April 2011 - back to back sex and other mysteries

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Here we go ladies, a brand new sparkly thread that should see us all into our 2nd trimester

Many thanks for the warm welcomes

I've felt lots of movements this evening, I was sitting in quite a twisted position which is why I think I felt it so much.

Actually, going back to the link I posted for greenbottoms I don't think they're up and running with recycling element yet but I definitely like the idea!

I'm still laughing at the 'it's a hospital not a health spa' comment! In my head it is going to be EXACTLY like a health spa. I want dim lights, birthing pool, music, serenity and, in an ideal world, a facial and pedicure after delivery. Am I being unrealistic?

My sister got engaged on the weekend, Am SO happy for her. However, she's planning to get married in April 2011, as in, the month my first baby is due.

Am more than a little peeved and worried. I'll look and feel rubbish whether I'm heavily heavily pg or I've just had the baby. It's not like my due date was a big secret. Sigh.

Some very funny mother stories! Keep em coming, they're cheering me right up and making me feel like I'm not the only one with a slightly crazy mother.

cyclebump I have a wedding of a very, very close friend on 1 May and am wondering how logistically it's going to work. And what the hell I will wear - I'll either be very overdue and only fitting into a sack at that point, or very newly un-pregnant and with Jordan boobs and saggy middle tyre...My friend arranged the date before knowing when I was due though, your sister could have been a little more considerate. AIBU?!

if you are being unrealistic JoEW then so am I! (especially as I am expecting DP to provide many of these things!!)

Congratulations to your sis cyclebump but what a shame about timing :( Has she thought about the fact that you could be a couple of weeks late/early and might miss out on the wedding altogether??

Dunno. I reckon she may still be in the bubble of lovely excitement about being proposed to. If it's the end of April the baby will have definitely arrived (due date is 4/4 and they won't let me go that long). I'll just have to look like crap and spray milk at those who comment on it...

Oh yes, birth is going to be just like a spa with nice dim lights, relaxing music and massage. I'm training DH already.

Congrats to your sister cycle but start dropping hints about a May wedding and how lovely that would be. I mean, you don't want to get married in Lent (no flowers in the church) or too near the Royal Wedding...

I talked to my mother today who is surprisingly sensible it seems. I got on the defensive about reusable nappies and she told me that all 3 of us were in terry squares and how it's perfectly possible to cope but she can't believe how expensive they are these days. I felt like shaking her and telling her she shouldn't have thrown out all of ours about 10 years ago.

She was also telling me that I don't need a ridiculously expensive pram system or a bottle warmer (because I'll be BFing, won't I!) or a fancy changing table (the floor is fine)...

Bang goes my plan of getting her to shower baby in gifts.

Cycle Congrats to your sis although I think you should maybe drop the hint that it's a bit close to your dates given that you have two weeks either side but I agree with lucielooo I'm sure your sis and yourself don't want to miss out, weddings re planned to the day, babies have their own agenda. LOL at spraying them with milk though

Well just got off the home to mummy.........I really could slap her sometimes it started well with apologies all round, mine secretly was for letting her get to me, then say thanks for the chocs but I've been sick most of the day so haven't had one yet. Response from loving mother......well that won't do you any harm, you are rather chunky Mothers

Nappies, as I said before I use a mixture, the disposables I use are spirit of nature (eco nappies) and to save the landfill I compost them. This is slightly messy with the removal of the outer layer which can be recycled with carrier bags and it helps if you rip them to bits they breakdown easier, messy glove job but worth it if you want to do your bit without slaving over the laundry all the time.

just checking in with you all havent had time to read thru the posts..its been ages so sorry.!
Am all over the place.

Had to go into hospital last night as my stomach had suddenly swollen. Apparently now one twin might have too much fluid !! 2 weeks ago one had too little !

The doctor actually said I was a conundrum !! as although there are some signs of TTTS like with too much / little amniotic fluid. The twins look like they are doing ok..he thinks...? am back in tomorrow so he can have a proper look at me.

He said he might refer me to a specialist(which he is) but he means a specialsit centre. He mentioned someone in bristol I mentioned kings hospital in London. [have heard thats a good place?} think my boys are confusing him ! is this the shape of things too come ? will let you know how tomorrow goes. Am going to spend time catching up on here .

On the subject of weddings shortly after bubbs is born.

Close friend of DH is gettin married in June in Inverness. She was an "usherette" at our wedding so she is important to DH, but what to do? At 2 months old will i want to leave my PFB with my mother for 2 nights? Also, our journey to Inverness will have to be via Aberdeen to drop bubbs off almost doubling it. Or is it feasible to take a 2 month old to a wedding, bearing in mind I will know very few people there, the bride and one other couple I think.

The way i'm going too, I'll have to buy my outfit from Millets.

Just something else to worry about I suppose!

Hi Hippy, all concerning, i hope a specialist centre is more reassuring, at least knowing what's going on would be nice.

Cycle - i think you have to actually sit your sister down next week sometime, once she's calmed down from the excitement and say it's totally unfeasible for you to guarantee you can make it in April, or realistically March or early May either. She probably hasn't thought about it yet.

Lis - personally i would say you will not be ready to leave an 8-12 week old for 2 nights, even with your Mum. If you bfing it will be so tricky. I would think that a baby that young would hardly be noticed at a wedding.
We took DS1 when he was little to a very noisy Irish wedding, he slept in his buggy at the reception, we were amazed as we could hardly hear each other speak.
Sit near the back so you can escape if need be, wear something easy to bf in so you can calm baby down in seconds, take a buggy that's comfy and baby will most likely sleep though the whole thing :)

LisMca I agree with Sparkling, take the baby with you, it'll be much easier for both of you. As long as the baby is used to napping in a buggy it should be fine.

My DS wouldn't nap anywhere else but it came in handy as I could always go out and about when I wanted and we weren't tied to a routine.

Loving the mum stories, I asked my mum what time I was born and she couldn't remember - she said she was too busy at the time to notice but that it started after breakfast and she was back in time for tea.

On the subject of other events around the due date. I booked the venue for DS 3rd birthday party today. I'm due the 2nd, his birthday is the 12th so i've gone for the 16th. Hopefully this baby will be like his big brother and turn up pretty much on time. If I am otherwise engaged all my mum needs to do is turn up there with the cake, while the kids run riot in the soft play and get fed chips and ice cream.

Lisa take the baby. If necessary I can probably source you a babysitter in Inverness (nanny mafia has to be good for something)!

But you won't want to leave a 2 month old for 2 nights unless you have to.

Thanks for the messages ladies, it was very scary but i seem to be doing fine now, fingers crossed everything will be ok.

Hippy hope your ok, it's not nice being in hospital, hope the twins are ok.

I asked about the vitamins because i have ran out and was wondering if i needed to buy more, i think i will buy the ones with omega in them as i don't have enough fish in my diet.

LisMcA My friend had to leave her baby at 6 weeks old this summer to attend our friends wedding in Ireland, she was chief bridesmaid so had to be there but didn't really want to take baby on the plane so left her at home and HATED every minute of it, so probably not advisable to leave bub at home!

And also lol @ the Millets comment, I think I'll be wearing something similar for my weddings next year! I'm due on 24th April and I have weddings on 1st, 3rd & 25th June!! Pretty sure am not gonna be remotely back in shape by then or even in any kind of routine!!

And as for mothers, mine was under the impression that I would like second hand nursery furniture for the new arrival (i.e her spare room furniture) I politely declined and said we would buy our own, then she offerred to pay £500 for our travel system! The mind boggles!!
She also wants to be at the birth (fine by me) and watch the baby being delivered and I mean actually watch it coming into the world if you get me??!! I've said I'll think about that one!

I think you are right ladies! DH is going to speak to bride to check if children are welcome as I know some people dont want screaming children ruining their day at their wedding. Wouldn't bother me at our wedding but think it's best to ask rather than assume.

Just need to tell mum her babysitting services are no longer required . I think she was quite looking forward to it!

Lis - good plan, i would make it clear to the bride how young your LO will be, if she doesn't have kids, she might just think of a toddler running wild screaming the place down. If your baby even wakes up during service/speeches you'll be able to carry it out/feed it to keep it quiet and it really won't add any cost to her wedding (high chair, food, etc.).

Finally stopped snowing :)

Hey all

Hope everyone is ok / warm.

Some advice pls. I suffer with IBS but it's been mostky ok despite the fact that rather than craving anything i dont enjoy real food and am eating what i like now. The last 3 mornings i have woken with an upset tum. I read somewhere this can be a bad sign, and as i have felt only a little movement a week ago am getting paranoid. Is it worth calling the midwife / doctor? My scan is 14th. x

Always worth ringing when unsure tbh, better to spend time checking all is ok, than sitting at home worrying, so give the MW a ring. :)

just been catching up with posts, congratulations on all the scans.
and MOUSE i was so saddend to read about your loss, keep strong xx

and reading a post about braxton hicks, i was looking this up the other week i was 28 weeks when i started getting them with my son, but this time ive started at 15 weeks

Thanks for the wedding advice everyone.

Sounds like a family row may be surfacing. I've bitten my tongue thus far but mum and dad aren't at all happy about the April plans. Who knows how it'll all end

Lis I'll be taking my baby to my sister's wedding's whether he's a day old or a month old. If needs be I'll feed him beforehand and DP can be in charge of watching him in the pram to be wheeled out in an emergency.

To add to my joy I slipped on the ice last night and pulled a ligament in my bump. Ouch.

Ouch cyclebump that sounds painful :(

Quick flying advice needed - is there anything I should do other than wear the ridiculous compression stocking thingies (and asking for an upgrade, whilst smiling really sweetly)?

I don't eat on aeroplanes so not worried about dodgy airline food and will obviously be avoiding the complimentary booze.

Aargh. They've made mince pies and mulled wine at work and the smell is making me feel REALLY sick. Christmas is so not going to be fun this year.

Its the office christmas do at work which i organised but am at home watching Muppet Christmas Carol sercretly relieved that i'm not there umong the booze and bowlers. I hate Bowling (wasnt my idea) good we arent allowed to anyway :)

Weird pregnancy symptom: yesterday I lost part of my visual field for about an hour and a half

Got an urgent referral to a cons opthamologist today. He said it had nothing to do with my eyes but was due to blood vessels constricting in my brain in the vision area. Apparently due to pregnancy hormones.

All ok now.