Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

I have never made so many people cry ......

231 replies

woollyjo · 30/06/2009 22:11

Niamh Hope Anne was born at 4:12am, 30/06/2009, 8lb 13oz. Full term.

Unfortunately no heartbeat was detected during a fast and furious 4-hour labour and she was delivered with the cord tightly wound round her neck.
Niamh's heart never started.

This is our second daughter following 2 miscarriages earlier this year.

She was perfectly formed and looked just like her sister did as a newborn.

We held her for hours

We are lost in grief but delighted to have Mae (2.5)to keep us going.

OP posts:
LittleMissNorty · 01/07/2009 14:24

Thinking of you and your family at such a difficult time x

andiem · 01/07/2009 14:25

so so sorry for your loss wollyjo will be thinking of you and your precious girls
axxxxx

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 01/07/2009 14:37

So so sorry for your loss Woollyjo. I can't begin to imagine the pain you are going through. I'm just so very sorry for you and your family.

Hulababy · 01/07/2009 14:49

I am so sorry that Niamh never made it.

Andie01 · 01/07/2009 14:56

So so sorry woollyjo. Thinking of you all at this very sad time x

moodylou · 01/07/2009 15:07

Woollyjo i'm so sorry for your loss
Thinking of you and your family. xx

woollyjo · 01/07/2009 15:23

Thank you for all your kind messages,

We are surviving, it just hits me in waves, I can be talking rationally about what happened one minute and wailing the next.

She was beautiful, we held her for hours, washed her and dressed her, knowing we would only have that time with her, it was like she was just sleeping.

Shropshire SANDS provided cameras and a Moses basket so we could take photos. They also provided a keepsake pack which the midwives did for us with hand and foot prints and a lock of hair. They also fund the grave stone if we go for a hospital arranged burial.

The support from the hospital has been fantastic. I expect my milk will be coming in in the next few days and that will be tough.

We are lucky to have support from friends and family.

OP posts:
herbietea · 01/07/2009 15:38

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

Mij · 01/07/2009 15:57

Oh Woollyjo, words cannot express how our hearts go out to you right now. I'm glad you've had sensitive support and it sounds like you have a wonderful family and a beautiful little girl in Mae to keep you going, but I know nothing will be able to fill the gap Niamh has left.

xx

QOD · 01/07/2009 16:04

I am so sorry for your loss
My neice Georgie died at term 13 yrs ago with a "true knot" in her cord, I feel like I need to tell you that she is still a part of our family, just out of sight for now.
I am so sad for you ((((hugs))))

Gillyan · 01/07/2009 19:44

wooly that souns lovely - the time u had at the hospital, glad they were so supportive,

I'm glad you have your family and friends around.

Been thinking of u all day xxx

chegirl · 01/07/2009 19:49

I am glad you have support at this terribly sad time woolyjo.

I am so sorry for the loss of your little girl.

Lilyloo · 01/07/2009 19:58

I am so sorry

iheartdusty · 01/07/2009 20:06

my heart goes out to you.
I am so sorry.

thatsnotmymonster · 01/07/2009 20:07

Woolyjo, I too am shocked and heartbroken for you.

How is Mae coping with it all, she would've been so excited.

I pray you can find some peace and know that Niamh will always be happy and perfect.

JRocks · 01/07/2009 20:12

I'm so, so sorry. What heartbreaking news

missworried · 01/07/2009 20:13

You sound like lovely parents. I am so sorry.My prayers are with you.

Frasersmum123 · 01/07/2009 20:30

What awful news. My heart really goes out to you.

Take care and stay strong.

Quiltedrose · 01/07/2009 20:31

Woolyjo only just heard, I can't come up with the words to say how very sorry I am to hear such sad news - it's every mother's worst nightmare and I can only admire the way you've tackled it head on. I don't think I could be so brave. I know that is absolutely no consolation but I've been thinking about you Mr Woolyjo and Niamh and have just shut my eyes as tight as I can to send some positivity your way. I don't think you ever get over it but you can get through it. Wish there was something I could do to help x

Acceber · 01/07/2009 21:11

I'm so sad to hear this news. Thinking of you and your family Woolyjo.

PacificDogwood · 01/07/2009 21:14

I am glad you felt you had good support at the hospital, and SANDS are truly wonderful.
Thinking of you today.

Northernlurker · 01/07/2009 21:22

So sorry to read this.

girlandboy · 01/07/2009 21:24

So sorry for you.

Saying a little prayer for all four of you.

mrstimlovejoy · 01/07/2009 21:30

so sorry for your lose.sleep tight little niamh x

TheFallenMadonna · 01/07/2009 21:42

Thinking of you and all your family. Take care.

Swipe left for the next trending thread