My lovely dad

[thefishthatcouldwish]

My lovely dad passed away a week ago after a dad being in hospital for 3 weeks recovering from a brain aneurysms.

Although on the surface I'm ok my heart hurts.

Coupled with Covid 19 where I work looking after key worker children and the fact that the ivf we were due to have next month was cancelled I get why but things are spiralling in my head.

So very sorry for the loss of your precious Dad 💐
So disappointing about your IVF too. Hope it’s not too long before you get a bed appointment
Sending love 💓

I’m so sorry to hear this. My dad died on Thursday night so I know a bit how you feel. Things will get better. I promise. Be kind to yourself. Xxx

I'm so sorry, OP, and so sorry for you, too, @ellie2201. What an awful time for you both.

I'm sorry OP

Sending you lots of strength and love.

I'm so sorry. My dad died suddenly (though he had so many things wrong with him) on Tuesday and its been a really hard week. I wake up every morning with things whirling round in my head

I’m so sorry,

I lost my darling Dad last month. Although I miss him every hour of the day I can now look at lovely photos of him and smile rather than cry now.

Just about and it’s been 6 weeks.

Massive condolences.

@CMOTDibbler

exactly the same as mine. Many things wrong with him but even though we knew it would happen it’s still such a shock when it actually does isn’t it?

Condolences

We need to be careful not to lose the fact that life is being shit to loads of people like it always is. And it's ok to be angry about that. Not everything is covid. Im so sorry about your dad. Take time out to grieve.

Oh OP - and CMOT (I meant to reply to you on EP)

Big hugs

The early stages are so tough. The most helpful thing that was said to me was the least eloquent. A neighbour said “it’s just shit isn’t it”.

I am passing that on because it was the most helpful remark. Will you believe me if I say it gets better? I’m 18 months on. You will laugh at things again and memories will become happy. I know it seems impossible now. Just keep swimming, as they say

thefish and ellie thinking of you and a prayer for your lovely Dads.

So sorry - my dad died last Sunday - so many if us here suffering

It’s comforting to know I’m not alone.

What’s even more shit is I can’t go and see my mum because I’ve been in close contact with key worker kids all week and can’t risk passing cv 19 onto her. We just want to hug each other.

This too shall pass. Sending you all love xx

Thoughts with you Ellie2201 I had moved in with mum to help her care fir dad in his final few days but my brothers are in your position we truly emphasise

I'm so sorry for all of your losses of your lovely Dads
My Dad passed away 6 weeks ago.

for all.

Nothing constructive to add but prayers to you and your family! Hope your father is at peace and your IVF attempt is successful

So sorry about your dad.

So sorry for your losses of your dads. I was going to @ you all but didn't want to miss anybody out.

Its hard with the current state of the world as everything is tipped upside down.

Oh bless you op and to all of you who are recently bereaved

I am so very sorry to hear this and am sending love and strength and hugs to you
all

💕💐💕💐💕💐💕💐💕

How’s everyone doing?
I have periods of calm and feeling ok followed by extreme grief. Today I also feel a bit panicky.

Ellie, having to do all all the adulting is making me panicky. Not only do I have to deal with dads estate, but I have to use my power of attorney to take over all mums affairs, organise her going into a permanent care home, and sell the house etc etc etc. So many things to deal with, and everythings harder to organise

CMOTDibbler, I can’t imagine how stressful that just be. I’m very lucky that my mum is coping well with sorting all that out.
I bet it’s so much harder with all the covid shut down as well. Sending you strength - it will all get done and you will get through this.

Yesterday was the worst day since he died, I couldn't cope at all with it. God knows what the neighbours thought, we're in a semi and they must have heard me wailing. It's the first time I've had a massive cry about, appallingly it was in front of my DCs, normally I cry quietly into my pillow or in the bathroom with the shower on full.

Don’t feel bad for showing emotion in front of your guild ten. It’s part of being human and it’s completely normal to be upset right now. I don’t think you need to hide it all the time. Thinking of you xx

@thefishthatcouldwish how are you doing? X