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woollyjo · 30/06/2009 22:11

Niamh Hope Anne was born at 4:12am, 30/06/2009, 8lb 13oz. Full term.

Unfortunately no heartbeat was detected during a fast and furious 4-hour labour and she was delivered with the cord tightly wound round her neck.
Niamh's heart never started.

This is our second daughter following 2 miscarriages earlier this year.

She was perfectly formed and looked just like her sister did as a newborn.

We held her for hours

We are lost in grief but delighted to have Mae (2.5)to keep us going.

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hobbgoblin · 01/07/2009 09:22

I've posted on our antenatal thread but then thought you might not want to visit that right now so am posting here too.

I too have thought of you many times since reading your message late last night and as I said in my other post, am deeply sad and sorry for you. It is surely the worst imagineable bereavement and not something I think one can begin to comprehend unless one has experienced it. So, I am sorry that I cannot understand your pain right now but I hope that we can share the burden of it with you by thinking of you and talking to you and helping you any way we can.

I told my DD (9) about Niamh this morning and she is very sad for you too but says what a lovely name your daughter has.

xx

dawntigga · 01/07/2009 09:25

I'm so sorry.

dxx

Ledodgy · 01/07/2009 09:30

Oh God, I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you all.

Doobydoo · 01/07/2009 09:35

I am so so sorry woollyjo
My 1st child[a daughter]died nearly 19 years ago...I hope you have support around you and your family.xx

ActivityApple · 01/07/2009 09:38

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hellsbelles · 01/07/2009 09:44

sending you and your family lots of love, strength and positive thoughts.

xxx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 01/07/2009 09:44

I am so sorry Woolyjo.

If/when you feel able to, please come and visit our bereaved mummies thread here

It is a club we'd rather not be members of, but it helps to talk to people who have been through the same thing.

Wishing you all love.

Jojay · 01/07/2009 09:46

So so sorry for your loss

namechangerforareason · 01/07/2009 09:49

Oh My Goodness woolyjo.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I dont really know what to say except that you will cherish your beautiful Niamh Hope Anne forever in your heart.

I am not a religious person in the slightest but I will be saying a prayer for you all tonight. You are all in my thoughts.

Take care
xxx

mamadiva · 01/07/2009 09:50

So sorry woolly

The same thing happenned to my Aunt about 15 years ago, it took a long time to 'get over' as some put it but in reality it's just a case of coming to terms with it rather than getting over it.

I hope you have a good support network round you at this awful time. Cherish the time you had with Niamh after her birth and hug Mae tightly you will pull through.

My thoughts are with you and your family today xxx

Niecie · 01/07/2009 10:03

How awful. So sorry for your loss.

ThingOne · 01/07/2009 10:07

I am so sorry, woollyjo.

frasersmummy · 01/07/2009 10:16

ooh woolyjo

I am so sorry... my first little boy was stillborn 5 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday

There is nothing I can say/do to help right now. With time it will get easier... the pain never goes away but you do learn to live with it and one day despite the pain in your heart you will be able to smile again.

Hopefully you have lots of support around you in rl.

But like a few others have said we have a bereaved mummies thread and we are there if and when you are ready.

You have so much still to face...

take care

Wheelybug · 01/07/2009 10:24

so sorry to hear this - thinking of you and your family and wishing you much strength.

Gillyan · 01/07/2009 10:25

Oh god woolyjo, I am so so sorry for you.

It is everyones worse nightmare and I am so sorry that it has to be your reality.

I'm crying my eyes for you.

What a gorgeous name for her.

Thinking of you loads xxxxx

woodlands35 · 01/07/2009 10:27

oh wooly, i am so sorry
please take good care of yourselves
you have given her a beautiful name .

shootfromthehip · 01/07/2009 10:30

Oh no. What a horrible situation. Gutted for you.

Casserole · 01/07/2009 11:23

No words. I am so very sorry.

May her memory be eternal in your hearts.

x

Belgrano · 01/07/2009 13:52

Oh my god Woollyjo you poor brave thing. I am so sorry for your loss and thinking of you and desperately desperately sorry. I really wish there was something I could do or say but know there are a huge number of MNers thinking of you right now. Strength to you.

FruitynNutty · 01/07/2009 13:56

I don't know what to say, I can't begin to imagine what you're going through but I'm thinking of you
x

weegiemum · 01/07/2009 14:03

Woolyjo - so very very sorry to hear about Niamh's death. I have 2 good friends who have lost babies at full term, and all you can do is grieve.

I am so glad to hear you were able to have several hours with her after she was born.

If it's not inappropriate, I would also like to offer you congratulations on the birth of your beautiful daughter.

Take good care of yourselves and of little Mae. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Owlingate · 01/07/2009 14:10

Woolyjo - I was on the July 09 antenatal thread as ephrinedaily and lost my baby girl when I was 17 weeks pregnant.

I cannot begin to understand what you are going through but would like to echo everyone in recommending Sands - they have been a huge support.

I hope you were able to spend some time with little Niamh after her birth and get pictures and footprints, and I'm so very sorry she's not with you now.

hazygirl · 01/07/2009 14:18

thinking of you love, im so sorryxx

ilikeyoursleeves · 01/07/2009 14:18

I am so so sorry to see your post Woolyjo, my heart goes out to you and your family. I can't imagine what you are all going through just now, you are very much in my thoughts xxx

webwanderer · 01/07/2009 14:21

So incredibly sorry for your loss

RIP Niamh x

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