Well, Fathers Day can eff right off

[Emmeline1894]

Anyone else?! Dad died recently, I miss him terribly, and I’m finding myself cringeing at Fathers Day displays in shops. Anyone want to join me in steadfastly ignoring Fathers Day?

My sons' dad tragically took his own life yesterday. Father's day cards everywhere in the shops today.

@Emmeline1894 Thank you for this thread I didn’t realise I needed to talk about my Dad but I did!!

You are not alone...mine also died a month ago after being taken ill a couple of weeks earlier.
Ignoring the card displays and threatening to buy myself his traditional bar of toblerone (we don't really do mother/fathers day gifts).

Oh I’m so sorry!! I have no words! I hope you have lots of support and people around you!

I don't have both parents, but don't begrudge others celebrating these special days for their parents.

Whether it's a money grabbing scheme or a genuine day to celebrate Fathers (and Mothers on Mother's Day), I like the fact that parents / guardians get to be celebrated.

It was like he knew it would be his last Father’s Day card 😔

Like you feelikeanalien my DH died two years ago and I have three with SN now all adults and it so hard. No making cards no sneaking presents in and hiding them. I find it so hard.

Very raw here too, my Dad died in February. I'm really not sure how to handle it. I still have a FIL my husband wants to see. I have a son who wants to see his Dad. I'd just like to sleep through it and wake up the next day.

Very sorry to hear of all the losses on this thread. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone - there’s a silent army of us sharing this sadness.

I don’t begrudge people celebrating at all. I just miss my Dad. I want to tell people browsing the stuff in the shops ‘BUY ALL OF IT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!’. Do all of it, spend time with them. I suppose that’s the only glimmer in all of this - I’ll go spend time with my mum. You never know what’s around the corner.

Sorry for everyone’s loss, my thoughts are with you all.
My dad died unexpectedly in July 2021. covid and lock down took a huge chunk of time away from us, little did we know at the time. I’ve cried a lot today - I haven’t ugly cried like that for a long time. I’ll probably delete Instagram and Facebook apps tomorrow to avoid everything over social media and try to keep busy.

Yes, it's heartbreaking, like all the unnecessary promotions of such days. However my DH is a father also so of course I do the celebrations for him and visit my own beloved Dad at his resting place.

During the times of grief you walk around like a zombie, everyone else seems to just be getting on and inside you have this huge, heavy pain. Try your best to distance yourself from the advertising, ignore it, maybe think that you did used to buy these gifts and you still can.

Sending love and hugs 🫂

@JollyHostess101 thank-you

It's hard isn't it. This is the first Father's Day since my dad died and I have found the emails upsetting. Sorry for everyone's losses.

Yes. I lost my Dad in April.

I'm trying to ignore it. But for a fleeting moment when I saw a display in a window, I thought "I mustn't forget to get something for Dad. " then I remembered ...

It's very hard 😞

It’s a punch to the gut when you forget for a split second, I really feel for you. A couple of times I’ve woken up in the morning and forgotten, then it hits me like a ton of bricks. Just a couple of days ago I thought to myself ‘I must text my dad and ask if he wants to do x, y, z’ then remembered.

It’s a really tough one to take. I miss my dad desperately. He’s been gone 5 years this sept. Since then my DH is now a daddy to our two boys so I try to make it about him and also my FIL. My dad would want that. It is horrible tho standing and picking out cards without being able to buy my own dad one x

Not me but my son lost his dad. He's only a child and has made him a fathers day card in school to put on his grave. Rips my heart out knowing he has to do this instead of actually seeing him 💔

It's shit. I've unsubscribed from a few emails because seeing them upset me. Taking DS to pick out a card for DH (had to get a birthday card too so we were stood there forever) was painful. Found a "For Grandad on Father's day" card I'd bought and put away in the cupboard which will now never get sent.

It's just sad and shit.

Hugs and / or large glasses of gin (depending on your preference) to everyone else having a rough time right now.

My darling dad died a couple of years ago. But I don’t think of him on Father’s Day as it was never a thing other than giving him a card and gift.

I think more about my husband and making sure it’s a lovely day for him, rather than a sad one for me, as he’s a fantastic dad.

I lost my father and husband within months of each other. I'm absolutely fine with ignoring any references to father's day - it doesn't seem that big a deal. I told the school not to worry about it when they had the kids do cards. The kids were happy to make cards for him. Of course now we just ignore the it all.

So sorry, for both your losses. Can't imagine how hard losing them both must have been for you x

I hope everyone is ok today. I had a big ugly cry last night. Today I'm going to avoid social media and make sure my DH has a nice day.

Ahh I had an awful day yesterday too!!

Sending lots of love to everyone today!

Sending love from here too. Seen mum, pottered in the garden, now watching Netflix. So comforting to know I’m not alone.

Hope everyone had a bearable day. Didn't want to get out if bed but met my sister at my dads grave and we spent a couple hours there. Was nice as I had comfy camping chairs for us to sit on. Didn't feel like cooking when I got home so just got kids a takeaway xx