Well, Fathers Day can eff right off

[Emmeline1894]

Anyone else?! Dad died recently, I miss him terribly, and I’m finding myself cringeing at Fathers Day displays in shops. Anyone want to join me in steadfastly ignoring Fathers Day?

I have never paid any attention to mothers/fathers/valentines day and all that rubbish. I see the stuff and think meh, not for me and walk past. I have gone a bit blind to it all now TBH.

I can't say that Father's day means that much to me, as it didn't to my Dad, but so sad for those who are finding things hard. It gets better, but doesn't go away, my Mum (in her 90s, lost her father nearly 40 years ago) was lamenting the days when her father used to take us all out for lunch for Fathers day.

Then yesterday I was at the theatre, to see a play I had last seen with my Dad in London sometime in the mid 70s, trying to remember which theatre it was, and caught myself thinking "I must ask him if he remembers". He died over 20 years ago!
As I say, it gets better, but it doesn't go away.

Just coming back on to say I hope everyone who lost their Dad recently is doing ok. Still so unreal but also the lost real thing ever. I miss my Dad, and I try and do one thing every day for him. I don’t mean candles and moments, more cutting the grass and cleaning the windows, as he as a very practical man and he’d shake his head if I let things go…my ‘inheritance’ is a lot of tools and I use them and feel his legacy, if that makes sense.

Of all things, the supermarket pisses me off. All those things I’ll never buy again. Anyway, lots of love to you all.

10 years on I still have a huge dad shaped hole in my life. I have a mum shaped one now too for coming up on 4 years.

You are so right, it was the little practical things, done with love and pride, that we remember most. Such a precious legacy he has left within you.

I hate to say missing them never goes away, I wouldn't want to stop missing them (my eyes still tear up remembering him now), but it does, very slowly, get easier to bear.

So very sorry for your loss. X

I lost my dad just under 4 weeks ago. We always used to watch major football events together like England in tournaments, and our local team in the Premier League. I felt empty during the England game last night, and barely watched 15 minutes of it. I woke up this morning at 04.30am missing him lots.

 @Aikko - the early mornings lying awake are the worst, sorry about your Dad too x