The Sunflower Thread for bereaved mummies. For Gareth and Matthew - only a whisper away

[shabster]

Hello my new friends.

Come in, pull up a chair and have a gab

dont forget to send new addressx how is lewis growing i bet,our youngest grandaughter is crawling now,its so good to see her x

Am so pleased for you Shabs, i have checked the garage door today and no long term damage after its battering on Sat night!

Lewis is almost 9lbs now!! 5 weeks old - still got his ginger hair and a fiery temper to match. Once we get settled down in our new house I will make sure I get Danny to print some pics of baby for me. It has been a very busy 5 weeks and shows no sign of calming down

ROFL lottie!!

shabster thats great news.. its gonna be a busy week for you

hope it goes smoothly

I know Shabs, i took the prudent step of putting a message in the home school book for staff in residence to ring me the minute he got back,,, i can imagine it "Mummy shut me in the garage"!!!!

my dd are both redheads ,jayden was as is amelia but she is such a good baby ,hardly c
ries just loads of smiles,

FM - I failed you on the stories of my wekend front yesterday - sorry!

Well, we appear to have the beginnings of a family feud on my mums side - her brothers are claiming they didn't know about the division of my grandma's estate from when she died....28 years ago! One of them seems to be going through hard times money-wise and is obviously kicking up a stink in a really pathetic way, IMO. Very disrespectful to my grandma methinks! Same uncle was also peeved that although Aunts & Uncles were invited to whole day, cousins (like me) were only invited to the evening. He tried a bit of s**t stirring, but the rest of us all reckon weddings cost enough and weren't bothered not to go to the day!

One of my cousins was in rehab just after christmas following a prolonged and severe stint on drugs - she immediately told me I "look older" FFS! I haven't seen her for 7 years, of course I look older! Plus my daughter died 4 months ago - of course I look older! Plus she looks like utter crap! At the end of the evening she told me we must stay in touch cos we've both been through so much. I know addiction and rehab must be a tough thing to get through, but I have to fess up that I don't see the similarities between rehab and stillbirth....

But my biggest faux pas involved another cousins partner who I haven;t met before. I don't really know how to say this "correctly" so forgive me if I muck it up. Anyway, I introdiced myself to him and went to shake his hand. I don't know what is wrong/different with his hand but I think he was missing digits, or had a very small hand, or maybe both. But it was very obvious upon shaking it. So I open my big gob and say "Ooooh! You've got a surprise hand!". A "surprise" hand? What the hell was I thinking?

Additonally, dp was drunk and danced like a complete eejit! I was stone-cold sober and really felt the emabarassment - of well, I'm sure I've done the same to him in the past!

Anyway, Shabs, great news on the house. You're going to be in mayhem for the next few weeks! If I was nearer I'd come and lend a hand...

Lottie, glad the garage door is still standing!

FMN - good to hear from you - talk about 'you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family.'

Oh sweetheart - come here and give me a hug

Deep breathing, nice thoughts.xxxx

Hi everyone, just to update you, the hospital have found a bone marrow donor match but there are lots of things to put in place (i.e. donor being agreeable and still fit enough to donate) before they can do the transplant. Also DH needs to be in remission again so he is being given lots of chemo, and bless him, his hair is falling out once again. Must admit he was pretty p**d off today as they wanted to do a small operation to put in a hickman line (more permanent than a cannula) and he missed breakfast due to having an operation, then missed lunch because he was in theatre and he is now feeling hungry! Still nice to know he wanted some food as he hasn't eaten much at all this week.

dippy - so pleased for you and DH - so pleased. It must be an awful situation to be in. My love to you and your family - and a big snog for your DH.

I always used to send FMN DH snogs - not done it for ages....think I frightened him

But he misses your snogs Shabs!! I obviously don't provide enough, so he relies on you!

PMSL FMN!! Have put a new photo on my profile without the ginger beard

OK here we go

Shabs, i have to say Tom looks soooooooo like you, he definetly has your eyes, Im in London all tomorrow so positive vibes please girls that the Norwich to London trains and vice versa are behaving themselves.........

FMN - I pmsl @ the surprise hand. I know I shouldn't have laughed, but I can just imagine my dp saying something like that.

Shabs - good luck on the big move.

Lottie - hopefully National Express have got their act together and you won't have any delays. Will Wilf now be back home for the summer hols?

Dippy - great news about the donor, fingers crossed it all works out. My son had a hickman line and it was such a god-send. Will they be able to use it for the chemo and transplant as well?

Well, I'm just coming up to 33 weeks pregnant and feel massive. Baby is head down so I've now got that constant pressure on my right rib which I'm sure you ladies remember well. Apart from that, I really have nothing to complain about at the moment.

Take care xx

dippy thats great news ..its nice to hear you being positive again still hoping and praying it all goes well for you

fmn..it was worth the wait for your stories. Families can be really strange cant they ? Surely even if your uncle wasnt told about the division of your grans estate at the time surely he should have questioned it within a reasonable time of losing her .. not wait 28 years.

I too laughed at your suprise hand remark..I wouldnt worry about it too much its not exactly offensive is it ?? If anyone ever mentions it just use the always useful .. "its the hormones" excuse

lottie hope your train journey is uneventful.

moveit.. glad things are going well .. it was lovely when shabsters grandson arrived safe and well .. heres to the double (and the triple eventually FMN)

shabster are you packed??

oh goodness its nice to have everyone back

Wilfs home next Saturday, Mummy 2 and I are going down for sports day next Friday, guess who has to spur the other mothers up for the mothers race!!

I spoke to soon! The trains from London to Diss ar running late due to a fatality earlier... lets hope the Diss-London trains are ok!

Morning girls - it is good to all be back.

Almost packed - it has been hard work, especially with all the holiday washing but we are getting there. We get the keys and a decorating allowance on Friday. On Saturday we are having a 'painting' party!! My two friends, myself and DH are attempting to do every room. Giant buckets of Magnolia paint and off we piggin' go!!

Move it - Cant believe you are almost there! WOW. How fast does time go by? Im getting excited for you

Oh girls Triplets husband is not very well at all. Would appreciate your prayers and thoughts for all of them today especially. She is such a wonderful friend and she is hurting right now - I can tell that her mind is full of worries.

Please keep her in your thoughts today. If you want to leave her a post on the multiples thread please feel free xx

Multiples thread

Thank you my friends

I have left a message for Trips, blimey that poor lady had been through so much already, you'd think her and her dh would be given a bloody break.

Lottie - I hope your journey was uneventful. Funnily enough I turned the tv on this morning and the first things I saw was the local news and the train delays. I was very gggrrrrr for you.

Thank you moveit - Trips is a lovely lady. We have only met once in real life...but we have been great friends for many years. Thanks again

triplets thinking of you todayxxx hope dh is ok

Triplets... you are in my thoughts and prayers........

I have just got home, i had to deal with an obnoxious drunken commuter on the train who was making lecherous comments at me which i wont repeat here or my response... suffice to say he was humbled to the size of a hazelnut by the time id finished with him!!