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My husband has died

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peachgreen · 28/10/2020 21:45

He died today. He was 42. He had recently been diagnosed with a heart condition and spent a month in hospital but we believed he was going to be okay. He went upstairs for a rest and they think he had a heart attack. He didn't cry out, they think it would have been fairly instant. I found him when I went to check on him a few hours later and I knew he had gone, I did CPR but I knew it was too late.

He was my soul mate, my other half, the true love of my life. We have a little girl who is almost 3. If it wasn't for her I would kill myself. I can't imagine life ever having any meaning without him.

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FiveShelties · 29/10/2020 01:09

I am so very sorry peachgreen

Gothamgirl1970 · 29/10/2020 01:10

I know we don’t know each other but I have been following all the posts on the other thread since September. I don’t know words that can express how heartbroken I am for you.

If you are reading this but are too shell shocked to post but can’t sleep in your grief, I am a night owl usually until 4am so DM me at any time. I was a widow at 33 and although my Husband wasn’t nearly as wonderful as Mike, it still was a devastating shock.

My love and sympathy to you and your daughter.

FuckYouCorona · 29/10/2020 01:25

I'm so sorry. Flowers

Seeingadistance · 29/10/2020 01:32

I’m am so sorry to hear such tragic news about Mike. Sending you much love.

Strokethefurrywall · 29/10/2020 01:33

Jesus Christ, I'm so truly sorry to read your post. I remember your previous posts, what an unthinkable and devastating loss you're suffering.

Sending you so much strength through the inter web. And many prayers xxx

Fungster · 29/10/2020 01:35

I'm so sorry. I don't have the words. God bless you all.

Tolleshunt · 29/10/2020 01:36

I’m so so sorry peach for you and your little girl. Words are so inadequate. But I’m really so sorry. Flowers

CatAndHisKit · 29/10/2020 01:39

This is so dreadful, OP ...at 42 as well.
Huge sympathy - you must be feeling numb and as if it's not real.

DailyCandy · 29/10/2020 01:49

I’m so sorry for your loss. I remember your previous thread - I’m shocked to hear your heartbreaking news. X

WagnersFourthSymphony · 29/10/2020 01:59

Flowers for Mike
RIP

So sorry for your loss, peachgreen

MadisonAvenue · 29/10/2020 02:03

I’m so sorry Flowers

Juliehooligan · 29/10/2020 02:06

God bless you and your little one. Xx

echt · 29/10/2020 02:12

So very sorry for your loss, peachgreen

Many Thanks

eaglejulesk · 29/10/2020 02:22

I'm so terribly sorry to hear this. What a shock for you, it must have been horrible. Hugs to you and your little girl. Flowers

ClarenceBoddicker · 29/10/2020 02:31

Happened to my dad same age but was older than 3 when it happened and have been paranoid for years about going the same way and am now there. Just want to get past 42. Very very sorry for you. It’s no age to go

Chocaholic9 · 29/10/2020 02:35

I'm so very sorry, @peachgreen.

ClarenceBoddicker · 29/10/2020 02:36

Thought 42 seemed a lot older until I got there. Can’t contemplate dying right but he did. It’s constant worry so must have affected me. Can’t wait till I get past that milestone as am anxious. Really sorry for you and the children

Hooleywhipper · 29/10/2020 02:49

Sending love and strength to you OP, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Nancydrawn · 29/10/2020 03:12

Mike sounds truly wonderful. I am so sorry for your loss of him.

peachgreen · 29/10/2020 03:28

I just can't believe it. I keep having to remind myself that he's not coming back. It's indescribable pain. He was such a wonderful person, just perfect. I don't see how I can ever be anything even close to happy without him.

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Josette77 · 29/10/2020 03:38

That is horrific. I am so sorry.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 29/10/2020 03:43

@peachgreen - so sorry to read of your awful loss. Thanks

I know that this is the worst thing ever for you and your little girl right now, and will be for some time to come. At the moment you're in a world of pain and can't see any good times ahead - but there will be, eventually.

Focus now on putting one foot in front of the other and just breathing. Let anyone and everyone who can help you, help you. Anyone who tries to put anything on you, get them away from you.

If you haven't already heard of the circle of grief, or ring theory then this is how it goes - make sure that you pour your grief and pain out of the centre (where you are) and that only support and care come INTO the centre. katyslifestory.com/2016/09/25/the-ring-theory-or-how-you-can-help-others-deal-with-loss/

Your DD might be too little, but www.winstonswish.org/ have some excellent resources for bereaved children.

And there's also the www.widowedandyoung.org.uk/ support group for whenever you're ready to access help.

((((hugs)))) for you and your DD Flowers

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 29/10/2020 03:50

So sorry for your loss @peachgreen Thanks

fullofhope100 · 29/10/2020 04:04

Oh OP I'm so so sorry. xxxxx

custardbear · 29/10/2020 04:09

So sorry to hear about your loss. How cruel life can be sometimes, 42 is too young to die. Sending you ❤️💖❤️ xx