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CAN I TAKE A MOMENT TO REMEMBER MY BABIES.....

95 replies

lissie · 28/08/2007 22:14

i had an ectopic pregnancy in february before that i'd had 3 mcs in the space of 18m and since ive had another 2. i just want to say: i miss you all very much, i love you and wish that we could have met x

bit maudlin and self-obsessed, but i just wanted to get it out. thought it might be "nice" to have a rememberance thread for our lost beans

OP posts:
Bouncingturtle · 11/09/2007 17:58

I lost my baby at 9 weeks. Can't help but think that I could have been a mummy now
I just try to keep focussing on the new beanie growing inside me.
Sympathy to all who have lost their los.

smeeinit · 11/09/2007 18:01

remembering my baby jo taken from me in feb 1994.
also tayla and brandyn,still borns 1999 and 2000.
remembering you all with lots of love.

fransmom · 13/09/2007 21:58

(((((((((((piggley)))))))))))))

(((((((((((bouncing turtle))))))))))))

(((((((((((smee))))))))))))))

bouncing turtle you are still a mummy sweetheart, it's just your first baby is in heaven playing with the angels and all the other children that passed over

bubblesbabe · 14/09/2007 10:00

what a lovely thread - I would like to remember my two babies lost at 12 and 9 weeks (last one in July this year). I like to think that they will always be part of me anyway regardless of the fact that I cannot see and hug them.
Lots of love to all who have lost babies at whatever stage xxxxx

Pod1 · 14/09/2007 10:32

Sitting here in floods of tears reading this! Especially like sweetkitty's theory - that's lovely. Wish I'd known about the site when I lost my little one last year. Felt like I was the only one in the world going through it. It helps to talk

fransmom · 15/09/2007 20:58

for bb's babes

ScottishMummy · 15/09/2007 21:15

sad - best wishes and thinking about your sad loss, so difficult

moljam · 15/09/2007 21:22

sorry for all of you.

spottyshoes · 15/09/2007 21:26

What a lovely idea to remember all of our lost little ones.
I had been ttc for 2 years and last year fell pg 3 times one after another. I lost my 1st 2 babies and with each pregnancy I had a colleague that had an EDD's within days of mine. It was so hard not to be bitter when they complained about their pregnancies to me and I had to watch them grow and go on to have their babies. I now have a ds born in April and people dont seem to remember my other babies - but I will always raise a glass on 22nd September and 25th January.

Thoughts drift back to bygone days,
Life moves on, but memory stays x

(((hugs))) to everyone who has experienced loss.

yama · 15/09/2007 21:48

I haven't cried so much in such a long time. You are all so eloquent - I salute you.

fransmom · 15/09/2007 22:26

my first (and only so far) mc - was a girl. i just knew it was - she is 13

charleymouse · 18/09/2007 14:40

Thanks Fransmom, yes it does help when others are posting similar things. I especially appreciated the roses. DT1 had nine white roses on his coffin (one for each hour of his life) and then all the mourners threw a white rose (9 in total) into the grave.
Sweetkitty like your theory on their little souls.
Big hugs to everyone remembering their babies.

fransmom · 18/09/2007 20:03
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lissielou · 29/09/2007 12:24

nubbin was due on the 1st oct, so we have decided to spend the day out as a family. feel so sad today.

fransmom · 30/09/2007 21:10

hi (((((((((((((lissie))))))))))))))))

have just emailed you sweetheart x

for lissie and family

whoops · 30/09/2007 21:11

{{{{HUGS}}}}} Lissie

Have been think of you the last few days xxx

lissielou · 01/10/2007 07:24

thank you, cant believe its here already

Bouncingturtle · 01/10/2007 07:34

{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}} thinking of you on your sad day.

lissielou · 01/10/2007 07:56

thank you. i know that there are lots of people on here who have been through worse but im still v sad

cedar12 · 01/10/2007 08:16

Lissie thinking of you I cant believe how quickly time goes by. My lost babies would 2 1/2 and a few weeks old today

lissielou · 01/10/2007 08:21

oh cedar x

fransmom · 02/10/2007 19:42

hi lissie i'm sorry i didn't post yesterday. i was thinking about you though. sweetheart, your losses are your losses and while you think that other people are going through worse, please don't do that and "downgrade" your own losses - they are still important to you.

cedar sometimes it helps to have something to remember your child(ren) by - maybe you could plant a tree in your garden and dress it on anniversaries? ((((((((((((cedar)))))))))

sparklesandwine · 02/10/2007 20:12

big hugs to you lissie and everyone else who has experienced losses of any kind its sad to think of DS1 found the scan photos of our lo who we lost a while ago and that was very painful

bigs hugs to you all xx

fransmom · 02/10/2007 20:27

(((((((((((((Sparkles))))))))))))))))

Heartmum2Jamie · 09/10/2007 00:25

Sending much love and lots of hugs to all the mothers of angels.

I lost my second baby at 9 weeks. I feel that it was a little girl. She would be 3 1/2 now. As it is, she is a guardian angel for my youngest ds (3.3), who was born with a serious heart condition. I know now that my little girl had a purpose, to protect and watch over her little brother, and she is doing a wonderful job. Not a day goes by when I don't think of her.

All our precious babies deserve to be remembered