Feb 2011 - growing bigger, loosing our figure

[angels1]

Just a new thread as I noticed we are near the limit (again)!

wandering I'm getting to the point of it being a bit too much of an effort to put socks on. I also have swelling in my feet/hands and all my shoes are a bit tight so are quite uncomfy - mw didn't seem bothered but I'm a bit at how early it's happened - what on earth will we be like in a couple of months?!

Btw on a similar note I woke up this morning to one ankle being more swollen than the other - got in a pre-eclampsia panic (both my Mum and MIL had it quite serverely and had to be in hospital for weeks pre birth) but seems to have evened back to normal, so hopefully just sleeping oddly

Socks, shoes knickers, jeans - anything that requires lifting a leg to don is definitely a struggle, even sitting down! I'm allowing a lot more time in the morning for all the huffing and puffing.

40weeks, can you not get him to call them back and cancel? Surely they'll understand it's your 10 year anniversary?? Congratulations by the way!

angels Since having dd1 I have one foot which always swells up bigger than the other one in each pregnancy I always try a shoe on that foot first to decide whether or not to bother trying to get the other one on!!! I get sicker when I bend over so it's horrible.

40weeks agree with Tallulah, ring and cancel, this is the one time you can get away with being exceptionally unsociable!!

prof your link has just got me into trouble with DH. He's working from home this morning and is on an audio conference. I am in the same room as him but on strict instruction to keep quiet...needless to say the look he gave me when I produced a loud snorting whilst trying to suppress a loud laugh was not a friendly one....whoops. Have stopped reading it until his meeting is over.

40weeks I agree that you should cancel the dinner invite, but your DH should be the one to make the call. Congrats on your anniversary by the way

Happy anniversary 40 weeks - hope you manage to get out of dinner (and your clothes....) Enjoy!
We are two thirds of the way there now - it feels like I've been pregnant forever, and it's only going to get bigger from here on in!
I heard fairytale of New York on the radio this morning - my first Christmas song! It might give me a bit of motivation - I have done zip so far.
I'm with you all on the maternity clothes, I've been struggling on with old (too big to begin with) jeans and belly bands but I think I'm going to have to bite the bullet and buy some more things - especially with the Winter coming. I'm in slip-on shoes (well, lazy trainers) but socks are a pain - DP put them on for me the other morning, but I can manage myself... just milking it a bit!

byronicheroine trying to "train" dd1 to pull my boots off, she's not very keen!!! I feel that this pregnancy is flying in, to the point where I am waking up panicky about all that I haven't done!!

Hopefully if Mr Wiggles gets home from work on time I am going for a nosy at some baby stuff this evening, scoping out Moses baskets, I'm a big fan of them and dd1 and dd2 used the same one so need want new one!!

If its any use to anyone Dorothy Perkins has some maternity tops/trousers reduced

I do a lot of "Oh, DS, can you pick that up off the floor for me?". Just a shame he's at school most of the day...

40Weeks - happy anniversary! Definitely make DH cancel. Did he forget it's your anniversary or was he just being thoughtless because he was pissed?

I saw the midwife this morning for my 28 week appt. There was a bit of sugar in my urine but possibly because I forgot to collect it until after I'd had breakfast. She also drew blood and said they'd check my sugar levels. It was very slightly elevated on my 12 week bloods so I'm concerned it will have gotten worse.

Someone asked a few days ago about confirmation of maternity benefits. I had a letter through from HR while I was on holiday confirming my leave date and benefits. I filed the form 3 weeks ago, so I suppose it took 2 weeks or so.

Had an awful appointment at the obstetric department today. I thought I was seeing a physio but in the end I don't know what they actually were as they didn't help me. They agreed that I have spd but said it sounded at the less severe end of the spectrum and sent me on my way. No suggestion of exercises, no mention of a belt, no ideas of how things could be improved :(

I feel so let down by a system that isn't interested in me as long as the baby is ok (which obviously is a good thing... But I wonder if a man was in this much pain would they be so dismissive). I'm not sure if I'm articulating my pain to them well enough when I see them face to face. I'm taking tomorrow off and am trying to get hold of my midwife.

And only the best part of four months left to go...

Had an awful appointment at the obstetric department today. I thought I was seeing a physio but in the end I don't know what they actually were as they didn't help me. They agreed that I have spd but said it sounded at the less severe end of the spectrum and sent me on my way. No suggestion of exercises, no mention of a belt, no ideas of how things could be improved :(

I feel so let down by a system that isn't interested in me as long as the baby is ok (which obviously is a good thing... But I wonder if a man was in this much pain would they be so dismissive). I'm not sure if I'm articulating my pain to them well enough when I see them face to face. I'm taking tomorrow off and am trying to get hold of my midwife.

And only the best part of four months left to go...

ohno zero. Sending you my sympathies. It seems the NHS is so hit or miss with experiences based on who you get and so much is just luck. I think not even showing you any stretches or anything seems very bad form - is there any way you can ask for an appointment with someone else in the dept?

My physio has pretty much banned me from housework involving bending (so most things then!) and doing any packing/unpacking/lifting of any kind with our house move next month - so I now feel like I'm a big useless lump who is at home allthe time but unable to do anything productive .

Oh no zero that's awful. Don't you just feel like screaming at them, "I'm growing another person here people, and most of the time I do it quietly, so when I DO say there is a problem, I effing well MEAN IT" grrrrr on your behalf

and AmericannInhope your bloods come back ok.

angels and co, I had really bad water retention in 1st pgcy, I know how you are feeling, all I can suggest is drinking LOADS of water to help displace it. Hope it subsides.

Have given up trying to get Dh to want to celebrate anything. He is BEng so anti Christmas too and just seems to hate asking for babysitting help

Plus he calledto say he had bought a roast chicken and trimmings so too late to cancel now. It's only our anniversary of meeting, not wedding so not that bad I suppose. Oh well he can kiss his blow job goodbye!!!!!

Retail therapy helped though, went and bought loads of christmassy stuff from a nearby garden centre revenge is a dish best served in the form of hard cash I always think!

40 weeks definitely think you're being overgenerous even considering the phrase blow job, if he was my husband he'd be afraid to put his penis anywhere near my teeth

Retail therapy always helps, Mr Wiggles and I had a bit of a set-do the other day, no real reason, well he was being a lazy bastard, I shouted, took kids out which had been previously arranged, ignored his texts, was suitably glacial. We don't fight often, he went to Tescos the next day, did really big and expensive shop, bought flowers!!! and when I went to hairdressers yesterday he had rung and already paid bill If he wasn't such a terrible liar and so lazy would consider the possibility he was having an affair

Flowers, wow can't remember the last time I got flowers. Not even when I gave birth, don't think he even said well done or thanks. Am making him out to be a real knob, which he is is isn't, but am just a bit fed up being the only one to try and keep OUR relationship going, rather than just being mummy or daddy. He said we couldn't afford to go out for dinner last month when I suggested it. I took the boys to visit my Dsis overnight and he went out for dinner with his mates and their girlfriends the night I was away!!!!

Lol at all the talk of blow jobs! Dh is lucky if I even give him a peck on the cheek at the moment!

Not sure about seeing someone else, will see what mw says, who is the one voice of reason amid all this madness

Lol at all the talk of blow jobs! Dh is lucky if I even give him a peck on the cheek at the moment!

Not sure about seeing someone else, will see what mw says, who is the one voice of reason amid all this madness

erm, can I ask you ladies a question about mn etiquette? I had a private message from someone about a post I recently made (my first ever private message on here , sent a quick response back and got a message back from this mner seeming to start a conversation. Searched the username out of interest and found they had been in 0 discussions on talk. Feel a bit odd as don't want to be rude by ignoring the message but not really intending on starting up a conversation and seems a bit odd to come from someone who has never put a message in any threads . I know this isn't really the place to post about this but thought you experienced mners might have more experience about this type of thing.

zero my sex life is in a similar place to yours at the moment too...poor DH.
What a nightmare about your 'physio' appointment too - I think if you just keep banging on at people they might finally get it that you are in real pain and not being a wimp. Hope that your mw is more understanding / helpful.

angels not sure about mn etiquette, although I think I'd be thinking about private messages from unknown people....

I've got a physio appointment tomorrow about my SPD, although after a week spent lounging at home its really not that bad...am preparing to feel like a fraud and be sent away with a dirty look for wasting their time.

angels I got one too just now I would ignore it as mine is a little on the side

angels I got one too just now I would ignore it as mine is a little on the side

OK, thanks, I shall now ignore. I wonder zero if it's from the same person . Most odd.

Sorry to hear about your 'physio' appt zero how annoying! I thought they had already signed you off work with SPD?

Spoke to my mw today, who was lovely, and she has advised to take rest of the week off self certified and then go and see her next week if I am still poorly. She didnt seem surprised at all by my experience with the GP

Been ebaying AGAIN today!! I really must stop, but all the newborn stuff is such a bargain, and they only wear them for a short time anyway.

28 weeks tomorrow, is anyone else feeling that they could sleep the clock round? I have prob been awake for about 2 hours in total today....obs needed this time off work!

suzy I thought so too (she said she would over the phone) but when I went to collect it today it was just a letter saying that I have back pain and might benefit from seeing a physio

yes suzy the tiredness hit 2 days ago and i am 28wks on sat. I slept thru the apprentice and then my alarm this am.Feel all puffy eyes and headachy.I have lots of water retention,so the struggle to get my boots on is terrible i am off to evans tomorrow to get some big legged ones i can step into.I took dd to ballet in my slippers and she ran in but when i collected her she didnt come out so i had to go in in them (white and fluffy)felt a real tool.
Cannot understand the fuss about getting signed off.I asked my gp whether i should be feeling so tired and breathless and he just said well you shouldnt be at work and that was that.I am not going back now,i have leave booked after xmas and at the moment i cant even walk my own child to school so cant be be working.
My belt came this am i was so excited but it is MASSIVE at least tpt 15 so someone has made a mistake cos when i tried it on at the physio it was good and snug. I now have to buy ans stitch on some more velcro which is annoying.
zero how dreadfullis that. I think awareness of spd is appauling, i reckon we should start a campaign and wear ribbons one day a yr.
I was loking for a a space yesterday to walk dd to dancing and saw a disabled badge holder park on yellows and practically run off down the rd.I know he could have had any number of conditions(no flaming)but i thought how mush one would make to my painfull life at the mo as i literally cant walk for more than 10 mins without severe pain.
When are everyones next appointmenst at the hosp?Just realised mine is in 6 wks,seems weird.