My father just died

[Judy1234]

It's so sad but not unexpected. In a sense he died 2 years ago when the dementia was bad and he ceased to be able to communicate properly.

We're orphans now. He was 79 and our mother died at 75 only 3 years ago. That doesn't give us children a good life expectancy. The age your parents die is the best indicator of how long you will live.

He worked full time as a psychiatrist until he was 77.

i am sorry to hear this news xenia, my condolences

So sorry for your trouble Xenia - take care.

No matter how 'expected' a death is, or how 'ready' you feel for the inevitable, it is never easy.

Take care of yourself, and I'm sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss.

so true earlybird

i knew my mum was dying, i was there when she finally went, but however much you try and prepare yourself, you are never ready

it really knocks you

i really am truly sorry for your loss xenia

So very sorry, Xenia.

Oh Xenia, I am so sorry to hear about your dad, no matter how unexpected it was, it is still a kick in the guts.
In posts you have written on here in the past about your father, it has always been so obvious how much you love and admire your him and what a happy childhood your parents gave you.
Take care of your self, x.

Sending you my best wishes and condolences.

Look after yourself during these difficult timesxxx

I'm so sorry.

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I'm sorry .

Am very sorry Xenia - as other have said - no matter how much you know it is coming you are still never ready. Take care of yourself.

Very sorry to hear about this Xenia. We all know you to be a strong person and hope that it will get you through this terrible time. x

I'm sorry to hear that Xenia.

aw lots of sympathy.

many condolences. Please take care of yourself at this difficult time.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Xenia

Take care of yourself.

I'm sorry to read this Xenia. Your father must have been very proud of you and your family.

V. sorry for you - i am in a similar situation, my father died 2 weeks ago and had been suffering from dementia for 3 years- his quality of life for the last 18 months had been v. bad as unable to communicate v.well, incontinent, finding it difficult to swallow etc. I feel that bit by bit the dementia had taken him away from us before he died but it still hit me quite hard when he actually died - I think it's the strain of the last few years, I am now trying hard to remember him in his good days and how he would like to be remembered

very sorry for your loss x

Xenia that's so sad. But don't think about life expectancy, you can't predict these things. Hope you are ok x

I'm sorry for your loss.

It's a very odd feeling, not having either parent alive anymore - I felt suddenly very vulnerable when it happened to me. Look after yourself.