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My mother is critically ill...

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/12/2007 21:09

and unlikely to survive
she is in hospital on a BiPap and it probably will be taken off tomorrow as it is not helping.
We (the family) are preparing for the worst to happen very soon

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beansprout · 15/12/2007 21:10

I'm very, very sorry to hear that. I wish you and your family well.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 15/12/2007 21:11

Oh Spooky, I am so sorry to hear this. Was it expected?

I wish I could say/do more to comfort you

emkana · 15/12/2007 21:12

I'm really sorry that you're having such a worrying time.

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/12/2007 21:12

Mum has COPD (lung disease) as well as Diabetes and other problems. She is in heart failiure and not a candidate for resuscitation as it stands because her lungs are not strong enough to withstand resuscitation

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ColdasIce · 15/12/2007 21:14

So sorry my thoughts are with you and your family .

Wishing you strength.

xx

BoysAreLikeReindeer · 15/12/2007 21:14

So sorry to hear this.

Nothing can prepare you for the death of a parent, I am holding you in my thoughts

MarsyChristmas · 15/12/2007 21:15

I'm sorry

TenLordsaLapin · 15/12/2007 21:16

So sorry Spooky

noddyholder · 15/12/2007 21:16

So sorry

sallystrawberry · 15/12/2007 21:18

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 15/12/2007 21:20

Spooky, I hope this isn't inappropriate. But if you don't want your mum's last moments to be in hospital, it may be worth speaking to the ICU Dr's and ask if she can be taken home and extubated at home.

I will be thinking of you and yours xx

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/12/2007 21:20

Its my Dd1's birthday today too. Not been fun for her, mum not been home.

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/12/2007 21:21

Iliketomoveit, shes not intubated, just the BiPap and a nasal trumpet in. Tbh I think hospital is the best place for her. They can manage her final moments there better than we could at home. But thank you.

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VVVExcitedAboutChristmasQV · 15/12/2007 21:21

So very sorry.

MerryPIFFLEmas · 15/12/2007 21:22

I'm so sorry Spooky, what adreafully streesful time it is for you
wishing you luck and strength xx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 15/12/2007 21:22

I should have said, I mentioned this as not many people realise it is an option and can take away the upset of having a loved one die outside of the home.

If you would like to discuss further let me know xx

BeeEm · 15/12/2007 21:23

so sorry.
my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Waswondering · 15/12/2007 21:23

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 15/12/2007 21:23

Cancel my last post, I have just seen your last one xx

Ledodgy · 15/12/2007 21:24

so sorry to read this spooky.

SpacecadetLovesChristmas · 15/12/2007 21:26

Im so sorry Spooky

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SpookyMadMummy · 15/12/2007 21:44

I feel useless at the mo. I am waiting for the phone to ring as my Stepfather had prostate cancer surgery so I am the first contact.

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ChippolataMinton · 15/12/2007 21:45

I am so sorry to hear this ((((spooky))))

frostythesnowmum · 15/12/2007 21:52

Spooky I'm so sorry to hear this
There is always hope. My fil has copd and is o2 dependent - he has been on bi-pap mulitple times and we have been told he will not survive the night but he has and is currently out of hospital at home.