I am not a berieved mummy, but my darling step neice lost her much loved and terribly hard come baby little boy three weeks ago and we burried him yesterday.
Hw was born in January after an extreamly traumatic birth and suffered from a lack of oxygen, due to medical negligence. He nearly died 5 times in the first four weeks of his life, but survived and thrived, even though the had cerable palsy. We all loved him, he was a joy, he loved to be in the company of children and was such a smily little man.
it seems he just died in his sleep, but as you can imagine, she is beside herself and we do not know how to offer any comfort. Infact I feel a terrible guilt because I am glad that my boys are OK and her little man is no longer with us.
It is so hard, all she wants is a miracle and to have her child back.
She asked for the following poem to be read at his funeral, as she feels as though she is no longer his mother:
What Makes A Mother
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say
A Mother has a baby
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can he replied
With confidence in his voice
I give many women babies
When they leave it is not their choice
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God
I want my baby here
He took a breath
and cleared his throat
And then I saw a tear
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear
My mummy loved me so much
I got to come straight here
I feel so lucky to have a Mum who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My Mummy set me free.
I miss my Mummy oh so much
But I visit her each day
When she goes to sleep
On her pillow is where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear
Mummy don't be sad today
I'm your baby and I am here"
So you see my dear sweet one
Your children are okay
Your babies are here in My home
And this is where they'll stay
They'll wait for you with Me
Until your lessons are through
And on the day you come home
they'll be at the gates for you
So now you see
What makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth
May not realize
Until their time is done
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are
A Special Mum
I am sorry for the intrusion, but what if any thing can I do, what did you need in the months after. Things are not over as there is going to be an inquest.
I am proud to have been a small part in such a special life.
Sorry again for the intrusion