Facebook addicts

[MamaBtobe]

Hi all, this is probably a bit of an AIBU post but here goes anyway...
My DH and I are planning to announce our news that we are expecting our first baby this week. I'm 12 weeks already and so far I have been happy to keep the exciting news between us. It's been fantastic having breathing space to get ready for this next chapter in our lives.
We know our families will be both surprised and ecstatic and bursting to share the news but whilst I'm excited for them, I have one issue...they flipping love a Facebook announcement
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy browsing through my social media accounts but I'm quite a private person and I'm not interested in acquaintances and friends of friends knowing my business.
Am I wrong to put a Facebook post ban on the news?! I feel bad but at the same time the thought of an announcement from one of our family members fills me with dread! Especially if something is posted before we get to share our news with our friends and colleagues.
Anyone put a Facebook announcement ban in place? How was it recently ever? My FIL will hate me lol 😟

I didn't put it on Facebook until after our 20 week scan. Friends and family that knew before that were told that I didn't want it on Facebook yet and everybody completely understood and respected that.

I totally agree OP, it’s your news. The wholeFB thing annoys me. I posted a new profile pic today of me in some rather unflattering pac a mac last year and a friend posted “that takes maternity wear to a whole new level”. I deleted her comment and messaged to tell her why (nicely obvs). She was v apologetic but said “I thought it was public knowledge”. Well, it is in that we’ve told people, but we’ve not announced it on FB and have no intention of going so - so only people we really wanted to know, know. Thankfully that’s all we’ve had so far.

My cousin had a little girl in Jan and my brother almost immediately posted to her wall “congrats on the birth of your little girl”. I messaged him and told him to take it down. What I also don’t get is why people feel the need to write it on your bloody wall - send a message!!!! It’s just gratuitous posting really - part of this new society’s need for attention!!!

I think you are well within your rights! I am planning the same, we asked no photos on our wedding day to be posted. My aunt who is OBSESSED posted anyway and it caused a bit of an issue on the day.

I think as long as you are clear people should respect your wishes. Alternatively, if you can, tell those people last so you don't have to panic if they post something? I know that can be hard if those people are closest and you expect to tell them early, but if they are that close they should respect your decision anyway,

We are 32 weeks and have managed to keep it off Facebook! It’s been quite amusing more recently bumping into people and them being a little confused as to where the bump has appeared from ‘it’s not on facebook’.

My mum recently ran into a parent of an old school friend of mine and got talking and her mum said she was pregnant, Mum said congrats, she had heard via Facebook. Mum then went on to say we were expecting, to which she was shocked... mentioned nothing being on Facebook, and then went, ‘actually that’s quite nice that you get to see people’s reactions’ 😂 but I guess it’s each to their own, I always thought we would put something up, but we were just too scared something would go wrong and then enjoyed it being or little secret to share with who we wished.

We will put something up when baby is here, but in our own time and all of our immediate friends and family have so far respected our wishes, so we are hopeful they will continue to do so when baby is here 😊

when i gave birth to my lg and when i had facebook i banned photos of her going up! i feel like its something that should be private and not shared with girls that slag you off or don't even talk to you. its nicer having just family see them not the whole world! plus people can share,save and steal the photos! too many creeps!!