July 2011 babies - second trimester here we come!

[MadAboutTheBoys]

I was just about to post to say sorry for starting the July thread and then disappearing, then saw that it was all full up! So I thought I would start us a new one.

Hello to all the many many ladies that have joined the July club - it's lovely to see so many of us here. I've been trying to read back through all the old posts, but there are so many, that's partly why it's taken me so long to get back! Have also been having some personal troubles, but that's another story.

Anyway, I'm 12 weeks today and slightly looking forward to my scan on Christmas Eve, but also nervous in case it's not good news. I'm looking forward to catching up with you all again and hearing how you and your bumps are going.

Oh no Mr Ickle! What a shame, but lucky they thought it was your drink! I haven't noticed it mentioned on this thread yet, but several people on my previous ante-natal thread had this.
nicola I had particularly itchy boobs in my first pg, but not till a bit later if I recall. mw did say why it happened, but baby brain has obviously kicked in again and I cannae mind.
I hope your daughter and gran are now on the mend confuddled

Confuddled I love my sling - its a mai tai style and I can only get it to fit comfortably as a front carrier. I bought it off the net from a lady who makes her own, its called a snuggly sling. Looking forward to using it again.

hefner I'm a wrapper, I never really got into other styles and their best with a bad back. I've carried my babies from premature (brillint for prem babies) up to 3 (although that was only short distance as the centre of gravity makes it hard to stand up, a man could probably manage it better) I still carry the 2 year old regularly in it.

LadtGoneGaga, I've not used ring slings so can't answer, it's supposed to be quite simple to make your own though if you fancy a go.

Twit, they're very simple to make. Buy 5 meters of a fabric that womn't fray (ask in the shop if you're not sure) I usually use jersey or fleece. Jersey for summer/ winter, fleece for spring/autumn - the reason I do it that way around is because I put my coat on top so need to count the sling in my layers, spring/autumn I wear a lighter coat, winter I wear a heavier coat and summer I don't wear a coat. Then you need to cut it into three along the length (IE 3*5m) because you've used a fabric that doesn't fray it doesn't need sewing or overlocking.

By traditional type do you mean the backpack style? Those are the modern version of wrap/ mei-tai etc and they're not as good, they don't spread the weight so they hurt more and you can't wear them until the child is as old.

Have a look at Doula UK you should be able to find someone in your area.

nicolamumof3 the itching is probably stretching, skin tends to itch when it stretches, you'll probably notice it in your bump too soon. Yes, I'm shattered, keep falling asleep all the timem, she's still not brilliant, thrown up three times today, yesterday was the only dya she didn't, all she wants to do at the moment is sleep.

Grandma doesn't look good though. We're hoping to see her tomorrow but that depends on my daughter as we'll need to leave her with her other grandparents (couldn't take a baby onto a HDU if they're not sick) OH offered to look after ehr so I could go in but I don't want to go on my own as my brother and sister are upset from seeing her.

morning all you're probably right about the stretching. Am moisturising my bump, but it does tend to itch later on so that makes sense. I found some 38d bras which are comfier but off shopping today. Mad idea on a saturday i know! But kids have xmas vouchers and money to spend and i have lots i NEED!!

I've never really used slings before only my baby bjorn carrier. I do find being able to carry them great, especially if you have a clingy baby or little ones to run after. For example was much easier in the park running after a toddler with baby attached rather than in pram.

But then i do love my prams too and need somewhere to put my shopping

Hi all. Interested to read the stuff on slings, wraps etc. Would like to try a wrap, but worry they are too complicated for me.

I'm not in ga good mood today as I got a letter from the hospital moving my 20 week scan. I can't make it on the new date eithe, so will have to call and change. I hope that doesn't mean waiting too long as I've been counting down to the scan. I feel like I've been pg forever already so little milestones like this are important for me.

That's quite annoying Eglu, hopefully they will get another one that will suit and not too far away. I keep +ve thinking that I am very nearly close to halfway and it kinda seems like I've got far less time to wait. We have to go to Glasgow for ours (6 hour round trip) and unfortunately it's 2 days after I will be halfway there for my census job induction. However, I have booked us on the plane - return flight for myself and 'escort', and bus/taxi to hospital - at a cost of absolutely nothing!

I was also amazed to get my physio appointment in today for this coming Tuesday - only 8days after referral! I'm so impressed with our service here at the moment, that really is quick even for down here. SpannerPants I would definitely see if there was some way you could see someone sooner than that, in the meantime I hope you are feeling alright.

I'm trying to keep positive with the halfway bit too. Although it does still seem like such a long time. I'm also counting it in school holidays :)

Morning all :) Just a quickie to say that Hot Milk maternity/nursing underwear and Isabella Oliver maternity gear is on sale now at secretsales.com - you can either go direct to their site or use this link and I'll get a voucher if you buy something :) You need to register but it's all quite straightforward I think and you can get some bargains (HM maternity bras starting at £12 - gorgeous but no good for me as still bfing :().

Ooooh thanks Dita - just used your link to sign up :) I've been after some Isabella Oliver clothes but was trying to find the ones I like on sale!

Hi guys. Lovely to see what's been going on over the weekend.

Went for the 3D scan and found out I am having a girl! Very lovely sonographer who works at the hospital said everything else is perfect. Very happy with the news :)

Just had a bit of a shock though. My "partner" sat me down about an hour ago and said he can't do this. He has apparently been thinking it for a week or so but hadn't seen a good time to tell me. Not completely unexpected I suppose, just a shock when I was so happy yesterday

Bit confused at the moment. Have to confess to just having had a cigarette and now feel guilty as hell .

Grr, Fab just typed a really long message and lost it. Basically, he clearly doesn't deserve you if he's such an idiot he can't see what he will be missing out on. And what the hell does he expect you to do about it at this point?!

Keep being happy about your baby. You'll do it on your own. I was single Mum to DS from him being 10 months and it was hard but also very rewarding.

Hugs. But put the cigs down - they will only make you feel worse.

Fab123 aren't men crap??!
But perhaps if it is going to happen its better now than after the baby is born?

My OH has really p'ed me off tonight by calling me an idle cow!! He said the same last pregnancy and I remember us having a big argument about it. He just hasn't got a clue.

On a more positive note, my ex boss had a baby today, very late, water birth and hypnobirth! Anyone got any experience of such things? I don't know whether a water birth would work for me as I had a one hour first stage last time...but maybe the hypnobirth bit!

oh jesus fab..what a twat. What are his reasons? Bloody selfish idiot is all i can say.

And yes you can do this, I also brought up my DS1 by myself from 15m (tho felt like single parent from the off tbh) til he was five and i met i met my lovely husband who im now with and have another two boys and htis bump. Sorry for going on. But you just need to surround yourself with lots of support atm. Hugs xx

Thanks guys. Yeah I've gone past the hurt and onto the anger now. He basically said he couldn't see it working and that there was so much to sort out and he couldn't do it. He's basically an immature coward and doesn't deserve such a beautiful daughter. He won't be going on the birth certificate, NZ passport or not! I'm trying to stay calm though and I won't block him out. If anything I hope my monthly reminders serve to make him feel like the selfish idiot he has shown himself to be, but he's never coming back into our lives to do that to us again. He's literally just given me £100 for the buggy and nothing for anything else at all (it cost £350 so it's not even half) and let me buy the Baby Show tix and book and pay for a hotel for that weekend. He had the cheek to say he'd still come to "make a weekend of it". I actually had to explain the idea of seeing happy couples and us going around pretending wasn't high on my agenda. He sure as hell isn't going to get anywhere near my hotel room! Tit.

Anyway. Think i'll be going into creative overdrive this week. Friends are being very supportive indeed. Lovely to know there are so many people around :)

Fab sorryto hear things have been difficult for you. I'm pretty much a single Mum, and sometimes thats easier I think!

DitaVonCheese
Nathalie is a lovely doula, glad your midwives felt comfortable about doulas, it really is a very different role than that of the midwife and everyone should be there to support you and your birth!

I dont seem to have much of a bump yet, but boobs definetely grown and feeling kicks.

Selina x

I wrote a reply yesterday (Saturday, I'm ignoring the time) and somehow the page refreshed and I lost everything.

nicolamumof3, I'm on crutches so I already need to think about what I do with shopping so it doesn't bother me. I love that I can give the baby everything she needs, even handsfree breastfeed whilst completely ignoring her so I can look after the eldest.

Eglu, they look complicated but once you've done it they're simple to do. Much easier than the modern versions with lots of clips and straps to get right.

I'm 18 weeks in the morning () and well past my half way point, quite a scary thought! In 5 weeks I'll be where I was when I went into labour last time and viable in 6 weeks. I really keep track of the milestones!

SpannerPants I agree with Fraochsmum, speak to someone from your obstetric team, they should be able to get you sorted faster than the GP can.

Dita, I'm breastfeeding too (already tandeming, what's three called?) and wearing a normal bra because I need some new ones, it's a right pain having to get undressed every time. (BTW, do you have pink hair? I think we have groups in common on FB)

I missed you've been looking at a Doula, if it helps try to think of it as a MW deals with the bottom half and a Doula deals with the top half. They're both doing different jobs and a MW who is confident in her job won't mind having a Doula there.

My Doula and I are going to try and book to see the HVs in my practice. They sent my HV out to ask questions about Doulas! My Doula thinks that we may end up with some HF cases from it but right now I'd just appreciate some work! Although TBH I can't see being able to take much in the next 18 months :(

I've asked my Doula to book me as being May as that's what my doctors and I are expecting. She has twins that are going to be a mid-June to mid-May on call but we think that she has it set up good as there's no way twins are going to go to the end of on call. Although she's not going to get much break between.

Fab, you poor thing :( agree with LadyGoneGaga. I don't blame you having a cigarette but try not to let it pull you back. Sounds like he feels he may be ahem... missing you in a few weeks time! There's no nice name...

Oh and the little un is still being sick! She's had two days off in a week, is barely eating and lethargic. We've had one night in hospital this week being tanked up with dioralyte. She was only 8.9 kg (19lb 9oz) on Wednesday, so I wouldn't be surprised if she's lost weight.

Lots to catch up on. Lots of good news I see.

Poor you though Fab. He sounds like a right gem. You sound pretty strong though. Just make sure that you know it's ok to be upset and don't bury it. I'm sure you'll turn out to be a great mum with or without him and make sure your friends are lined up to help you out and pamper you when you need it.

Really got a bump at last, not just extra fat! Finally told most of our friends at the weekend - most had no clue (I guess a bit of podge hides it wonderfully ). A bit though. Most people said things like 'are you mad?' or 'I thought you'd finished' etc. Only one person (my big sister) said 'conratulations' straight off. I must admit I had been expecting it but it's still not nice.

Or even 'congratulations'! Oops.

button, even though only our parents know, no-one has said congratulations. They have laughed.

Buttonmoon talking of rude things people say. A friend of DH's found out the other day and said 'was it a mistake?' I couldn't believe it. It is sort of the same as saying was it planned? yet so much worse.

I'm glad I didn't see him I would have planted him one.

Evening ladies, someone touched my bump on Friday at work and i jumped out of my skin.
I dont kno it too much and have been guilty of bump touching myself but only on my best friends. I am friends with the woman and shes lovely, but it really threw me happening at work, especially as my bump is still little. Not too bad when its clearly a baby in there but mines a bit of fat, small baby and wind :o
Anyone else had that yet? bit early at 17 weeks although midwife did say i had a big bump and that was while i was laid down and the fat had gravitated to my hips!

fab sorry to hear whats happened. Hope you have friends and family near by for support when the little one comes, sometimes even just to watch your little miss while you have a shower and feel human again cos the first few weeks can be a bit of a struggle but all worth it when you get that first smile at week 6.
suz xx

was meant to be i don't mind it too much - having a blonde/pregnant/senior moment there i think xx

Buttonmoon that's awful!! People should have more respect for those who bring new life into the world.

We had a lot of comments about me being pregnant, our parents were angry and have been discussing a house brick party... BUT to be fair they're concerned about my health and the baby - as you can probably imagine!

I can't believe how rude some people are! Surely a baby is something to be celebrated, whether it's the first or fifteenth!

Thank you for all the advice about my back, I've found an osteopath (on my mum's recommendation) who has treated a lot of pregnant ladies with similar problems. She does NHS work as well so I might not have to pay for it either!

I went swimming on Sunday and that really helped, I got to try out my lovely new Next maternity swimming costume as well