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CAN I TAKE A MOMENT TO REMEMBER MY BABIES.....

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lissie · 28/08/2007 22:14

i had an ectopic pregnancy in february before that i'd had 3 mcs in the space of 18m and since ive had another 2. i just want to say: i miss you all very much, i love you and wish that we could have met x

bit maudlin and self-obsessed, but i just wanted to get it out. thought it might be "nice" to have a rememberance thread for our lost beans

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fransmom · 28/08/2007 22:57

oh bab xxx i thought it sounded quite recent, it also sounds like it's just kind of hit you iyuwim

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lissie · 28/08/2007 22:59

tbh, i think it has.

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fransmom · 28/08/2007 22:59

for lissie i don't know where you live, so can only offer them virtually.

for the memory of your babies

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lissie · 29/08/2007 09:37

thank you. x

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LilRedWG · 29/08/2007 09:42

Lissie sweetie. We will always remember our babies. xxx

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lissie · 29/08/2007 09:56

red, ive missed you!

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LilRedWG · 29/08/2007 09:57

I've missed you too.

mufti · 29/08/2007 10:01

trying to to well up, i know i will see my lost ones in heaven one day and that helps a lot

mufti · 29/08/2007 10:01

sorry, "not to well up.."

belgo · 29/08/2007 10:12

Lissie - I don't know what to say, except thinking of you and wishing you all the bestxxx

Christie · 29/08/2007 10:39

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lissie · 29/08/2007 10:42

oh christie! x

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becklespeckle · 29/08/2007 11:02

We never forget our lost little ones and I do believe we will be with them again one day. I went to a number of psychic meetings last year and one medium told me he saw 5 children around me - at the time I had my 2 DSs and had lost 3. Another medium (on another occasion) told me that I had lost a little boy, he was with my Mum (who died around the time I had my 2nd m/c) and would come back to me when the time was right.

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lissie · 29/08/2007 14:04

thats really comforting. it helps to see them as "real" and i dont think anyone can truly understand unless they've mc'd themselves

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fransmom · 29/08/2007 16:17

liss, i'm not sure what you or anyone else here (besides me!) believe or how you're going to take what i will be saying but i know that mc children grow up on the other side of life, as it were, and learn their life lessons there. our families that have passed on before are there with them and helping them, just like we would be if things had been different. i think it's just like going to school in a way.

so christie, you may sometimes have found that when your dd was younger, she would've been talking to herself sometimes. she may well have been talking to her guardian angel or her twin that passed on before s/he was born.i believe that your dd's twin will be right beside her through her life.

i hope i have not offended anybody, i just wanted to tell you what i know and to bring you some comfort x

lissielou · 30/08/2007 21:32

i like that idea.

missytrouble · 30/08/2007 21:36

Oh lissie so sorry. its not maudlin at all. I think of my little peanut every day.

fransmom that was a lovely post. I too believe that our relatives look after the babies. I know my mum is looking after peanut for me. xx

Christie · 31/08/2007 01:37

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charleymouse · 31/08/2007 02:07

So sorry Lissie, hope you are getting through what must be an awfully difficult time.

Christie I am wondering the same hing as I lost one of my twin boys earlier this year. He could only sustain life whilst in the womb. As soon as he was in air he was unable to breathe. I know I am blessed to have had the chance to meet him and I have photos of both boys together but I wonder how to broach the subject. Obviously I will not need to for a while but it still worries me.

I think they are still here in spirit and I feel DT2 likes compny more than my singleton DD did as he misses his brother even though most of my family laugh this idea off.

fransmom · 09/09/2007 20:56

cm, i think that there may come a day when dt(?)2 tells you. he will see it as completely normal but it won't be until he's olderr that he may relaise that not everyone thinks the same way as he does.

i am very wary who i tell about what i know but on here there are a lot of people posting about similar things and it helps to know that you're not alone, doesn't it?

anyone on this thread is quite welcome to cat me and to chat further xxx

lissie i hope you are ok, have not heard from you for a while sweetheart x

Mercy · 09/09/2007 21:05

Lissie

My dd's birthday is always tinged with sadness for me - it is also the edd of my 2nd pregnancy which ended in (v early) miscarriage. Nobody else except me seems to remember.

I've also recently changed GP as a result of his off-hand attitude towards me then. I detest him.

fransmom · 09/09/2007 21:11

(((((((((((((((((mercy)))))))))))))))))

white roses for our innocent children now living as angels

tigerschick · 09/09/2007 21:14

Filling up at this thread.
My heart goes out to anyone who has lost a baby.
Wishing everyone strength at the darkest of times.

fransmom · 09/09/2007 22:00

hi tc x

Piggley · 10/09/2007 19:56

My SIL has just mc at seventeen weeks and is in pieces and I have had two mc's. It so helps to talk and remember the plans we had. As soon as I am preganant (four times) I dream about having that child beside me, about names, about how much love they will get from me and DH. Sadly for reasons unknown those dreams don't come true.