My father just died

[Judy1234]

It's so sad but not unexpected. In a sense he died 2 years ago when the dementia was bad and he ceased to be able to communicate properly.

We're orphans now. He was 79 and our mother died at 75 only 3 years ago. That doesn't give us children a good life expectancy. The age your parents die is the best indicator of how long you will live.

He worked full time as a psychiatrist until he was 77.

I'm sorry to hear this Xenia. I'm also an orphan, father at 61, mother at 55. It doesn't always mean your life expectancy will be short though my grandmother outlived my father and died at 96 and his father died aged 75. Thinking of you at this time.

My friends father died on Friday but was buried on Sunday as they are Jewish and it has to be done quickly.

It must be awful having to wait to make all those arrangements.

Take care, we are thinking of you.

Sorry for your loss Xenia.

xenia.just seen this.very sorry for you.very sad news.

so sorry to hear this. x

Sorry to hear this Xenia. Hope you are bearing up ok.

So sorry for your loss xx

Xenia, I am very sorry for your loss.

I've only just seen this (on return from holiday).

Sincere condolences to you and your family Xenia. As other's have said, even when expected, the reality of death still hits very hard particularly when you are dealing not only with your own grief but also that of your children and extended family.

May he rest in peace.

The waiting is useful. It gives you time to find people, invite them, arrange things. Religions with quick burial periods don't allow time for all that but at least we have the date we want, Friday, week after he died so we were able to get it in the deaths columns today/tomorrow.

Sorry for your loss, Xenia. A parents death is not painless just because it was expected. Take Care.

so sorry.dreadful news, i am sure he will be missed

Bless you, Xenia. It's always a huge shock, even when expected.

Give him a wonderful send off, won't you?

Thank you.

You seem to get so bogged down in petty practical things - like do we serve drink at the house after and who is going to buy it and when but we did get it the announcement in The Times yesterday. It's also been quite amusing dealing with issues over the plot he owns at a cemetery that his father bought, the title deeds for that etc The grave diggers were there yesterday starting to prepare the soil.

I've only just seen this, Xenia. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you get some time to sit and think when all the busy time is done.

I saw an announcement in the Times yesterday that read as though it would have been your father.

I wish you and your family well with the arrangements and the day itself.

Sorry to hear about your father Xenia. Hope you and your siblings and children are able to help each other through this sad time.

I have only just seen this Xenia - really sorry to hear your sad news. You have always sounded so proud of your father and I am sure he was very proud of you too. Take comfort in the good times you spent together.

Take care of yourself.

alib, I expect that was indeed the death notice. The funeral went very well. It's just a bit tiring and stressful.

i've just seen this xenia.
so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss.

Another who has only just seen this; so sorry to hear about your dad Xenia. I'm glad the funeral went well.

how amazing he was to be a practicing psych till 77. That's admirable.

hope you can de-stress soon.

so sorry for your loss