DH died suddenly-need support and prayers please

[Evenstar]

My DH passed away suddenly on Thursday 26 June, there has to be a post mortem and I cannot bring him home until the coroner releases his body. I am struggling to realise that he is gone, as I have been unable to go and see him owing to distance from home and mortuary being closed at weekend. Mum and brother are here, am getting amazing support from them, my 3 children and so many friends. I am finding it hard at night and getting up very early not wanting to wake others but feel need to chat.

Oh God Evenstar I am so so sorry. I don't know what to say, of course. What a horrendous shock. I do hope that you can visit your husband in the mortuary soon.

My thoughts are with you and I'm sure those of many other MNers will be when they start to come online.

I am hoping to bring him home early this week, wonderful kind lady at Coroner's office said they will call me and let me have him home just as soon as they can. Am having so much support in RL but don't want to wake others, we are all in shock and need sleep.

Thank you threadworm for your kind words.

I feel there is so little I can say that is helpful. But I do clearly remember visiting my mother at the undertakers to say goodbye, and it will be all the more valuable for you when you see your husband, because of the suddenness of his death. I can only begin to imagine how difficult to deal with that suddeness must be.

It is worrying me that he is alone if you understand what I mean. He went without me but I am told that it was instant, we believe a massive heart attack, and he would have known nothing about it. I broke down last night because my brother's mother-in-law is having a Mass said for the repose of his soul, and I was so glad because I keep thinking it is like he may be lost somewhere.

Yes, I think I can understand that. The Mass for the repose of his soul sounds a beautiful thing, and I will add my thoughts to it.

All good wishes to you and your family.

We are not Catholics ourselves, C of E but it was very comforting to think of it being done for him.

Oh Gosh. How terribly sad, Evenstar I have just seen this and want to say how sorry I am.

I can understand the early waking and it must seem very unreal. Perhaps once you have seen him your mind might be more able to settle.

Prayers for you dear, please take care, we are here xx

Sorry to hear about this Evenstar. I hope you will be able to see him soon. Glad to hear you have some good RL support, and there's always someone on MN for the antisocial hours!

Very sorry to hear your sad news Evenstar. Thinking about you and your children.

Thinking of you, evenstar.

I'm so sorry. It must be hard to make it real if you were not there at the time too - I hope you can see him soon. I also hope that the support around you continues as long as you need it. How are your children doing? Thinking of you.

How very sad, evenstar. I hope you can see him soon, so very important.

I'm so very sorry for you all

so sorry to hear your sad news. You know that MN will offer you all the "virtual" suport we can

Nothing useful to add but saw your post and couldn't not reply. I'm sure you'll get lots of virtual support here when you need it. Take care.

Oh I'm so sorry, I hope you do get to see him soon, wishing you lots of strength, x

I'm very sorry for your loss . Are your children old enough to understand what has happened to daddy?

So sorry to read that this awful thing has happened to you and your family. You're all in my thoughts...

evenstar im so sorry i dont know what to say im just very very sorry x

so sorry for your loss.

Evenstar - I am so, so sorry for your loss. I pray that God will give you strength to get through the next few days, it sounds like you have a wonderful, loving family and I pray they will always find the right ways to give you comfort.

So very sorry for your loss, Hope you manage to get him home soon. There will always be someone here to talk to

evenstar I'm really sorry for your loss- what happened? was it very sudden?

evenstar