September 2011 - a Happy non-alcoholic New Year!

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Still whispering the good news but is there anyone else out there wishing they had made the most of the Stilton this Christmas? [Wink]

Thanks ursigurke. Did a bit of googling myself, and I can only think the reason my colleague said what she did is because there's a tiny chance that a back-to-back labour is more likely with an anterior placenta compared to a posterior placenta. The odds seem to still favour a 'normal' labour though.

Spoke to my mum about it, and she made me feel better by saying 'I'm sure genetics has more to do with it, and I had 4 straight-forward births'....I hope genetics does play a part then!

Hi to the newcomers :-).
I am in the anterior placenta gang too (and I thought it was relatively uncommon!) - my research found the same results as you two lxr & ursi - bleeding is a risk if you're having a ceasarean (sp?) and there's a slight increase in the chance of a back to back birth. I've also been directed to a page on 'baby spinning' where you try and do a couple of postures a day to get the baby used to being in a good position for birth, so will prob give that a go - my yoga instructor always suggests a bit of crawling around on all fours too, so I think that's a good start... But I get the impression there's no proper way of controling/predicting the birth, and we'll just have to go with the flow, although anything's worth a try, and I find the cat position nice and relaxing for my back anyway.
On another note, saw my midwife for the first time since before my 12 week scan, we chatted for almost an hour, oops! Got to hear baby's heartbeat for the first time which was lovely.
Hope everyone's well and enjoying some sunshine...:-)

Hi all, esp newcomers, hope everyone's well? I have actually had a headache free day today AND that's with the fact that I had to teach bottom set year ten today as well! Colleagues have all been saying that I'm "blooming" which is nice and this whole 3 day week thing is superb; wish I could afford to be part time and have every week like this!

Hi All, New to mumsnet and just stumbled across this thread. Feeling v.good so far (apart from last Thursday when the first thing my fiance said to me when he got home from work was 'oh my god you look enormous' somewhat lacking in charm!?!). Due with 1st baby on 23rd Sept, just counting down the days until my anomaly scan to find out whether the nursery will be pink or blue. 13 days to go!

LXR1 - Oh is that what SPD is - I had it with both my pregnancies and it is very painful so really feel for you. I have a brilliant factsheet this time telling me what to avoid and so I have tried to be good but still worry it will start again soon. Good news is that it does clear up very soon after birth. Hope you are coping okay with it. Tell your partner that you have to avoid straddle positions and hoovering - there are some positives!
Just finished baking the red white and blue meringues and they are just about ready to taste!

Warm welcome to all the new members - this is a fab forum :) my 20th week scan in on 5th may...fingers crossed...i want to know the sex of the baby but hubby doesnt !!!

Hi welcome new comers hope all enjoying sunshine. I finding it a lot more tiring though getting hot. I been looking for some bump n back support & my midwife suggested a belly bra. I've just ordered one off amazon but has anyone tried one?

Thankfully I don't have full blown SPD (yet)...'only' sacroiliac pain at the back of my pelvis so far - which is horrible enough. Been doing my exercises, but I've been in pain every evening now for the last week - must be the increased weight! Have another 2 weeks to wait before I see the osteopath again...

KateBC - how bad is it for you?

Like the sound of persuading DH to do the hoovering!

GypsyWillow - Welcome! DH said to me last night 'You're getting bigger' - no, you don't say!

Hey all...Any recommendations for back support ? Those elastic bands any good ?

Evening all. I'm totally with you feralgirl the 4/3 weekend to weekday ratio suits me just fine. Glad to hear you're feeling better too!

Hello to all the newcomers and congratulations. Hope everyones scans are going well. I'm 21+3 over half way and definitely on the larger side, all sticking out the front like I've got a watermelon under my jumper!

I'm feeling well too and actually enjoying this pregnancy at last. Getting a little lower back pain bit the yoga is working. Hope those of you with spd get a bit of respite!

Baby is wriggling loads and dave can feel it too.

Sadly we haven't moved, our buyer is holding things up, but I hope we exchange as we packed everything thinking we'd be out on the 15th.

Keep well everyone and good luck with the scans!!!

Last word, ignore the horror stories you hear... People love a bit of bad news. Xxxx

Welcome gypsy! You should take it as a compliment! Pregnant women just look fabulous! So congratulations on redlauras watermelon too :)

sumi, sorry no advice on elastic bands but yoga exercises are just great for back pain. I can only recommend to take some classes and do your favourite exercises whenever you need them.

I'm already wearing support stockings for my varicose vains, always thought you need to be at least 80 to actually be allowed to buy them
I am now wondering what to wear on a wedding I'm invited to in three weeks. Ugly thick black support stockings, pretending that it is reeeeaaaally the latest fashion thing in London (wedding will be in Austria) or going for normal ones which will probably not be able to hide my ugly varicose veins. With the support ones I would probably be able to be on my feet for longer (and hopefully dance for longer).

Can you wear the stockings under some leggings? i went to wedding at weekend the evening doo bit and wore floaty 'non-preg' dress empire line so fitted over the watermelon and some leggings with lovely flat shoes. Felt comfy and semi normal looking. Depends how posh the doo is I suppose.

I spoke with MW and several pharmists over back/band support. they steered me away from the bands as itch and roll down. I did try one for an hour and it just kept rolling off my bump. I await the delivery of my belly bra will let you know how it works. My MW said she used one and yes it does get hot but she said it really helped her.

Ladies, the octopus support can be quite good - if you are having difficulties ask to be referred to the pregnancy physio team - they can fit you with a support for free and let you test out the best possible one for where the pain is. I have a velcro support which is great for standing but you cannot sit down while wearing it so very time consuming to use when I am on the school run. Dont dismiss the big pregnancy support pants - sexy they are not but they do provide light support and that may be all that is required in some cases.
We had our 20 week scan today and all seemed well. That was apart from it taking 40 minutes as we had a trainee sonographer who took so long that I was in agony and her way of getting the baby to move how she wanted it to involved suspending me upside down on the bed with my legs in the air and my head down low - to"try to shake the baby out of my pelvis". After 10 minutes I was in so much pain and about to pass out when luckily the senior arrived and took over. Please could someone lend me some dignity I think I have lost all of mine! Anyway, aside from that I gave in and allowed dh to ask what the baby was and we are having another boy - we have one of each so I cant say I minded either way. Sadly however on breaking this wonderful news to the dcs I then had to deal with an inconsolable 8 year old who is devastated that she is not going to have a baby sister and has now decided that she really cannot cope with another brother. Also at same time my heart was breaking for adorable ds who was trying to console his sister any way he knew how while having to hear how much she didnt want another "annoying brother". I feel really sad that she is so disappointed and I know she will come round and be a loving big sister when the baby arrives but heck what an up and down day - one minute I was on a major high and the next I was wishing I could open a large bottle of wine!
Good luck to all who have scans coming this week, hope it all goes well. By the way I have an anterior placenta too and will have a section but they didnt seem concerned as it was high.

minky what a topsy tervy day. I can just imagine how you felt being faced with a distraught little lady!!! My best friend is in similar territory. Her first, who is two and a half, is just beginning to understand that this "baby" in her mums tummy means mum and dad will be shared! No no no no no! And so now she doesn't want to share mummy with anyone. When I went over last week she ignored my presence entirely (normally get loads of hugs and kisses) and when her mum and I were chatting away she was doing everything she could think of to stop it, including standing between us on the couch. Putting her hands on mums ears, spilling water on purpose. Then when I got up and her mum said I was going, we walked to the front door, she gave me a massive hug and then was pushing the door closed behind me while her mum and I were still saying our goodbyes... A rude awakening awaits that youn lady.

usigurke have you thought about a maxi dress?

redlaura and I thought my experince was bad enough - your poor friend. I was lucky when I had number two as my little girl was so excited - the trick is to involve them in everything and make it into a game - we bought a new doll and pram and cot for her and made her play mummies at the same time and she loved it! We shared newborn nappies and everything! Ours was the only sudacremed baby annabelle in London! Anyway, what happens happens and it does resolve. Today my little girl has let it all sink in and told her daddy that she is now happy that its a little boy now she has thought about it. Now we will get her excited about getting ready for the baby and letting her help choose nursery things. She even got excited at the blue dummies in mothercare today! What a difference a day makes!

Oh to be a kid again!!! If only adults could turn emotions around that quickly!!!

Im a newbie! Have been posting on the sept thread in pregnancy, but always thought, "if only there was a place for just sept ones" DUH!!!!!!!

Im 29, married, got a DS who is 4.9 and im 22 weeks today.

Hope everyone is well x

MINKYJJ, thats interesting, im on the other side on that. My DS is absolutely insistant that it is a boy baby and tells me all the things he will do with "his baby brother" and i said to him last night" What if its a girl baby?" he just looked sad and said "then shes yours and you can look after her"!! To say i was a bit upset is an understatement, im just thinking now that we find out the sex of the baby so if its a girl,we can (somehow) prepare him. My DH and I didnt want to know though, but should we be putting the feelings of our DS before our own?

Well done if anyones read through that epic post! :)

Thanks for the fashion tipps. I don't actually want to spend money on a new dress as I wouldn't have anymore occasions to wear it and I think the one I have does actually look good. I had to get a second pair of stockings anyway and chose some that are a bit more shiny so do look a bit more like normal ones. I think that should be ok. And no one will care anyway as I am only a guest and not the bride . It's more for me as it is a rare occasion to not just wear jeans and T-Shirt.

Interesting how those (future) siblings react. DD is so not interested in the book about having a baby. But she is only 18 month so doesn't quite get it yet. She strokes and kisses my belly though on a regular basis but I guess only because it is big and since the day I told her not to hit it. It's not because of the baby inside. I do wonder how she will react once her brother is born. She gets really jealous if another child is just near me but she is so nice with her older older cousins. I guess, I will find out in a couple of months

Def loving maxi dresses; I have a couple and you can get away with them when pg for a good long time imo before they start hanging oddly at the front. Also they are much better with flats (I have stumpy legs at the best of times so am usually absolutely devoted to my heels; I hung them up this week )

DS (2.5) is just adorable about his new sibling. He shouts "Hello baby" and "baby, where are you?" into my belly button. He does also think that he and DH both have babies in their bellies too though. I am terrified about how he's going to react when it's born; he's the first grandchild on my side so he has been spoilt rotten!

How sweet to hear all about the older bro's and sisters :)

I had my 20th week scan today. So far so good and I found out that we are having a girl :) Im soooooo excited !!! Hubby doesntwant to know but hes always wanted a girl so im so thrilled on his behalf too...but honestly i was more happy to see the healthy baby and hear the oh so lovely heartbeats. Ah this is truly a miracle of life (yes yes its my first baby!)

Have a lovely weekend you'll !!!

sumi, congratulations on your little girl! Do you have to hide those news from your husband? Wow, I wouldn't be able to do that. Gooooood luck!

feralgirl, I like maxi dresses on other people but in my case not too much. I always feel like I have no shape and am worried that I would look rather fat than pregnant. Also, my legs aren't too bad so they would be proof that I'm not fat but rather skinny with a pregnancy belly :)

ursigurke yes i have to and its not gonna be easy but promised him ! I love maxi dresses btw but im really short so dont look so good on me.

Lovely news sumi but how your husband can stand you knowing is beyond me. At one point dave wanted to know and I didn't and he suggested that he found out and keep it from me but that would have driven me crazy!!! Luckily when it came to it he decided he didn't want to know either. I have a hunch that it's a boy though. a) because we have agreed a boys name and not a girls and b) because my bump is massive but sticks straight out the front in a ball - though I know that that's an old wives tale!

Does anyone else think they're bump is already big? Everyone is commenting that I'm massive. Will it slow down because if it carries on at this rate I'll be giving birth to a toddler!!!

23 weeks on Wednesday. Time is flying and we still haven't exchanged yet... Trying to stay zen but getting stressed that we've not moved yet nearly a month after we were supposed to.

Enjoy the weekend lovelies! Xx

hi all

22+5 now and bump is growing everyday; I also get comments about being big - and I'm carrying all out front with a boy....so who knows redlaura? :) Despite front placenta I'm feeling movement most days now - kicks/punches are like little (and not so little!) pulses, whilst general movement feels like my stomach dropping - or like when you need a big poo!

My OH is away working in India for a week and left this morning so I'm feeling a bit emotional and lonely :( flipping hormones - had me blubbing at articles in the Guardian this afternoon! I tend to be not so good at eating properly when he's away but now I've got poppyseed to think about too I'll make an effort....off to sort dinner out now in fact.
Have a good evening all :)x