Dad died today

[Sycamoretree]

I've mentioned here and there on other threads that my dad was very ill. He'd been fighting cancer since his diagnosis last May. He died at the hospice this morning. No one was with him, which is just so sad - we have been visiting morning, afternoon and evening, but somehow we missed it. I just have no idea what to feel - it's very surreal. We have known he would die for so long, and we haven't been able to communicate to him for over a week, but I still can't quite make sense of what has happened.

Very sad news. Best wishes to you and your family.

Sorry for your loss

deepest sympathy.

My sympathies to you sycamore

so sorry Sycamoretree - this is so hard for you.

sorry for your loss

So sorry for loss of your Dad

Sorry to hear this sycamoretree. Hope you and your family are bearing up.

So sorry

. So sorry for your loss.
Please take comfort in the fact that perhaps he felt ABLE to go when no-one was there. When my Dad died (3yrs ago of Cancer), we were with him all day. The one time my siblings went to get food, Mum popped out for a cup of tea, and I was feeding my 6 week old DS, he went.

It will be awful, but his hard fight is over now, and he is at peace, and no longer suffering.

Be kind to yourself, sleep well, and take care. You have hard days ahead - but it does get easier.

ST I am so sorry for your loss.

Yes you are right, all will seems surreal, I rememeber that 'walking through treacle' feeling .

Sending you all love and peace

so very sorry- it doesn't matter if you have had time to prepare or not, it hits you the same.

Hope you are ok

x

So very sorry for your loss .

Try not to worry that you weren't with him when it happened. Im sure that he has known your love and concern and also known you have all been visiting so much.

I used to work at our local childrens hospital. One ward had children who were in coma's as a result of RTA's etc. There were big posters all over the walls telling staff to think before they spoke as they believed that our hearing is there until the very end. When some of the children recovered they would always say they had been able to hear everything their visitors and the staff had said.

Once again so very sorry for your loss - will be thinking about you.

Sorry for your loss

very sorry to hear your terrible news Sycamoretree

So sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad nearly 3 years ago. Some of the nurses where my Dad died said that it is quite common for a person to die while no one is there, even though you've been there 24 hours normally. Perhaps it is to save you the extra pain. Sorry if that sounds cliched.
It takes a long time to make sense of the loss. Be patient with yourself and know that you will come through this and feel "normal" again.

I'm so sorry,it sounds very sad and hope you find your way through all the feelings.

SycamoreTree, I'm so sorry.

. sending my sympathies for your sad loss.

please don;t feel sad tho for not being there with your dad when he died. sometimes death happens when your loved ones aren;t there, for the very reason that they wait for the best time to pass on. it is their way maybe of ensuring 'their' love living on not marred memories they don;t wish for you to carry.

you are in my thoughts

sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry that your Dad has died.

Don't add to your pain by imagining him all alone when he died - he will have known from your constant visits that he was well loved. And when it comes down to it - to die knowing that you are loved is as good a death as it gets I think

so sorry for your loss thinking of you and your family

Thanks everyone. I think Dad would have chosen to go without us there. He was never one for a fuss, and though we were desperate to be holding his hand, he probably wanted to spare us the pain. I hope he did hear us - the nurses said hearing is usually the last thing to go, so in the end we just used to chat amongst each other about what was happening with the family and all his GC's and tried to stay cheerful. I am glad he is at peace - the last 10 days have been pure hell watching him waste away. I just think cancer is the most god awful disease imaginable. What it does to a person, and to their families is just so cruel. Thank goodness for the nurses at the hospice, who have been incredible. I am in awe of them.