yourself. It is absolutely not on that you can't function on a basic level for you and your children. If they won't help, demand an emergency appointment with your specialist. If you carry on this way you'll be fit for nothing by the end and in a poor state to labour. I know - I was and I have no intention of being that way again!

I was dismissed for nearly 3 months last time and by the time I had proper help it was too late so I'm rather passionate and bossy about making sure people get the help they deserve and are entitled to when I hear about ropey MWs giving out duff info.

nicolamumof3 · 05/05/2011 22:06

i think i will you are so right button, im already concerned about the labour and had wanted a homebirth but worried now about positions and how i'll cope in pain. My last three births been so straightforward as well.

I have physio next week too she is really lovely and understanding.

HighFibreDiet · 06/05/2011 05:18

nicola I have had spd to a certain extent in all pregnancies (getting worse each time) and still had two very good homebirths with ds2 and ds3. My physio gave me a list of things to do/not do including positions for birth and positions for sex! It basically hinges on keeping yourself mobile and strong but not opening your legs past hip width. I think the pelvic partnership have lots of good info and even a small section saying pgp/spd does not stop you from having a home birth. www.pelvicpartnership.org.uk/

Please don't let your midwife snub you, perhaps more people are diagnosed with spd now as it's being recognised more but that doesn't mean you have to put up and shut up. Sad

I'm glad you have a good physio at least.

Fab I had piles after ds3 was born and was similarly frustrated that it wasn't connected with being constipated or anything like that. In fact I pride myself on having a very good diet (hence my current mumsnet name). According to my current midwife it's nothing to do with diet and a lot to do with your genes. But I have found that some dietary supplements seem to help - I take fish oils but Vit C and horse chestnut extract are also supposed to be good. They all help with circulation and vascular strength.

buttonmoon78 · 06/05/2011 07:57

Nic my last labour was only a problem because I was induced (because of the extent of my SPD) so baby was not quite positioned right and ended up back to back. So yes, it was horrifically painful but that was why. There's absolutely no reason at all why you won't be able to have a home birth if that's what you want.

The physio was excellent and left all sorts of comments in my notes about what I could and couldn't do and dh was just as bossy passionate as I am and told everyone who walked through the door 'she's got spd, you can't manhandle her'!

I'm guessing (not that I know from experience!) that in a home birth you'll have much more 'naturally' proactive MWs who will be happy to follow your lead.

Don't write it off yet (unless like me you end up being recommended for an induction).

And Highfibre is right. Just because there are more people who have it diagnosed it doesn't mean that you should just put up with it. That would be like saying more people are recognised as having dyslexia now but they should just put up with it. Or more people are diagnosed with diabetes nowadays - but they'll have to put up with it too. It's a proper medical condition for goodness' sake! Ooo it makes me v cross Angry

buttonmoon78 · 06/05/2011 08:03

The key is to make sure that you're in the best shape you can be and if (no offence) you're a snivelling wreck then that won't help.

I wasn't in great shape, but the cocodamol helped and the dihydrocodeine at night certainly helped me to sleep.

The best thing for you (and baby) right now is knowing that you can cope and can face the rest of the pg without feeling like you're going to split apart. Constant pain is really, really depressing. I'm sure I ended up with AND last time but never asked for any help as I knew it was simply pain grinding me down.

My sister (an anaethetist but also v green, anti chemicals and a bit of a hippy!) says that in this age of progress there's absolutely no need at all for women to be in pain during pg. She was the one who told me to pull myself together and see the consultant last time. So now I'm passing the info onwards to you!

nicolamumof3 · 06/05/2011 08:35

thank you shall take it on board. I do have a very much 'this won't beat me attititude'. MW tried to suggest our 'sedandtry lifestyle' was to blame these days on the increase Hmm i explained i certainly do not lead a sedantry lifestyle as on the go all day long and have to walk everywhere.

Not feeling too bad this morning, have ds3's swimming lesson in an hour and plenty of housework to keep me occupied. have apt with my holistic therapist this afternoon she does my back, but i nearly passed out last time so bit nervous just hope it doesn't get too warm this afternoon.

enjoy your days ladies Smile

buttonmoon78 · 06/05/2011 09:24

She truly sounds like a total gem. No wonder she's so dismissive - you've obviously brought this on yourself Hmm

Perhaps she has no idea that it's hormone related? Obviously, somehow that'll be your fault too!

Right, will stop being bossy now!

Hey ho - happy days.

Badgerwife · 06/05/2011 13:29

That's one scary midwife you have nicola, I'm horrified on your behalf!

I'm 29w today, and started the antenatal class this week. It was good, although the thing that most stuck to my mind about the evening is the fact that there was cake Smile.

We moved house last weekend (whilst the world was watching the Wedding) and my goodness, I don't want to ever do that again whilst pregnant. I was pretty much useless. So tired (probably emotionally as much as physically) and needed to sit down pretty much every 10 minutes. And I can't move any boxes of course so unless DP is around I can't unpack anything at all; to think how much I could get done but can't, is very depressing (I am a bit better at the packing/unpacking than DP sadly, so we're going to live in mess for a while...)

HighFibreDiet · 06/05/2011 14:55

oh bugger I just pressed the wrong key and deleted my post

anyway bollocks to your midwife and her 'sedentary lifestyle' comment. Even if the spd were anything to do with it, which of course it isn't, it's pretty hard to have a sedentary lifestyle when you have 3 kids, I've found.

and badgerwife you should see our garage which is still packed with boxes delivered 8 weeks ago by the shipping company. Dp has helpfully rearranged them (all the boxes of books in one area, all the toys in another etc.) but has done very little in terms of taking things out and putting them in the apartment where we might actually use them.

Want2bSupermum · 06/05/2011 21:23

Badger You are very brave to be moving at this point. It is frustrating when you realise you can't do what you could normally do. Last weekend I was in tears because I was so frustrated with DH marching me around town. Part of it was the pain but a large part of it was the fact that I couldn't walk anywhere. Normally 4 miles is a doddle (a half hour run).

nicola I would also make sure you don't end up with that midwife looking after you while you are in labour. I have become very assertive after being the recipent of poor medical care. It took me years to recover.

Fab123 · 06/05/2011 23:19

Hi all - very quicky to ask if anyone is looking for a P&T Explorer? My friend had one delivered brand new as a gift from the In Laws but had already bought hers 2 days ago (no communication it would seem!). So now she needs to sell the spare and will just pretend that the one she is using is the one which came. I did say she should return it but she had unpacked and assembled her one and the new one would have to go back to Mothercare instead where they ordered it from...so, if anyone needs one I'm sure some negotiations can be reached! She paid £395 for hers apparently. It's all still packed up :)

Fab123 · 06/05/2011 23:22

Oh and it's black, with footmuff and raincover but not a double kit :)

cara2244 · 06/05/2011 23:25

Just spent ages catching up with all the posts! We are definitely all very much 3rd trimester now- aches, pains, tiredness. I have been falling asleep when my son goes to bed. I got in bed with him to do his bedtime story tonight and woke up two hours later! I feel ok in the mornings if I get a long sleep, but am tired and dopey by afternoon.
Someone mentioned dizziness, I have been getting that too. Chocolate seems to help...I think it may be a blood sugar thing!! I can't believe how tough I am finding this pregnancy. It is like an endurance race.
My friend had her baby last Thursday, her second too. TWo hours start to finish, and she didn't push at all but 'breathed the baby out' under midwife's instruction. Wow! I am really hoping for an easier second stage and less tearing! Considering a birthing pool.

sues1974 · 07/05/2011 22:16

Hi Ladies,
sorry to hear about all the aches and pains, i dont have SPD but do suffer with back ache when ive stood for more than 5 minutes. looks like im going to have to sell my take that ticket, im gutted as i spent ages trying to get thru on the phone and got some for their first show in Machester on the saturday. if it was a case of driving there and getting sat straight down id still go but my friends want to go from york train station and walk or get the bus from picadilly out to the cricket ground and were not gaurenteed seats as having seat/standing seats, first come first served basically. so very disappointed.
im lucky that my belly buton is very deep so doesnt pop out, ive never had the linea nigra line either, but then i do have a scar ruinng down from my belly button so not much room for anything else.

im struggling now, my hubby works away half the time so have my 2 year old to look after by myself, just recently hes stopped sleeping thru the night, not sure why, he doesnt appear to be having night terrors, but im exhaused from it with working full time too and im big with carrying the extra fluid so really feeling it. Cant believe i have 8 more weeks to go before my c-secton, still only 5 weeks left at work.
Got my next growth scan on Monday so will find out how the excess fluid situation is then.

Fab - how did the tarot reading go? I had one with a spiritulist when i was having trouble conceiving with my first and she said wed been having trouble but that the angels would be sending us a baby with in the next month or two, and after nearly a year of trying i was pregnant 6 weeks later!
Sues xx

Fab123 · 08/05/2011 00:15

Hey Sues sorry to hear about your back. We really will all be feeling like spring chickens once they arrive (or a few weeks after at least!) when we compare how we feel now, I hope!

The reading went well, he's a real character so always good for a chuckle anyway. He said some truly lovely things that just sound silly to repeat them and I'm sure he says them to all the preggos, but it did really lift my mood. One interesting thing he said was that my waters would break pretty much at arrival on the hospital and then it would all be very quick from there. Well, I hope that's a good thing! He also said she would be more like my weight, 7Ib 3 than Fucktards at 10Ib, but then again, he may have been allaying my fears. We shall have to wait and see :) The reason I went to him was that I found a tape from the session I had before when I was 25 and a few of the things seemed very accurate...I'm aware a lot of people are very sceptical, but I don't see any harm in it and have written down what he said and filed it away to be looked at later in years to come, to see how true it was.

Got my first antenatal app tomorrow at 9:30 and can't sleep. Apparently only one other couple will be there as she had a few pull out this week. Hope they are nice as I really wanted to do it to meet other mum's in the area!

nicolamumof3 · 08/05/2011 14:04

Afternoon everyone! Yes talking of exhaustion that's basically me now feel more tired than anything ATM and dh working weekends this month too. Boys just watching a movie then we will toddle onto park then Starbucks fir a sugar fix I think. Hope inmanage it that far Grin. hope everyone else is ok x

buttonmoon78 · 08/05/2011 16:24

I'm fine but ds has up-chucked all over the hall floor this afternoon... Lovely. Still, at least it's a wooden floor not carpet!

Back and pelvis beginning to hurt more now - still nothing at the front, but lots of sacro iliac pain and pain in my buttocks. It's not helping that when I'm sitting down I take my belt off as baby really hates it cutting in so I get cutting in from one side and hoofed from the other! As soon as I take it off though baby stops.

I do wonder if this belt had anything to do with ds's positional talipes at birth. Was sorted v easily, but I do wonder!

Was just about to put washing out but I've noticed it's gone v black up there. Not happy as I couldn't dry yesterday too as it was so wet.

Am currently bidding for some washable nappies on ebay. Quite looking forward to expanding my stash of baby things!

confuddledDOTcom · 08/05/2011 23:49

I'm heartbroken here Sad I've just gone back a week and written a long post answering everyone and my stupid laptop changed pages on me (the mouse pad doesn't have much definition and I catch it with my hands too easily) and I lost everything. This is why I normally use Word!

So please believe me I have read everyone's posts this week, I had a bit of advice for a few people but I'm so far through the week now I've forgotten it all. Sorry to hear so many in pain, hope you're feeling better soon.

scarthy1975, sounds like you've got a sensible MW. Babies can turn in labour so don't worry yet, there's lots of room to play in there at the moment so baby will make the most of it. When you're running out of room baby will start settling down.

buttonmoon, stop doing pelvic floor exercises, NOW!

Nicola, speak to your obstetrician, call them if you have to. PGP is not something to put up with! There's not a lot they can do for it in pregnancy but often offer classes to help you know how to relieve the pain and stress. If you're bad enough they'll get you crutches or a belt (depending on their budget). A natural birth is best for PGP, a section can make recovery longer or even prevent it. Obviously some times they're needed and that's more important but they don't preclude you from a natural birth, even at home. A physio can help you with knowing your limitations during birth and the best positions to work around it.

Which reminds me of something I lost, Twit, you need to take paracetamol like a course, my doctors/ MWs say "It's not pain relief it's medication for your back" if paracetamol taken like that doesn't work up it to co-codamol, take it the same way. If that doesn't' work, ask your doctor for co-dydramol.

sues1974, that's why they changed the name to PGP! I don't usually get SPD so I was glad of the name change because I get it more in my back/ sacroiliac.

So we did go on holiday last weekend, the train journey down wasn't too bad, I booked a child's seat even though I didn't need to as I wanted the girls to have somewhere to sit. The youngest kept running off and I'm sure people thought I was terrible shouting at her rather than getting up or sending her sister after her. We had a nice weekend, despite the weather! We never got to the beach but the eldest didn't mind, she just said we'll go on holiday another time. Took us about 8 hours to get back with an hour stop for lunch and a quick loo break, the traffic was a nightmare! Wasn't too bad though, apart from when the youngest stole her sister's drink. Wouldn't be too bad if it wasn't full of laxatives!!! (The youngest really doesn't need laxatives!) She was behind me in a rear facing seat so I turned around to get it off her quick but only one bum cheek came off the chair and I twisted my sacroiliac. Lots of pain.

Still getting regular contractions, mostly don't notice them but occasionally (about once a day) I get a couple of hours of 10 minute intervals which eventually just stop. My parents went away yesterday and taken the youngest with them so that if I go into labour I only have the eldest who would be quite happy sat in the corner until her other granddad or my sister could pick her up.

We're finally back home! Been so much different since we've been back, my mood has improved, my eldest is sleeping better and we all seem more relaxed. OH is doing school runs in the morning, my dad and sister are covering the afternoon school runs. Took me 40 minutes to walk the 0.8m to the nursery last time I did it and I'm about half way between the two so no way can I do them myself. When I'm in hospital my dad or sister will pick them up from school and Dad will bring them to me (Dad's work is on my sister's way home and he finishes as she passes him, so works quite well) until OH has finished work.

I have a SoM appointment next Monday to talk about my VBAC! SoM said she can understand why they are saying they don't want me to labour and birth on my scar but my case is different as I will go into labour on my own prematurely and will be made to labour all the way because they can't risk bringing her out prematurely if I would have stayed pregnant if left alone. So there's really not much difference between what I will have to do and waiting a bit longer to see if I can deliver the baby.

I'm 31 weeks (in about 10 minutes lol) so now at the earliest end of my deliveries (not including my angel baby) and it's looking like she's not much smaller than my earliest delivery so not expecting it to be more than a week or two now.

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cara2244 · 09/05/2011 05:55

Confuddled nice to read your post and I'm glad things are OK at the moment.

Been awake since 3.30am with heartburn! Aaargh!!! Had a big dinner and 2nd helping of pudding...when will I learn?!?

buttonmoon78 · 09/05/2011 06:46

Well I never confuddled! Talk about turning advice on it's head! Will try squatting tho at the mo I'm not sure I'd make it back up again so perhaps will wait until dh is home again.

I hope you're wrong btw, and that baby confuddled waits a bit longer (tho I expect that the constant being on alert is really not that much fun either). I can't believe that whilst the rest of us are still whining about having another 25% to go, you're practically done. Don't disappear on us again or we'll all be left wondering.

Am hoping that I've just got a nice big load of motherease nappies sorted. Can't wait to pick them up and get them washed and on the line. Seeing nappies drying is one of my favourite things to do in a garden.

I was awake then too cara. For the same reason, though I hadn't had any pudding Sad