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Any hope

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Cotton1 · 10/07/2007 19:39

Hi! I would be really grateful for some advice. I'm suppose to be 7 weeks pregnant, but before last weeks had three weeks of bleeding and Hormony levels only raising by 250 every 48 hrs. I had a scan 2 weeks ago where they saw no signs of pregnancy, then last week they saw a sac, going back on Friday for another scan. Is there any hope?

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B3CCY · 26/07/2007 14:24

Blimey! What did you say to them? I bet they felt awful afterwards though.

It's probably best that you did tell people though. I remember with my second miscarriage, when I returned to work nobody knew what had happened and thought I'd just been off sick. I found it really difficult that eveyone around me was acting normal when I didn't feel very normal at all. For about 2 weeks I kept on sneeking of to the toilets and breaking down in tears.

I'm finding work a stress on it's own at the moment, nevermind worrying what is happening with this pregnancy.

ladylush · 26/07/2007 14:32

I didn't say anything, just kind of spluttered a bit of the tea I was drinking at the time! There were a lot of people around at the time and I didn't want to make him feel uncomfortable or draw attention to myself. He's quite a sweet guy by all accounts. I'm finding work stressful too. The pregnancy thing is more stressful though - stress about ttc, then once pg I stress about anything going wrong etc. Mind you, no wonder work is stressful - our concentration must be quite impaired what with all this pg preoccupation

LittleSquirt · 26/07/2007 15:03

you're right there ladylush - I have now been back at work for 2 weeks after my ERPC (took a week off after that) and it seems the more time goes on, the less I am able to concentrate on work or care about any of it!Seem to spend my time reading the threads I am watching on MN rather than my ever increasing pile of work emails

ladylush · 26/07/2007 15:06

Hi littlesquirt - I think it's normal isn't it. It's not easy getting through the first weeks after m/c.

LittleSquirt · 26/07/2007 17:20

Yes, it probably is normal. I just hope I am able to snap out of it before I get sacked! Although I must admit that I have been thinking about becoming a nurse too so maybe I need a change of career in which case getting sacked might be the sign I was waiting for all along!

B3CCY · 26/07/2007 22:40

Am absolutely beside myseld. Have just spent the last 2 hours sobbing. Rang hospital tonight, hcg level is only 4020 which means that it has only risen by 600. Think we all know what this means. They are going to scan me again in 10 days. 10 days! Can't believe that this is happening to me again.

ladylush · 26/07/2007 23:07

Oh no, am so sorry. Can you get a scan earlier? Where do you live? Some EPUs have walk-in centres where you can self-refer. You must be in bits

B3CCY · 27/07/2007 06:30

Am going to ring my GP this morning and see what they have to say. Nurse at hospital was useless, she would not even say one way or another whether the results meant this pregnancy was continuing or not. Don't they understand I want answers? At the same time I'm not stupid, if it was continuing they shouls have doubled shouldn't they?

LittleSquirt · 27/07/2007 09:11

B3CCY - I am so so sorry to hear you are so worried. Maybe there is still a glimmer of hope?
Do let us know what your GP says.

Thinking of you and sending you loads of hugs xxxx

ladylush · 27/07/2007 09:21

Ask if there is an EPU where you can be seen today. It's terrible being in limbo. Of course you want answers. Stupid nurse

smilesattheweekend · 27/07/2007 09:49

B3CCY - hang in there, demand your GP helps you out and gets a scan for you.

Keep in touch.

X

Smiles

Monique247 · 27/07/2007 16:54

Hi everyone,

I'm feeling a bit upset today, I think that i've miscarried, lots of bleeding and cramps but not much pain - i'm less than five weeks preg and this is my third miscarriage.

ladylush · 27/07/2007 17:15

Monique - I've had 3 m/c so I know how you must be feeling. Are you going to have a scan so you know one way or the other? When was your last m/c? Hope it's not bad news hun. Some women get bleeding but pg fine.

B3CCY · 27/07/2007 17:36

Girls - Rang my GP's today and I am going for a chat with my doctor on Monday morning. EPAC have managed to bring my scan forward to Tuesday morning.

To make things worse this week I have been in an impossible situation at work, I won't go into too much detail but basically it has made me so ill that I am about to quit, I simply can't take it any more! I shouldn't be having to deal with all of this right now, head's all over the place, can't think straight, am worried that I'm on the verge of some kind of breakdown!

ladylush · 27/07/2007 17:44

Shit - that is way too long to wait. Do some research (even on here) and see if there is anywhere in your area where you can just turn up for a scan.

Don't quit your job - take some time off sick or whatever but please do not make a decision in these circumstances that you might later regret.

Monique247 · 27/07/2007 21:46

still have cramps - didn't go to a&e - decided there was no point in waiting around for four hours to be told that they couldnt do anything until my scan

I'm at home now and evertime I go to the loo it's a horrible reminder

I feel so emotional and cant stop crying

I feel so alone even though my friends are ringing - just cant answer the phone

macmama73 · 27/07/2007 22:00

@B3CCY
I am really sorry to hear about what you are going through.

It brings back the memories of 6 years ago when I was in a similar situation and I know how horrible it is having to wait. I had 2 mc and it was the worst time of my life.

My advice to you is to get your GP to sign you off work for as long as possible, that is what I did. I had a very immature girl working in the same department and she was pretty nasty about all the time off I was having (she never said it outright, but I could tell that she was pissed off). I couldn't bear to work with her anymore and quit. A radical decision perhaps but the best one I could have made.

Take time off if you can, you need to think of yourself.

I really hope and pray that everything works out ok for you.

Monique247 · 27/07/2007 22:46

thanks sweetie, i'm about to go to bed now - hopeing things may feel a bit better in the morning. big hug

B3CCY · 28/07/2007 09:45

I know that whatever the outcome, I can no longer contine to work for the company that I am at. My health and sanity depend on me leaving.

Still no more bleeding today but why aren't my hcg levels doubling? Does anyone know whether you can sometimes still have a continuing pregnancy if levels are not rising fast? They did tell me that if the pregnancy had already failed they would have dropped.

A

Monique247 · 28/07/2007 10:11

Good morning, my bleeding has continued - I called the epu, they told me that there was no point coming in unless severe pain - as i have an appointment on 6th Aug, they told me that I would be given certain tests that my help the next time - it's giving me a bit of hope - how long will the bleeding last? i'm five wks pg and the bleeding started yesterday morning...

Monique247 · 28/07/2007 10:14

Sorry just realised I completely ignored your message - i'm self consumed at teh moment - sorry to hear your not happy at work - I always say that we spend the majority of our lives at work and if your not happy, get the hell out - you do not need stess when your not pg let alone when you are - do you want to talk about it?

x

smilesattheweekend · 30/07/2007 09:20

Oh B3CCY - So sorry to hear you are having such a rubbish time. I agree with the others and get yourself signed off, take one thing at a time and decide when you have to. You know we are all here for you.

X

smilesattheweekend · 30/07/2007 09:22

Monique - sorry to hear your news. I know it is hard, I had my 3rd mc 2 weeks ago, I have been referred to the EPU and they have done some tests, they want me to contact them as soon as I get a positive test and they will give help and support, and maybe aspirin and/or heparin. You may bleed for a week or maybe more, I was 7 weeks and bled for a week. Again, you know where we are if you need to chat.

X

ladylush · 30/07/2007 12:28

Sorry to hear that the epu were not helpful monique. Expecting you to wait til 6th August is callous imo. How are you today?
Smiles, I think we are in a similar position having had 3 m/c. Was interested to read that your hospital have mentioned aspirin and heparin. I am taking aspirin already but I was wondering how easy it will be to get heparin px if the thrombophilia results are inconclusive. My hospital have advised me to wait 2 cycles before trying (advice which I'm sort of ignoring)and said they would do various tests but the clotting tests are done prior to conception. Have you had blood tests which show an abnormality?

smilesattheweekend · 30/07/2007 12:55

Hi Ladylush - I think they plan to do more tests as I did mention that I was going to wait before trying again. However, like you we are not exactly being "careful", my immediate thoughts were "I can't go through this again" but now I want to try without waiting - have gone from one extreme to the other!!.

The EPU told me not to take aspirin yet as it could do harm - can I pry and ask what you were told? I am quite tempted to start taking it - can you tell me what amounts you are taking and is is baby aspirin? Both of us have had blood taken for Chromosome testing although they said that as I had just mc'd it was the wrong time to do other tests and they don't take long anyway. I have an appointment in September to see a consultant at the recurrent miscarriage clinic so will see what she says.