How do I tell my daughter?

[paulaplumpbottom]

I had a miscarriage on Monday and my Granny died on Monday night. We told my daughter at Christmas that I was pregnant and she has been soo excited. She was aware that my Granny was sick. I am having trouble coping at the moment and she keeps asking me loads of questions which is understandable. What do I say to her? She'll be devestated by both.

I know I will tell her. He is coming around.

Very Sad to hear of your losses Paula.

So hard to have them both happen both at once,
I'm sorry I can't think of much to say to dd, but thinking of you and your family, and wishing you strength.

Thanks UKI

We have decided to do it tommorow. I'm dreading it.

Hi other half of the the clique membership. Just wanted to pop in and say I'm thinking of you. Your talk won't be any fun. But, I agree with Aloha, that it is best to be clear and honest.

Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Well we told her. We told her that the little babie got sick in my tummy and died and that Granny had passed away to and that they are both in Heaven. She got upset and cried and cuddled for a bit then asked for a coke and seems ok. I'm sure she'll have questions later. Thanks for all the support and advice.

Glad it went okay... well, as well as to be expected.

But, shock horror... what's this about giving your 3 year old coke???? Just kidding

I gave in given the circumstances. She is such a smartypants that I think she knew she could get away with it.

So, how are you coping?

I'm still bleeding and cramping pretty bad so I am not able to do much. Because of that I think thoughts of Granny and the baby keep going around in my head. Its also been hard because I wasn't there to say goodbye to Granny and she is being buried today and I feel like I should be there.

I th ink it keeps hitting me over and over that i'm not pregnant anymore and thats hard. I really wanted this baby.

I feel like if I could just get on with things it would be better.

((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

I'm really sorry.

oh paula that is so sad

im so sorry

i like the idea of you telling your daughter the baby is with Gran tho, hopefully she can understand even a little bit

np x

Thank you

Paula - I'm so sorry to hear your news. Wishing you all the best, hope you start feeling better soon. Will be thinking of you.
xx

Thank you. This has been so helpful. I haven't really wanted to speak to anyone except my husband, avoiding phonecalls and such. I really appreciate the support.

Glad your chat with DD went OK & hope that the thought of your Granny and baby being together will be of as much comfort to you as to your daughter.

Look after yourself and hope you begin to feel a little better soon.

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Thanks Manchester it has been.

Hi Paula, how are you now? Just thought you might like to know that the entire clique is thinking of you.

Thanks Uwila, the bleeding isn't quite as bad and i'm not cramping anymore.

I'm feeling a little better to although I haven't left the house yet. Still a bit dizzy. Try to stay in good humor. Thanks for thinking about me. It means alot.

Hang in there.

Is DD still getting cans of coke out of you?

(BTW I say this as a complete hypocrite because I drink tons of Diet Coke.)

((((((virtual hugs for you)))))))

No more coke but she did manage to get ahold the last of my candy corn.

Oooo, cand corn. Now that brings back Halloween memories.

I'll have to send you some the next time I get a care package.

People send you care packages???

hijack

candy corns?! Oh YUM!

i got the candy pumpkins for Halloween and all the sad Scots in my house didn't like them, so i didn't have to share and they were MINE, MINE, MINE.

i'd kill for a mountain dew, though.

you don't get them! Thats awful. We'll have to see to that.

What would be in your ideal care package?