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DH died suddenly-need support and prayers please

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Evenstar · 29/06/2008 06:16

My DH passed away suddenly on Thursday 26 June, there has to be a post mortem and I cannot bring him home until the coroner releases his body. I am struggling to realise that he is gone, as I have been unable to go and see him owing to distance from home and mortuary being closed at weekend. Mum and brother are here, am getting amazing support from them, my 3 children and so many friends. I am finding it hard at night and getting up very early not wanting to wake others but feel need to chat.

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solodad · 29/06/2008 21:50

Evenstar, thinking of you at this terrible time.

I know through my own experience how difficult you will be finding things at the moment.

I also thought about your children, and that they will need support and help. These maybe of use www.winstonswish.org.uk & www.childhoodbereavementnetwork.org.uk

Thinking of you all. Solodad.

orangina · 29/06/2008 21:52

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best.

beingpositive · 29/06/2008 21:57

Really sorry to hear of your loss. Thinking of you

VanillaPumpkin · 29/06/2008 22:01

I am so sorry for your sudden and shocking loss. Deepest condolences.

TestyClay · 29/06/2008 22:03

So very sorry

onlytheone · 29/06/2008 22:10

I am so very sorry to hear that you are going through this. The evenings and early mornings are difficult - my DH died 6 weeks ago. You will be inundated with things to do during the day and with people and will be carried along like a tidal wave and then unfortunately will crash! Sorry to sound dramatic but in the end I found the quiet mornings and evenings a time to think, plan and reflect. I texted alot early in the morning and then as friends woke they replied. I am glad you have family and friends around you. Let them help and don't be afraid to ask for what you need. Contact me if you feel I can help you. It is early days for me too. DH died after a long illness but the end was sudden and unexpected.

magicfarawaytree · 29/06/2008 22:11

sorry to hear your news

SoMuchToBits · 29/06/2008 22:16

So very sorry to hear this - I am thinking of you.

x

ssd · 29/06/2008 22:16

onlytheone, I'm sorry for your loss too

1dilemma · 29/06/2008 22:18

oh Evanstar so very sorry for your loss, it's so unfair. I wish you and your family all the courage and strength you need
may your dh rest in peace

cheesesarnie · 29/06/2008 22:18

so sorry evenstar.thinking of you and your family

SalVolatile · 29/06/2008 22:19

Evenstar - I can only only say how sorry I am too I pray for peace for you all

hanaflowerisnothana · 29/06/2008 22:20

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Psychomum5 · 29/06/2008 22:35

I am so so sorry to hear your sad news....you and your children are in my thoughts and prayers.

OneLieIn · 29/06/2008 22:41

Sorry to hear your sad sad news Evenstar. Big hugs and lots of positive thoughts coming your way.

ThinWhiteDuchess · 29/06/2008 22:59

Evenstar, I am so very sorry to hear of your sad loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. xxx

Izabella · 29/06/2008 23:07

Evenstar, like so many others I want to say how sad and very sorry I was to read of your Dh's sudden death. You must be in a state of shock. I will definitely keep you & your family in my prayers. I hope that MN will be a source of support to you at this very sad time. There are a few of us on here who have lost our partners / spouses at a young age. Please do not hesitate to IM me if you want to chat. xxx

Aero · 29/06/2008 23:16

I'm so sorry to read this Evenstar. What a dreadful shock. Thinking of you all.

MrsJohnCusack · 29/06/2008 23:32

oh goodness you poor, poor thing
i hope mumsnet will help - there are great people and great advice on here - it's just so sad that so many have experience of such an awful thing

so sorry for your loss

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Evenstar · 29/06/2008 23:38

Thank you so much for all your wonderful messages, I am being buoyed by all the wonderful RL support that I have. Went to the church where we are holding the funeral to communion this morning and I felt much stronger, I have managed to organise my paperwork and sort out a few things. I will reply to some of you individually if I can find some time. Have been planning the order of service with dc's this evening, they are 11, 15 and 17, 11 year old ds has cried at bedtime for over an hour but I thought it was important for us all to be part of it.

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Spidermama · 29/06/2008 23:40

Evenstar. Don't feel you have to reply individually. You've so much to do. Just take it minute by minute.

BibiThree · 29/06/2008 23:40

I am so very sorry to hear this Evenstar. Our thougts are with you. xxx

Spidermama · 29/06/2008 23:41

I did want to point out though, in case you haven't seen, that Yorkiegirl would love to be in touch when you are ready. It wasn't long ago that her husband died very suddenly so she will understand a fair bit of what you're going through. She tried to message you but your settings wouldn't allow. She's there if you need her.

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Evenstar · 29/06/2008 23:44

I have unblocked CAT so hopefully should now be able to receive messages, I may be only on here at funny times when I can't sleep. I have got ready for bed and come down as I had a stack of e-mails to look at. I am overwhelmed by the support I am receiving from everyone on here and in RL. My aunt had prayers said for us at her church this morning, I feel surrounded by love, but the night hours are very hard and I have been getting up at first light as I want to start the day.

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Shitemum · 29/06/2008 23:44

Evenstar - So sorry. I'm glad your DCs are old enough that they will remember their DF, maybe this will give you some comfort and shared memories.