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my babies death - very morbid, but you may like to read!!

115 replies

Gorgeousxxx · 04/10/2007 18:59

Hi

I had a gorgeous little girl 9w and 3d ago, she was fullterm 39weeks, 8 hours after giving birth she was having her first check and was taken to special care, she had trouble breathing, the nurses thought he had swallowed meconium and just needed abit of help, this didnt clear after two days so was taken to a intensive care unit where she was put on a ventilator, paralysed and they tried to see what this was her lungs were very haze on x-ray, she then was giving medications after medications to cure this infection, nothing was working. she was then transferred up to London to a huge lung disease intensive care unit, had again mega tests done and the answers were still negative, nothing showed that she had a condition, this is horrendous to go through let alone to tell.
again she was put on a ventilator and tests wre carried out - the specialists advised that there was nothing they could help her with and she was dying. They gave her 2 weeks to live, a further 4 weeks on she was still fighting but by this time she was detiriorating and all we could do was love my little girl, the most gorgeous thing in my life.

The diagnosis then came back that this was a genetic disorder and she was suffering with a lethal incurable lung disorder called serfactant deficiency. She died monday 1st october 07, very peacefully. Please pray that our daughter is in safe hands now. God bless my angel and sleep tight.

If anyone has been through this then please mail back....

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cupcakes · 04/10/2007 20:31

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

xx

BetsyBoop · 04/10/2007 20:32

I am so sorry for your loss

hugs

BetsyBoop · 04/10/2007 20:34

that was supposed to be {{hugs}}, I wasn't really trying to make a hyperlink

hertsnessex · 04/10/2007 20:36

gorgeous, how awful, life is so unfair at times. wishing you lots of love.

cx

oreGOREnianabroad · 04/10/2007 20:36

My thoughts go out to you.

Klaw · 04/10/2007 20:40

I know someone (from another board) who recently had a baby girl who died less than 17 hours later. She has not mentioned surfactant deficiency, I don't think they know what caused her problems.... hse was born with brain injury and meconium aspiration, afaik.

Anyway, she has been incredibly brave and I am in awe of mums like you both.

I am so terribly sorry for your loss and cannot imagine what it must be like....

TheApprentice · 04/10/2007 20:40

Can't imagine what you must be going through and am so very sorry. xx

constancereader · 04/10/2007 20:40

I am so sorry for the loss of your lovely baby.

Sexonlegs · 04/10/2007 20:41

I cannot begin to understand how you feel, but could not go without posting. I am so terribly sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

margoandjerry · 04/10/2007 20:47

I am so sorry gorgeous. You and your girl are in my thoughts.

AitchTwoOh · 04/10/2007 20:50

oh gorgeous, you are being so brave, just like your wee daughter.

triplets · 04/10/2007 21:54

My heart aches for you, so many sad threads on here, each one very special. I know your pain, please take your time to grieve for her, so many good meaning people want to rush you on, move at your pace and be kind to yourself. You will wonder how you will get through this, but you too will be given the strength, not sure where it comes from, I believe mine came from my son himself. Sending you lots of love and we are all here for you, xxxx

tizzwhizz · 04/10/2007 22:21

So Sorry - dont know what else to say.

MargosBeenPuttingSpellsOnMN · 04/10/2007 22:26

In my prayers x

cornsilk · 04/10/2007 22:27

very sorry gorgeous.

callmeovercautious · 04/10/2007 22:28

You and your darling girl are so brave. I have not heard of the condition but this site has many member so someone may have.

God bless your Angel x

Whooosh · 04/10/2007 22:32

So,so sorry for you and DH.....and of course the little one.

NotAnOtter · 04/10/2007 22:35

how very heartbreaking
all you who have lost - my love and thoughts are with you

swag · 04/10/2007 22:36

So sorry for you

Cashncarry · 04/10/2007 22:42

You're courage is truly inspiring - your little angel must be proud of her mummy. God bless her, you and all your family

edam · 04/10/2007 22:45

I'm so very sorry, Gorgeousxxx. Bless your little girl.

welliemum · 04/10/2007 22:48

So sorry

Jojay · 04/10/2007 22:49

Gorgeous - I'm in awe at your strength and dignity at such a heartbreaking time.

I'm sure you will continue to remember the happiness she brought you in her short life.

xxxxx

TheCurseOfTheMhummy · 04/10/2007 22:50

So sorry for your loss.

daisyandbabybootoo · 04/10/2007 22:54

I'm so sorry for your loss

..and not morbid, but rather very brave of you to share your story.

Wishing you strength for the coming weeks and months.