Hey Edie and Lynne

[Jossie]

I know we mentioned having a "chat" thread as well, do you still fancy one or not ? I'd like to be on the original thread as well.

Lynne, poor you going on your own.

Josie-going to your GP is a good idea. I work in mental health and would def recommend it. Sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate right now and it sounds like the introduction of an AD may well be inappropriate unless you are displaying symptoms of depression. Sounds like, as you have said, an unfortunate mix of issues (PMT, stress, bereavement, your parents). I would probably suggest some brief counselling, you have been through a lot and it may be worth investing some time to work through some stuff? You may feel a bit better after the due date but even if you do, I would still say that it may be a good idea.

You didn't bore us at all

Jossie sorry to hear you not your usual self I know how you must feel,i myself went through this at the beginning of the year,its horrible you feel as if your stuck in a rutt!! I hope you feel better after speaking with your gp!

Edie,it was horrible having to be on my own,but we have just noticed its the same with the scan on the 18th! Thats when dh is nightshift again!!Oh well just have to get on with it!!
Hope your well edie!

Jossie you didnt bore us!! Thats what we're here for!

Thankyou both of you.
Had a good talk with my mum today, they were down for DS1s school play. She has told me that the date of the due date of the baby she miscarried has stayed with her even 30 years on-I am really close to her and it was a help talking to her.
I wasn't sure how the doctor would be able to help me without medication, but from what you've said Edie, it sounds like counselling would be positive, I know the doctor said she would also need to see me one month later as well. I know that I still want to TTC, although I'm miffed that af hasn't started (normally very regular, but I reckon my frame of mind has messed it up, it is going to start soon though, I've got period pains) At least once it starts then we can look to TTC.
Lynne isn't that typical that the shifts have worked out like that for your scan-is he on a regular shift pattern? Could you change the date of the scan?
Thanks again for being here

Hi girls!
Jossie,hope your feeling better after chatting with your mum,its always good to have a good chat with someone who understands.
I was thinking about changing the date of the scan, however im scared as i dont want it to be any later than it is, does that make sense?? The sooner the better!!Then again, i was thinking i would prefer dh to be there as i normally end up fainting when blood tests are taken not sure what i'll do, as theres only one week out the month dh can make these things(back shift) no doubt i'll work something out!

I hope your feeling a bit better!
Hope your well edie! xxx

Josie

Like I said AD's have their place and are vital for people with clinical depression but with all that has gone on for you recently it is not surprising that you are finding things hard. This is more of a reactive depression, or maybe not depression at all but sounds like you need some support. (Don't mean to sound like im not validating it by saying it's prob not a depressive thing) but it's important that the GP doesn't just look at you and think 'oh an AD will do'. I want to make sure you get the right things and I know that GP's don't always have a fantastic knowledge of mental/emotional health (although many are fab).

And yes of course it goes without saying that we are here to talk too aswell.

Lynne-so sorry about the next scan. Can a friend come along for some emotinal support or have you really got nobody that knows? Pity one of us couldn't come if we were closer.

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X posts!!

Edie-Hopefully my doctor will be good, I've had such good treatment from them all along, they really are the ideal doctors practice, the receptionists are lovely as well-in fact one of them (because I was a bit upset on the phone when making my appt) asked the doctor to call me as she felt I needed someone to talk to.

Hi girls!
Hope you are both well.
Jossie, how are you feeling today, hoefully a bit better, i know theres no easy fix for how your feeling, when it was me i had good days and bad, its horrible!!Thats goos you have a nice gp,mines is like that too,had to go and see her yesterday,as there was traces of blood in my urine,asked her about that along with the clot and she explained it all to me,saying i wouldnt wory too much as babies bigger than it should be and they dont want you to go back to the hoptal, so these can only mean good, so that helped alot.

Edie, ihavent told anyone about being pg, so couldnt ask anyonei'll just have to get it over with on my own, im sure i'll be ok! I hope you are ok!xxx

Hiy
Doctor was really lovely today, spent ages with me. Talked about the various options-medication, alternatice remedies and counselling. She felt I was best to start with counselling as there would be problems with TTC with herbal or conventional remedies.
Spoke to a (private) counsellor today, my appt is ironically on Monday!
Told the doctor I find it difficult to stop and take time for myself-she told me that she was "giving me permission" to take time off from work as /i will feel guilty otherwise. So am off today and tomorrow-then I won't be back until after Christmas as my school finishes on Wednesday next week.
When is your next scan Lynne?
J

Hi girls, how are you both??
Jossie thats good you got things sorted out with appt,hope your feeling a bit better.
My next scan will be 18th Jan,i'll be just over 12 weeks,so i cant wait for that to come!Least then i may start to accept my pg,still too scared to do that!Still havent told anyone,dont intend to until then,although i was out with my mum today and it was the first thing she looked at!!
I keep thinking im 8weeks today,didnt get this far last time!!So fingers crossed!!

What about you edie, how are you keeping, well, i hope!
Well girls just going for a nice bath,even that seems such an effort these days(but not complaining) hopefully catch up with you girls later on! xxx

Girls,still havent had the time to change my name, how do i do it??? Do i have to re-join as another member??

Hiya Lynne, you go into my registration and can change name there.
Ironically feeling more positive tonight (typical with appt tomorrow) I think the couple of days off of work have helped to get my head a bit straighter, plus we've been to /norfolk and relaxed with my parents and I went out for a meal with friends this evening. Hoping I'm ok tomorrow(16 minutes time) as then I'm on my original due date
Seeing counsellor at 10am, and a friend is having DS2 for a couple of hours to help out which is really nice of her.
Better go to bed, its rather late-sure sign DH is on night shift, I tend to stay up to all hours then

Jossie,hope the app went well. Glad you are feeling better, i always stay up later when dh is nightshift too! Dh is has stopped for 4 weeks holiday so its good having him around.

Edie, how are you??Not heard from you for a while!

I hope you are both well and having a nice week.xxx

All the naes were taken!! ad to add numb 1 at th end

I know-that's why I ended up as Jossie, not Josie!
Appt was very useful, I knew a lot of the factors, but made me think about t he impact on myself- have got to learn to say no to people amongst other things.
It must have had an impact as after I came out I went to a local shopping centre to get some bits and found myself thinking, why don't I stop for coffee, whereas normally I'd be rushing around as quickly as possible.
Also have to try to make more me time (easy to say, less easy to do).Have coped with today better than I thought I would, I think the lead up to the due date was worse (maybe because I was early with both my boys? or else because I thought the day would somehow seem very different to any other day.
Have a good evening

Thats brilliant jossie! I know what its like, trying to take time out for yourself, im a bit like that too, always too busy thinking of others,and forgot about me! Thats good though you even thought about taking time out for a cofee,its only recently ive been doing that with myself due to being pg also with prev mc, thought it was time just to take it easy and relax, never mind about the house work etc,etc. Although with me being a bit of a perfectionist it was quite difficult to forget about the housework etc etc, now ive learnt to swith off and do it all when im fit and ready!! Thats good, im really happy for you, i hope things get easier as time goes by.
Jossie, where is edie??????? Has she gone away for a break (did i miss out on a thread) sure thats over a week since she was on I know she had some problems with pc,maybe thats why shes not about.I had a few problems myself with ours,usually im quite good due to working with pcs in the past but had to call for a technician i used to work with and he fixed it today
Well jossie, hope things are looking up for you and dh,hope you have all your xmas pressies wrapped and ready so you can have an easy weekend!
Edie, not sure where you are,but hope you are well! xxx

Giggle at this one!
A mother was out walking with her 4 year old daughter.

The daughter picked up something off the ground and started to put it in her mouth.

The mother took the item away from her daughter and asked her not to do that.

"Why?" the daughter asked.

"Because it's been laying outside, you don't know where it's been, it's dirty and probably has germs" the mother replied.

At this point, the daughter looked at her with total admiration and asked, "Wow! How do you know all this stuff?"

"All mums know this stuff. It's on the Mummy Test. You have to know it, or they don't let you be a Mummy."

They walked along in silence for 2 or 3 minutes, but the daughter was evidently pondering this new information.

"OH...I get it!" she beamed, "So if you don't pass the test you have to be the daddy."

"Exactly" the mother replied back with a big smile on her face

Like that one ( do I call you Lynne or Suzie?)
I don't know what has happenned to Edie, I know she has written that she is taking time out from the TTC messages.
Good to hear from you

Hi girls Im fine.

Lynne I love the name

The PC has had to go off to the guy who built it as it has been attacked by some nasty viruses. At the moment I am on my mum's PC and don't know if Ill get back on before Christmas. If I don't, have a good one both of you.

Josie Im glad you had your appointment and Im glad about the coffee!!

Yes Im having a break from the TTC board at the moment-just cannot be doing with keep thinking about it all the time.

Love to you both xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Relieved to know you're ok Edie.
Best wishes and happy christmas if we don't message with each other before

Hi girls!
Hope you are both well!
Ive been feeling horrible the last week (but not complaining) just a quick hello and to wish you both a very merry christmas! Hope you both have a lovely dayxx and catch up with you both soonxxx

Hi girls Im back!!!!

Was just using that message to see if I had remembered my password...

Did you both have a good Christmas? Can't wait to hear all about it.

Lynne how is the pg going? I know you posted that you didn't feel too good before Christmas...

I had a great Christmas, did a good Xmas lunch (I steamed the turkey!) and we had a roaring fire for the whole day. Got some very good pressies too!!

Looking forward to hearing from you both.

Hi girls, HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Hope you both had a nice night!
Its good to hear you back edie.
Jossie, hows things with yourself??
We had a great time,christmas was nice..i didnt manage to eat the turkey or the chocolate fudge cake so was a bit gutted at that! but it was still nice,dh surprised me with a lovely platium diamond necklace and last night was the same,quiet but ds friend stayed so that was company for him, and today just trying to catch up with the housework as ive been v sick the last couple of days, its so strange the only days i feel brilliant are the days i have a fry up for breakfast cant quite work that one out,although tend not to have many fry ups so just have to deal with the sickness.
Well girls, cant wait to catch up with you both xxx

forgot to say...dh can make the scan on the 18th,we got his shifts mixed up, its his day off that day, so im well pleased at that, was a bit worried going on my own, incase i fainted whilst getting some blood taken