Feb 2011 - The home stretch! Let's see more of those babies :-)

[WanderingInAWinterWonderland]

A shiny new thread for a shiny new year.

I think I am happy to be open to everything, but my worry is that I might start off feeling OK, and think yes I'm going to get in the pool, and then it gets so bad I'm desparate for an epidural but it's too late. I guess I need to be better informed about how late 'too late' is!

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deliah I had an epidural with DS which was absolutely fine, but I did feel a bit pressured into it by my midwife - she basically said that I needed to say NOW if I thought I might need it as it would be too late otherwise. I did have a hormone drip though to make to contractions come faster though as my labour had slowed right down so maybe she was saying that as she knew I was already struggling and it was going to get much worse.

One thing I will say though is that up until that point, the pain was bad but just at the point that I thought I could not take anymore, the contraction started to fade.
I know a lot of people who have just used G&A but you've just got to do whatever it takes! Like everyone has said - keep your options open! :)

Deliaskis I am sure the midwife will tell you when it's getting to the point of no return. Especially if you ask her to...

Jealous of those of you using the birthing pools - would love to for pain relief (but not actually have the baby) but I am too "high-risk"

Delia, I asked for an epidural when I was in transition- lots of women say that it's the worst bit so if you ask for one and they tell you it's too late then try not to worry, DD was born not long after I asked for one. The pushing bit for me was much better than the build up.

Morning all...!

Glad to hear that many of you are still sorting things out for the baby...! I can't find a new form mattress for the moses basket. It's a odd shape might just have to buy a sq and get DH to cut it into shape.

Thank you all for your kind words yesterday, I had another total meltdown yesterday evening in the car. DH are I headed out for supper and to see a film. I drove but total fudged up the parking..huge estate car (new). Lovely to drive but christ I can't park it yet as I can't see the end or the sodding front of the car...and it beeps at you...which I hate! Anyway DH made some comment and I was like 'FINE YOU PARKING THE FUCKING CAR IF YOU THINK YOU CAN DO A BETTER JOB' (He didn't....) After a small fight chat on the pavement I sobbed in the car for 30 mins with DH.

Missed the film and ended up at home with a beef pie from the supermarket (I was sent to the sofa) then watched the new upstairs downstairs! God what a drama queen I've turn into. Can't park the new car and spent 30 mins crying about it....! This can't be normal??

Have MW appointment today so need to hold it together for her, otherwise I will look like a right mental case

IME if it is 'too late' for an epidural, then you are nearly there and the worst is over.

EauRouge I agree - the pushing actually felt productive, and there was a proverbial light at the end of the tunnel.

Highlandgirl what a nightmare. My car is awful to park too, and my DH often makes comments about my driving which I generally totally overreact to too in my current hormonal state!

Morning all,

I just can't stop cleaning! Is anybody else like this? Have just cleaned all of the skirting boards and back of toilet etc and just can't relax unless everything looks spotless at all times (nigh on impossiblewith a 3 year old DS and a DH whi just doesn't SEE dirt!

Hope everybody is well. I keep having meltodowns too over the smallest things. My DH is an annoying person at the best of times but bloody hell he infuriates me at the moment and then after half an hour I calm down and realise I have overreacted again!

Anyhoo - off to clean the front door

SemperEadem I am also experiencing a cleaning addiction My SPD makes it hard but I do a little bit, then have a sit down, then a little bit more... :)

I've almost washed all the baby's things :) I am still waiting on pram and car seat to be delivered and EauRouge I have ordered a buggyboard too :) I guess I won't be able to try it out with DS until the baby arrives as might tip the pram over with no baby inside? If not it might look a bit odd pushing a pram around without a baby in !

I am such a bad mother today I have asked the nursery if DS can stay until 3.30 instead of 1pm as I want to get the house sorted We are going to London tomorrow for a few days so he'll be missing his Thu & Fri sessions so I am telling myself it will all balance out

smallblackflowers "IME if it is 'too late' for an epidural, then you are nearly there and the worst is over."

That's actually really useful to know, and seems to reflect what Euarouge says as well, I think that makes me panic less, as it feels like options are open a bit longer than I might otherwise have thought.

Thanks for lots of helpful comments ladies, it's helping me sort out what I feel about stuff, as a complete novice at this!

Dx

Thanks for the link eaurouge I have been looking at ring slings and they are much cheaper on eBay! We are ordering some new furniture this week and clearing the nursery on thurs pm so will be able to get organised this weekend.

Did spin class today after a 2 week break. Am sooooo tired....

sorry i can´t quite keep up, I reply in my head to all the posts and then when i come to writing a reply i can´t remember any specifics!

40wks kudos on the spinning! V. impressed.

Will have a big cleaning splurge tomorrow as deccys finally down and mum arriving for a few days on friday so need to get it all spick and span. Working just now so really just popped in to say hi.

Tarlia good luck for your results and agree with those that have said just take it as easy as possible even if you are bored/ feel lazy.

Thanks for the comments re. other breeches, wigglesrock good luck for your scan. I will do my twice weekly chiro sessions and try to lean over my ball as much as poss. Would like to go swimming more but hard to find time between work/ looking after ds/ house/ lying down!

hope you are all having a lovely day. 3 kings here tomorrow so no work. yay!

semper I have developed an addiction to cleaning too - its most unusual for me! I've even started on steam cleaning the carpets. I'm hoping its a sign things might start moving soon as I'm 37wks today and feel like a hippo.

As for the epidural i've just found out i can have one if i want after previously been told I couldn't due to surgery on my spine. But now i'm pretty set on not having one, So i've developed a code word with DH... if I really really really want one I will shout "Hairdressers" at him. Then hopefully any spur of the moment ramblings about wanting an epidural will go ignored. :)

I just hope I don't forget the code word in a haze of pain

i feel the urge to clean but just havent the energy to do much.went food shopping today which has finished me off.had a CHAT with dh this am about him maybe stepping up to the plate now i have less than 3 wks left rather than having to be asked to do stuff then pouting."it would be nice" i sobbed dramatically "if just for once i could take a back seat and let you do the running and decision making"he aggreed and said he will,yeah right!!
i couldnt put on here yesterday as dh was right by me but,as my section date has changed pil can now visit while im in hospital woo.i told dh the rules are,they can stay here but i still want him and dd to be at hospital with me as much as poss and not seeing to their needs,they can visit at visiting times and take turns with everyone else and i want them gone when i come home. I told him he needs to say "i would like ledkr to come home to a quiet house"rather than "ledkr wants blah blah"
Lady in Morrisons asked me when i was due so i said 3 wks which is true as will have the section 3 wks tomorrow,i thought at last i look right for dates.She still said "oh my god you are so big" she was a big fat woman too.

Mightily impressed by your cleaning urges, ladies. All I want to do is sit on my bum- my chair is surrounded by toys that DD keeps bringing to play with her lazy Mummy! DH is a... lets say... traditional man (ie does nothing around the house) HOWEVER he has been driven by the horrific mess to tidy up and even VACUUM the house. Bet he can't wait for me to nest!!

Somethimg funny- I saw a consultant back in October who referred me to a dietician to advise on healthy eating in pg. I STILL haven't got the referral through- I have 5 weeks left of pg!!!

Delia the others are right- I was asking for an epidural towards the end, the MW said it was too late, it turned out it was transition which is HELL, a few minutes later I was pushing which was fine, then DD was born.

deb i have just been to collect dd and when i got back my house is just beyond belief,it takes going out to realise how bad,the ketchup is stil on the side from this mornings egg sarnie.Got to take her dancing now so wont be done,i am exhausted tbh.

Cleaning.....!!! Mmm haven't got that far yet, however the christmas tree is down!

Just returned from the MW (why is it I see a different MW every time? She was over an hour late and the waiting room was soooo hot and full of sick people, cough cough cough errr yuck yuck)
She called me a baby for have some chocolate with me for after the blood test, that really pissed me off. ' I give chocolate to children to make them have a blood test, at your age you shouldn't need it' Right missy MW fight HG is here today........'If you must know I have a habit of fainting after blood test so just in case I have some with me.' Annoy that i didn't faint, wish I had just to prove a point....dam it
Baby is breech so now have to return to the hospital in 2 weeks to see the consultant.

DH leaves tomorrow for 4 days and 3 nights in Vegas...! Stag do. That god he's already married...!!! Visions of the Hangover, told them to better a tiger in the bathroom if they could...somehow I doubt it.

BTW, as a totally random comment, does anyone else find it really weird that there are ante-natal clubs/threads on here for people due in August/September? I mean I know we started up here really early, I don't mean they shouldn't, I just mean that it's so weird thinking how far back that was and where we are now.

OK, so I'm really not explaining this well at all. I mean that I'm not surprised to see March/April/May threads (although was really when the first March thread appeared, as was thinking 'no no no we're the newest ones'), and think 'hmmm...yes just a few weeks/months after us', but I find it really hard projecting ahead for people due in September.

The only thing I can compare it to is when I started working behind a bar when I was 18, I knew that anyone from school in the year below me was under-age, but had real trouble shaking this feeling as I got older right up to being about 25!

Yes, I'm a bit of a nutter. PS I am not however, reading those threads, so am not some kind of weird pregnancy obsessed stalker. Just in case you were wondering...

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delia I had the same thoughts when I saw those threads, nuts!

Sorry have not read all the posts, have also been cleanning madly, and crying reading the guide to childbirth (ina may) birth stories, and just watched the breastfeeding dvd and also made me cry...

There'll be an October thread in a couple of weeks too! I know what you mean though, it's very weird. I feel like this pregnancy has really flown by and I've still got loads to do.

I just went to order my birth pool liner and the company that does them is out of stock, am panicking a bit now . It's not completely essential, the friend that I borrowed the pool from said that I don't have to use one but the last thing I will feel like doing after giving birth will be cleaning the pool!

I also feel this pregnancy has gone in the blink of an eye, haven't had any major cleaning urges yet!! but that might be more my disinterest in actually cleaning anything Spent most of today with mum and sister organising sisters wedding (she moved date up from October to March, yes that's right 6 weeks after babys due date, breathe wiggles breathe) Although to be honest we have got her dress, flowergirls dresses, booked venue, mens suits, wedding favours etc all within a week - maybe that's why I don't have the energy to clean

Mum has girls tonight, so Mr Wiggles and I are heading to the cinema, I'm actually only going for the hotdogs and popcorn

Mmm popcorn :) What did you watch Wiggles DH wants to go next week - someone gave us £50 cinema vouchers for Christmas Very generous but not entirely appropriate for parents of 2 children under 3!!!!

I am off to my 1st NCT class alone sob sob! My best friend offered to come with me but she's got 2 LOs herself so said I'd brave it alone!

Craving an ice cream - maybe a Magnum - so might pop to Sainsbos on the way home and treat myself

delia you're not on your own for feeling weird about the other pg threads, it really has flown by. I remember browsing the nearly due ones when I joined mn and it seemed so exotic (sort of!) and could never picture myself being here. Must admit I still flick through the Jan one though but mainly for birth stories now

Had really hormonal and emotional day today and OH was brilliant for a change. So pleased things are looking up for you ledkr with pils. Wish he'd get the fact I need him to take charge more, I don't want to nag him but guess he just doesn't 'see' mess.

Got my first ever pedicure and foot massage tomorrow and hoping I don't ruin it by embarrassing myself by not being able to take my boots off and then falling asleep and forgetting the whole thing! I can't be bothered to even try and remove the old nail varnish on my toes beforehand...

Enjoy your film Wiggles! What are you watching? Mmm, hot dogs and Popcorn! I love cinema style popcorn. I was most distraught when DH and I were on holiday in Florida (pre DCs) and we went to the cinema and they only did salted popcorn! Ew, it needs to be sweet FGS!

Delia, I know what you mean! I always get a bit upset when I see due in June AN threads as DD was June 07 and it always makes me feel like she's growing up so fast. When I see the new AN threads now it makes me a bit sad that my pregnancy is nearly over and theirs is just beginning and I'm never going to get to do it again! Despite the fact that I'm knackered and no matter how uncomfortable I feel, I do really enjoy being pregnant. It makes me feel a bit...erm...special . I know, I know but I just feel so privileged that I'm able to be pregnant and I often feel sorry for DH that it's something that he can never experience, even though it's something that he would never want to do in a million years . Anyway, I sound like a dick so I will shut up now....

Anyone who keeps getting the urge to clean is welcome to come to my house and do some btw!

its weird isnt it.I am feeling so uncomfortable and restricted that i cant wait now for baby to be "out" but at the same time im so sad it will be my last time.I am even too cowardly to be sterilised during the section even tho im 43 and this will be my 5th child and 4th section!!Its that finality.My d sis is ttc at the mo and i just know ill be jealous when she does(in a nice way)women are gluttons for punishment.