i want my little girl back :( :(

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My wonderful baby girl eve was born on Friday I just want to be with her I don't know how I am going to get through this :( :( :(

You will get through this although it feel that at the moment there is no way through.

There are so many bereaved parents on here and I am sure they will be along soon to offer you wiser words than I can.

Are you gaining support from family? Can you talk to them?

Have you also contacted SANDS?

They have a lot to offer bereaved parents.

So so sorry, lovely. Yes, contact SANDS - they will do their best to help you.

(((hugs)))

Oh honey. I am so sorry. It's so unfair.

It's not fair, it's cruel and hard.

My candle burned for hours for your lovely Eve. I've been thinking of you. I don't know what else to say, except that I'm so sorry and I hope you find a hand to hold.

My thoughts are with you. As CheerfulYank said - it is just so unfair. I lost my DD 5 years ago and not a day goes by I don't want her back.

Keep posting on here for support. I have found it invaluable and helped me on many a dark day.

Of course you want her back. I'm so sorry that you only had her for such a small amount of time, and it's so recent and so raw that it must feel like your world is caving in. I'm sending you so much love.

There's no straight path her leading you through this most difficult time, so grieve as much as you want, cry as much as you want and talk about her as much as you want and everyone here will listen.

Oh my love, I'm so very, very sorry.

My candle was alight for you too.

It's just so unfair and there are no words to make it easier, but if it's ok with you I'll just sit here and offer you a shoulder whenever you need it and a hug whenever you want one.

Oh sweetheart, I have been thinking about you and I wish I could do something 'real' to help.

It's so early and so raw, be kind and gentle to yourself and embrace any real-life support you can xx

Who I'm so sorry ....are you back home now....

I found the wonderful bereavement midwives a tower of strength afterwards....

Thinking of you

Hello lovely.

It is early days. Don't feel that you should feel anything other than raw, sad, angry...

Be kind to yourself. We all care for you, love. Truly. Eve was so loved and wanted. It is unfair. Xx

It just feels as my world has died I can't eat can't sleep I just want to be with her I feel broken completely:( :( :( I just don't think I can go on

It is very early days, lovely. Of course you will feel broken and remember that you are also having to adjust to massive hormonal changes that your body was not yet ready to have to deal with.

The pain is something you have to hack your way through but there are people around you to help. We want to help and we won't drift away or assume that you have 'recovered' because you haven't mentioned it for a while. We will remember Eve and we will remember your loss.

I came home 4 hours after I had eve I didn't see the bereavement midwife I asked last week :( :(:(

Practical advice:

It doesn't matter what you eat as long as you take a vitamin and mineral supplement. If all you can manage is a few bites here and there, don't force it. Make sure people understand that decision making re what you want to eat may be beyond you. Ask them to prepare little bites to eat, little and often.

Keep your fluids up. Eve would not want you to fade away. The memory of Eve resides in you and everybody else who loved her.

Even if you feel you cannot sleep, find somewhere to be still. That might be outside, on your bed, near to her memory card or the little things you brought her. Even two minutes rest is better than nothing. If you go for more than two nights without sleep, go to your doctor. In fact speak to the doctor anyway because he/she needs to hear of your pain. They need to minister to you. Let them look after you.

Let us all look after you.

Please calls SANDS.

Oh, love. It really isn't fair.

I don't know how you'll get through, but I am confident that you will get through. I've never been where you are but I sadly know many people who have. It takes time and strength and courage but I know you have all of those my love. You've shown it already. All my love to you and yours and you know where I, and many other atrociously lovely people are when you need us. X xx

You can go on, and you will, despite the horrendous pain you are feeling now. Don't think about the future, just think about surviving the present. One hour and one day at a time.

You might benefit from calling the Samaritans as well, although SANDS would probably be better.

And if you have the option of a bereavement MW appt, or to see a bereavement counsellor, then take it.

Oh love, I'm not even going to pretend I know how you're feeling, just want to offer you lots of love.

Who is with you in RL?

I have made an appointment to see a Dr this morning I just miss her and want her back :( :( :(

I'm on my own my dp boss won't let him have time off and if he doesn't work he doesn't get paid :( :( :(

Is there anyone who can be with you who

It may be worth you seeing the GP who should be able to refer you for support

xx