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Due Oct 05 - The Homeward Stretch

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Lexie100 · 17/09/2005 19:49

Here we go, hopefully for the last time

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Redtartanlass · 23/09/2005 22:48

Moomin sorry if you took offence about the staying in hospital posts, we know you don?t have much choice. It?s Sunday you?re going in isn?t it? We?ll all be thinking of you. Sorry again?..

Moomin · 23/09/2005 23:02

no I'm sorry rtl - being a bit over-sensitive I guess. Thanks

hester · 23/09/2005 23:14

hi everyone and welcome danishlass. Moomin, Elf - sorry you've been having a rough time.

Well, I just have one more day at work and I am thrilled. I can't say I do want the baby to come yet - I'm DESPERATE for some time in which to rest, nest, have daytime naps, get myself mentally ready for motherhood. But this stage IS uncomfortable - baby is now 2/5 engaged and walking with any kind of elegance has become completely impossible.

Thanks all for your sympathy about the hot water. The last time I had a dispute with our managing agents they won, and I retired humiliated, enraged, but reckoning my blood pressure needed me to retire from the field of battle. I don't feel ready to take them on again, though dp is beginning to threaten dire retribution. I am taking it terribly personally - like, how can they DO this to a pregnant woman? Don't they care? (Similar to how I felt this morning when a man my age practically shoved me out of the way to get the last free seat on the tube - I wanted to shout at him but thought I might burst into tears.)

Here's my rant of the day, though: NURSING BRAS! M&S and Elle MacPherson are all very well if you don't need that much support, but like fastasleep I am now a G cup and that means huge, sturdy, expensive boulder-holders. In a choice of white or white. And cut so high that they will show above the neckline of every top I own. It's a shame; my bosom used to be my pride and joy, but from here on in it is definitely more functional than decorative.

Redtartanlass · 23/09/2005 23:30

Oh hester, do you still have no water? Oh crap. What happens if baby comes, surely, surely that's illegal.

It's hard enough keeping your crying hormones under control without, thoughtless B***ds pushing you out the way for a seat.

I cried at the theme tune to Balamory today....this baby needs to be out.....NOW

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 10:24

Moomin, sorry for being insensitive. Will you be on a ward or in your own room?

BigBumpBonnie · 24/09/2005 10:38

RTL, so glad movements got going again. I've been given a kick chart but keep forgetting to fill it in. I find a good shove on the bump gets her moving when she's a bit quiet or a bath! Gosh I am really feeling that she's 4/5ths engaged. Just walking makes me feel like she's going to pop out (nice thought!) The pressure is incredible. Needing the loo every second and getting fed up. Tons of bh still but nothing resembling proper pain. I'm also on my third but TERRIFIED of going through labour again. If I heard anyone say I was making a meal of it in labour I wouldn't be responsible for my actions! Saying that, after I'd just had dd, dh helpfully told me he could 'see where I was going wrong' when I was pushing her out Bloody cheek!!

I spoke to my midwife on thursday about getting an epidural this time and she said I can have one if the anaesthetist is free. During the night there's only one on and if he's in theatre I'm stuffed!! It's horrible when you've finally made a decision on pain relief but then you still don't know if it's going to happen.

As for what to take in your hospital bag (or case!) I was reading a book the other day that suggested taking a jigsaw for you and your partner to do to pass the time Can you imagine turning up at the local hospital and getting out a jigsaw!! It did make me laugh!

I'm off for another lazy day, tomorrow I'm cooking a roast dinner for family so am NOT looking forward to that. Hopefully I'll go into labour today and get out of it

Moomin · 24/09/2005 10:47

Feel like a drama queen now . Sorry.

Just been blarting again because dd said that she would like a bed next to mine so that she doesn't have to go home and leave me every night - and then fetched me half a square of toilet paper for the tears and snot running down my face. That poor child!

When the midwife was booking my admission on Tues she said that the antenatal ward was closed (!!!!!) and if that was still the case on Sunday I was to go to post-natal instead! Didn't sink in at the time - does this mean they seriously expect me to share a ward with newborns?! For TWO WEEKS???!! I'm sposed to be in for rest and observation! The wards are small rooms these days, not like when I went in with dd1. They have anything from 1 to 4 beds. Please god let them feel as sorry for me as I feel for myself and give me a room on my own!

Elf1981 · 24/09/2005 10:52

Moomin, I demand that you sit on the sofa, eat a large chocolate bar and have large cuddles and chocolate covered kisses with your DD.

My mum is devastated that she'll be in hospital when Boo arrives. I'm going to be doing all I can to try to go into labour before my section date! All the old fashioned remedies except sex as I've got thrush and cant cope with that!!

Mum's really upset as it's her first grandchild and she's going to be the last to hold them. I've made DH promise that he'll take loads of photoes and also a short film on my digital camera (which does film but not with sound!) and take them to my mum that day before we tell any other family members. I think what upsets my mum the most is the fact that my auntie will always be going on about it. They're close but my auntie is a "jelly fisher" (you have to read B Jones diary to understand!) and will still be saying to Boo in 20 years time "I got to hold you before you granny". Feeling very miserable for my mum at the moment.

Elf1981 · 24/09/2005 10:56

BigBumpBonnie - I'd love for Boo to engage, even if bum first. They're so high up at the moment, settled under my ribs, that I suffer constant heartburn, and last night I threw up for about half an hour. Frightened the life out of me as the one thing that helps heartburn is milkshake and I'd had a strawberry one not long before throwing up and so when everything came up it was all red. Poor DH kept calling "are you all right?" as I'm chucking my guts up!

BigBumpBonnie · 24/09/2005 12:11

Elf, it definately does take the pressure off your ribs and makes it a bit more comfortable to breath! Hang on in there girl,you haven't got long left.

fastasleep · 24/09/2005 13:17

Elf I know just how you feel (except mine's the right way up, thank god!) she's not engaged at all and I have two huge (honest!) feet shoved under my ribs... I can barely eat and it feels like I'm going to puke all the time! It's so sooooore! I hope your pineapple eating does the trick!

I'm sobbing at everything too... that new bloomin NSPCC advert - the little cartoon kid looks just like my DS I swear, it makes me sob every time! (But balamory?! You're weeeiiirrrd )

Moomin, best of luck for tomorrow onwards... can't imagine how you're going to manage, but you will, you're tough! xxx

fastasleep · 24/09/2005 13:30

Oooh ooh is JM in labour?

!!

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 14:01

May be!!! I expect she's been doing the dirty with her hubby...!

mawbroon · 24/09/2005 14:33

It's been a really nice sunny morning here which has made a change from yesterdays miserable weather. We are looking after PILs dog today as they are away and I was very proud of myself for managing a 45 min walk and then a trip round some shops. I am just about to start packing away all the stuff in the living/dining room as we are getting a new laminate floor put down on Monday. I thought it would be much easier than carpet for wiping off sick!!

Baby is still head up and with every day that goes by I am getting less optimistic about him turning. He's got 10 days now before the hospital start getting involved I am wondering if I maybe don't have a lot of amniotic fluid as I am able to clearly feel body parts (DH had a hold of baby's leg when he was lying bum up) and can tell easily where his head is. Loads of people have told me that they were never able to tell during their pregnancies which end was which with the baby. Of course if I don't have a lot of fluid then it will be very difficult for him to turn.

Obviously I have too much spare time to think about all this stuff...... note to self DON'T WORRY. Pah

Oh god that makes me sound like a right misery, but actually I'm fine!!

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 14:48

Mawbroon I can also identify body parts quite easily, I've no idea whether that means anything about fluid. First thing in the morning I can lie on my back and clearly see baby's shape.

With my first I spent a lot of time kneeling in front of the sofa watching tv with a large mirror which leant against the back of the sofa - might be an idea?!

fastasleep · 24/09/2005 14:50

Aww Mawbroon, c-sections aren't all that bad you know, especially when they're planned... Boo might still turn too... you might be right about the fluid though - towards the end with DS I could feel everything very very clearly, I could grab limbs too and you could see toes wriggling - his kidneys were sucking up all the fluid (he was induced because of them in the end, it was spotted on the 20 wk scan though so don't start worrying!)... maybe you've just had less fluid all the way through, it sounds like it! It shouldn't be a cause for concern other than poor boo getting stuck! It'll all be ok

I hope your floor looks brill...will you get another scan if boo hasn't turned? That should help set your mind at ease!

I've been doing the dirty with the hubby and it's not done a damn thing...herrrumph! Come on Sophia get engaged!

morningpaper · 24/09/2005 14:57

Does anyone else feel like they've got a hamster burrowing into their bladder? Must be tiny fingers...

And is everyone else now TOO BIG for their maternity clothes? I've got about three things I can still fit into. I've actually had to put my maternity clothes away again!

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 24/09/2005 14:57

hi girls - im still here - dad is here so not been on puter!

Still VERY achey and sore but nothing much else happening!

Will just have to keep an eye for now - sorry to get all your hopes up!!

danishmummy · 24/09/2005 14:58

Redtartanlass - havent talked to mum about staying with me when I get out. She might still be working at that time (will stop beginning of Nov.) but hopefully could take some days off.

Dont know how my dad would react, though... theyve got a weird relationship when it comes to my mum doing things with me without him being there = means mum and I would share something he was not part of. "...and?" I say. Is that not perfectly normal for mothers and daughters? But no, he has to make a big drama out of it, being the poor one to be left out. Can he not even be happy for what mum and I can share? Is he really that insecure and needs to be the center as well as have his nose into everything? Makes me sad and feeling that I am loosing out on a close mum&daughter relationship. It would be such a big help for me, if she could stay with me. But we are all put in this world to please, admire and take care of my dad... And does he treat the rest of us like he demands to be treated?? Nope! .

Sorry about the rant. Just needed to get it off my chest... in a situation like this, that he couldnt put all this aside... He is worse than a child, actually: craving my mums undivided attention, being jalous at her giving me time and love - and being old enough to know better!!! Aaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!

fastasleep · 24/09/2005 15:01

Awww JM I was all excited and terribly ! I hope your aches wear off, or turn into something productive!

I just vacuumed the front room... I'm just having a teeensy weensy eeensy rest before I do the rest

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 24/09/2005 15:02

FA - we WILL pop.... jsut a matter of when! I hope this turns into something too - if this is just the start i feel i have a lnog way to go!!!

fastasleep · 24/09/2005 15:03

Where's your hubby, we obviously need to do the dirty even more!

mawbroon · 24/09/2005 15:04

Good tip morningpaper but I have spent many hours leaning over my gymball watching tv with no success and I have so many pillows in bed that I HAVE to stay lying on my side. I even tried a tip that I read about putting a packet of frozen peas on the baby's head to make it turn. That didn't work either - just gave me a numb bump!! I don't adopt a slouching position at all any more - either upright or forward leaning or on all fours.

I go to see the midwife a week on Tuesday (well I go this Tuesday too - but the dealine is the following week) and she will refer me to the hospital for a scan and discussion about ECV or EVC whatever it's called. HUGE babies run in my DH's side of the family and I am only 5ft 2" so possibly the baby is now just too darned big!! Hmm, put like that, a section does seem more appealing!!

jessicaandbumpsmummy · 24/09/2005 15:04

DH at work til 5.30pm today, and on an early shift tomorrow - once dad has gone home tonight im pouncing!!!

If that doesnt get the baby moving then nothing will!

danishmummy · 24/09/2005 15:07

Had a dreadful morning where DD and I constantly clashed . Me being outrageously impatient and irritated. Her pushing it aaaaall the time, arguing about every single thing. Constantly being under my feet and "in my ear" - never stopped asking and ordering me about and saying not nice things to me...

Thankfully just had such a nice visit from old friend and her two children. Great with the distraction from the viscious (spelt right?) circle, DD and I was in.

I am the adult here, so why cant I just snap out of it and create a better atmosphere? Maybe after-effects of all that has happened... or the forever-blamed hormones. What do you girls do to snap out of it? I find it sooo hard, even if I count to ten, go into another room to cool down, think happy thoughts, eat a piece of chocolate - or 10! ...