We're thinking of making a change to this section

[MichaelMumsnet]

We're doing some work to make sure that people who are looking for support can find the most relevant sections of Mumsnet by making areas easier to find when people are searching.

We're proposing to add something similar to that used in other sensitive areas of the site.

We're thinking of only letting people post in this group if they have been a member of Mumsnet for a certain number of days. We don't think this would stop people getting support - they can post in any other areas - but this section would have an extra access requirement.

We'd add a message at the top of the group saying something along the lines of, 'Only those who have been a registered user of Mumsnet for at least xx days can post in this topic.'

What do you think?

Grief isn't something you can delay. It needs immediate support. I don't think adding a delay is appropriate for this section.

Mnhq there was a post earlier.
The poster was distressed but said she couldn't post.
I did say that there was work being done on site stuff.
I hope that person is ok.
Why have it at all if someone can't get to talk when they need to?

I think this is a terrible idea.

One of my very first posts - possibly even my first - on Mumsnet was on this forum on a night when I was at a very, very low ebb after the death of my partner. I think I may even have joined to make that post.

I really needed the support I got that night.

I agree with everyone else - preventing someone in the first terrible hours of grief from accessing help and support seems just about as far from the spirit of the site as it's possible to go. It's an awful idea.

I personally think changes are needed on the bereavement boards.
A couple of years ago I was taken in by a troll on this board. She had a long running thread about the death of her dd.
I lost my dd 4yrs ago. I know in the first 48hrs there is NO way i could have started a thread on MN. All i remember of that day is the police coming to the house, being taken to the mortuary and the next thing I was aware of was being in my bed don't have a clue how I got there.

Maybe I'm a hard faced bitch, but I've read many threads on here and straight away I've had doubts about them. Maybe because I've been there, my own experience is clouding my judgement.
I also know genuine posters do post for help and advice. Sadly TROLLS post aswell probably more often than you would imagine, all over Mumsnet not just in bereavement.

I don't know what the answer is.
But I do think it needs to be looked at with changes in mind.

What a terrible idea.

No just no

I don't think it's a good idea. How many days to wait until they could post?

Perhaps it would help if you explained your reasoning @MNHQ

hopefully the time lag here means MN have rejected it?

it's a terrible idea, for all the reasons given. I can't think why anyone came up with it.

Thanks all. And apologies for the lateness of the response.
We won't be introducing a delay for people to post in the bereavement area.
Thanks loads for your thoughts - and as always, if you do suspect that anyone is posting with bad intentions, then please do report to us and we'll be more than happy to check behind the scenes.

I think that sometimes when a OP gets their thread re-directed from another MN forum, e.g. AIBU there can be very robust responses that wouldn't occur with a direct posting on Bereavement, but this is unusual and doesn't merit changing this forum.