The CBFM Graduates Vol 1

[StormBird]

We have got to know each other pretty well during our TTC journey's so have created this thread on Chocciechips advice (hope she doesn't mind!!) so we can all contintue to support one another through our pregnancies.

Welcome................

Keziah I am so, so sorry honey. Nothing I can say to make things better but just know we are here anytime you need to talk. x x x

Keziah I am so sorry xxxx

Really sorry Keziah. Thinking of you.

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Oh Keziah I am sorry to read your news, I hope you are bearing up.

Hello to all!!

How is everyone doing? Hope you all had nice weekends. We've been away to visit DP's Mum over the weekend which was nice. Didn't lift a finger!! I do hope all you practicing mummies had a lovely Mothers Day. Seems a bit surrealy to think this time next year I will have just had my first!!!

Had an MW appointment on Friday Morning. Fundal Height is measuring a little big for my dates so have to go back in 2 weeks to be re-measured and double check baby isn't going to be massive. Seems a bit of a turn around considering that they wereinitially worried baby may be small!! Apparently I should be measureing around 28cm for my dates (they say 3cm either side of this is within normal range) I am measuring 31cm, which is 3cm bigger but they are keeping an eye on this now too!! Everything else though (My BP, baby's heart rate and my urine) were fine. so hopefully nothing really to worry about.

Anyone else got any updates???

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Hi all, I'm embroiled at the moment in trying to address immense work stress so haven't had time for MN much recently.

storm I was given an EDD for 15 Sept based on my baby's size but that would mean DH and I SWI'd a week earlier than we did, and I ov'd a week earlier than I did. Not possible - it bothers me a bit that this becomes their 'rule book' for everything down the line when I know it isn't accurate.

Have my next appointment with MW on Weds, hoping to hear heartbeat but very scared now in case we don't. DH coming with me. I'll be one day shy of 17 weeks (by their dates) and we've still not told anyone except my parents! DH saying we now need to hold on for 20 week scan. I am worried his family are going to be hurt/angry/irritated etc for us waiting longer than 'normal' people do. But I am dreading the fuss and attention so much so would quite like to keep the whole pregnancy a secret if I could!

I weighed myself this morning - was 64kg at 12 week MW appointment (wearing jeans etc), and was 65.5kg in underwear this morning. 64 is heavier than I usually am so not sure if I gained wight during first 12 weeks or if that was Christmas lingering on my butt! Does the gain since then seem about right or not enough?

I'm still able to wear my normal jeans but have to undo the top button if I eat!

How is everyone else?

choccie & storm I agree about the dates issue. As we've now had 4 scans I've had 5 different dates! I go with what I think (& know when we did it!)

I have mw on Thurs (I'm 18 weeks on Fri) & am also petrified I won't hear a heartbeat. Desperate to feel bobabean move but nothing yet.

choccie you're lucky. I can hardly fit in anything. I've been in maternity jeans since week 14 I think, although they are a bit loose. I actually have only gained 3 - 4 lbs since 11 weeks so don't know why I'm so fat

I never thought I'd feel so uncomfortable with the weight gain side of things especially since we waited so long for this baby but I am ashamed to admit I am Still hopefully in the next few weeks I'll have a proper bump and it'll not be so bad.

Good luck for tomorrow choccie I have Obs appointment @ ERI tomorrow, fx they'll scan me again while I'm there, 28th seems an age away!

Hi CBFM buddies.

Choccie I can completely understand why you want to wait. I don't think your family will be angry and when you explain will/should understand. If you sell it to them as them having less time to wait they may buy it!

Keziah that is bad luck. But PMA for the next cycle. I really do wish you luck.

I went for my scan that we booked through a private company yesterday. It was amazing. I'm about 7 weeks and had to have an internal scan. But we saw the 10mm bean and heard a HB. Wow, a truly wonderful experience for both of us. There were tears! But I also have a 6cm cyst on my left ovary. I have my first MW appointment tomorrow so will discuss this further then. I've looked it up on tinterweb and it's not that uncommon.

Hope everyone else is chugging along nicely.

Glad all was looking well missy hope the cyst doesn't cause you any problems at least you know about it though.

Hi ladies!

Apologies for my absence - this mothering lark is quite time consuming!

Keziah - how are you feeling? Sending you lots of virtual hugs xxx

So, here goes the story...

Went for the pre-op assessment on Wednesday 23rd where I was told that the labour ward was closed as it was so busy and that there was a possibility that my section could be cancelled!!!! I was so disappointed but put it in my head that I wouldn't be having the op on the following day so that I wouldn't be completely disheartened when they turned me away!

Got to the hospital at 9.30am on the Thursday morning and thank the Lord, they had discharged quite a few ladies - c-section was on! I was so glad .

Had to wait in the day room until noon as surgery didn't start until half one but then was taken into a side room and chnaged into a gown. This was quite surreal (as was the whole experience) as one minute I was chatting to other mums in the day room and the next I was walking down the ward in a gown and those extremely attractive stockings to stop dvt.

Was then wheeled into the labour ward where my dp changed into scrubs and was taken almost immediately into thetare for the spinal block. The anaesthetist took 45 minutes to get the needle in (something to do with strong back muscles) and kept on having to administer local anaesthetic as it was wearing off (I have to admit that I did cry out a few times and dp wasn't allowed in until the block had satrted working). He paged his superior for help and was talking about a general anaesthetic at this point but just as the Consultant walked in, he managed to get the needle in the right place. By the time I was lying on the table, I was a huge ball of sweat!!!!!

So then dp was allowed in which was a huge relief and they started the op. Taliesin was born 10 minutes later after much tugging and pulling and - wait for it - the wearing off of the spinal block!!!!!!! As they were tugging me around, I started to feel pain! Now, I don't want to sound like a drama queen as it definitely wasn't excruciating pain, but it was pain that I shouldn't have been feeling. As you can't top up a spinal block, I then had to have pain relief administered through the venflon in my hand. Taliesin (Tal-eee-ess-in) was born 10 minutes later and then I was sewn up in about 20 minutes.

So he was born on the Thursday and was discharged on the Saturday. I'm having a great recovery - no c-section related pain at all, but unfortunatley, the longstanding hip pain is still quite niggly and i can't walk very far.

Taliesin is absolutely gorgeous, if not slightly demanding . Health visitor came yesterday and weighed him for the first time since he was born - 6lb 14oz so a 5oz decrease from the birth weight and he is quite jaundiced, but hv and midwives don't seem overly concerned about him.

I'd forgotten how lovely it is to have a newborn . For those of you who asked, the name derives from Welsh folk-lore - Taliesin was a renowned Welsh poet.

Sorry for the mammoth post xxx

Oh well done harry Glad you're not suffering too much from the section and enjoying your lovely wee boy. Is that him 2 weeks on Thurs? x

Thanks boba, yes he'll be two weeks old on Thursday. Can't quite believe how quickly the time's passing, the memories of the day he was born as so vivd, it seems like yesterday!

Hello Harry thanks for sharing your story...lovely to read, except for the "feeling pain" bit! thats my worst fear! will be making sure I get a huge dose!.
Glad you are feeling ok and healing ok, baby sounds gorgeous and very happy...enjoy these early days X

Well had my appt at hospital yesterday with obstetrician. She has to speak with my urologist but the way she was talking it's looking like they're going to give me an elective c section. I think the risk lies in the event that I would need an emergency c section as I probably have a lot of scar tissue round bladder from ops as a child. Harry how did you deal with this news? I feel really upset It's not definate yet, have to go back at the end of May and see what they've discussed.

Still on the plus side I have midwide today so hoping to hear the heartbeat at long last.

How did you get on choccie?

Harry Really enjoyed your story. Thanks for sharing it.

Missy I sobbed at my 6 week scan when we saw a heartbeat. It's very emotional, isn't it.

Boba We heard the heartbeat so feel VERY relieved. But turns out my uterous is much higher than it should be for my dates, which suggests the fibroid I have could be growing and pushing it out. So midwife has brought forward my appointment with the consultant to discuss. There's a good chance I'll need a c-section as well. I am sort of OK with that, the only thing that really bothers me (and this is going to seem extremely vain and shallow) is the possibility I might never get my flat stomach back. I don;t mind having a scar - but I am longing to be trim again.

I know that some women end up with a roll above their scar, and I have no way of knowing if I will be one of them. I have hated feeling flabby through this pregnancy and almost everyday fantisize about getting back to my normal self, so unmovable flabby skin would be a blow for me if I ended up unlucky that way. But I still feel a long way from there....

Boba - I actually wanted an elective section. I had an elective the first time around and had major surgery for the ectopic last year akin to a section, so my Consultant said that this one would be viewed as a third section and would therefore be recommended.

Choccie - if it's any consolation, following three major abdo surgeries, I still have a flat stomach! My weight loss has been, quite frankly, incredible! I put on 28 lbs during this pregnancy and when I weighed after coming home from hospital, was 3lbs heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight. It must be the breast feeding! The scar is really tidy and neat - the surgeon went through the first section scar this time so I still only have two scars as opposed to three. Stomach isn't quite as toned obviously, but that can be worked on! My Consultant told me that the trimmer you are pre-section, the less likely an overhang above the scar. Hope this helps x

Choccie just heard our wee one's heartbeat. Was lovely and I can now relax again for an hour week or two!

Harry sorry I didn't realise. My God I hope I'm as lucky as you with the weight loss!!

I'll do whatever's best for baby and myself but just hate the thought of any more operations

Morning ladies! Hope all is well?, I've updated the stats as I've been given a provisional date for my section (39 weeks) but they may change nearer the time.

=== Graduates having Boys ===
Harry2007 DC#2, age 29 BFP (sometime in August!) - Planned c-section 24/3/11
StormBird DC#1, age 28, BFP 10/11/10 - EDD 14/7/11
AnytimeNow DC#3 age 39 BFP 20/11/10 - EDD 27/07/11-elective c-section

=== Graduates having Girls ===
MissLolita DC#1, age 32 BFP 30/10/10 - EDD 7/7/11

=== Graduates having a Surprise ( for now ) ===
Ilovekittyelise DC#1 (kind of) age 34 BFP 30/12/10 - EDD 11/09/11
Boba82 DC#1, age 28, BFP 07/01/11 - EDD 13/09/11
Chocciechip DC#1, age 39, BFP 1/01/11 - EDD 15/09/11
Missyraines DC#1, age 34 BFP 19/3/11 - EDD ??/11/11

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Hi Everyone,

Hope you are all well.

Haven't read through too much of the thread so sorry for not name checking etc. We went for the 3D Scan yesterday, was absolutely amazing. I would highly recommend it.

It was a little expensive at £120 but well worth it for the experience.

I'll try to add a photo this evening when I'm back at home.

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How many weeks are you now storm? I want to go for one but not sure best time.

Hi Boba,

I'm 27 weeks now (+ a day), had the scan on Tuesday, they recommended having the scan around 27/28 weeks as this is the best time to get a good clear image of the baby. Apprently you can go up to 36 weeks but the later you go the less likely you are to get some really good images.

We were only meant to get 2 photos and a dvd but got 14 of them instead ad the dvd LOL. Think the sonographer was having a good day!!

I really do recommend it though. Have uploaded an image as promised, have a look at my photos.

Speak soon xxxx

storm he is absolutely lovely! x

Thanks hun x

Where is everyone, its been very quiet on here!!!!!

Hellllllooooieeee!!

I know storm we must be the only two saddos with no life!