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My beautiful son

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minmooch · 26/02/2014 17:13

After nearly two and a half years of a fight with cancer my beautiful 18 year old son passed away this morning at 11:20 am.

I am humbled by his strength and humour that he has shown throughout his short life.

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minmooch · 08/04/2014 22:51

Thank you so much MiaAlexadrasMummy. I have offered Will's wheelchair to a children's charity and they have matched it to another child. His Mum is coming to pick it up on Thursday. I have wept buckets this evening but as you say Will's legacy must be positive and I have to honour it as he is not here to do it. I will meet this boy's Mum and pass on Will's thrill of some independence to this child. As hard as it is I know that this is what Will would want.

I must be strong xxxxxx

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tinypumpkin · 08/04/2014 23:29

Thinking of you Min. I think that what you have done with Will's chair is lovely. Such a beautiful thing to do in his honour.

There is no must about grief, it is so very hard and unpredictable at times. Keep breathing in and out, one minute, one hour and one day at a time.

Millie2013 · 09/04/2014 08:40

That's lovely Min. A gift of independence, but so bittersweet for you xx

StampyIsMyBoyfriend · 09/04/2014 12:54

That is a lovely gesture Thanks

magimedi · 10/04/2014 19:51

Just such a lovely thing to do, Min.

(((XXX)))

ClockWatchingLady · 10/04/2014 19:53

Hello Min. Giving Will's wheelchair to another boy sounds a really wonderful thing to do, and fits perfectly with what you've told us of Will.

Thinking of you.

EugenesAxe · 10/04/2014 20:05

So much sadness today - I am very sorry minmooch. You don't need to be strong - weep for your lovely Will. This is a positive action to my mind; having him there in your thoughts is positive.

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 10/04/2014 20:55

Wow, Minmooch. You are awesome. But being strong is over-rated. Just be, and do what feels right. MrMia always says that tears are liquid love. X

AlpacaYourThings · 10/04/2014 21:38

Hope it went ok today, min

GuineaPigGaiters · 10/04/2014 22:53

Thinking of you often Minmooch. X

FishAlive · 13/04/2014 19:42

I still think of you often min x

tinypumpkin · 14/04/2014 21:47

Me too. Keeping you, Will and your family in my thoughts x

ClockWatchingLady · 15/04/2014 16:16

Thinking of you, and of your boys, Minmooch. X

Fivemoreminutesmummy · 15/04/2014 16:37

Still thinking of you min

magimedi · 15/04/2014 22:56

Not a day goes by that I do not think of you & yours, min.

upto11 · 16/04/2014 11:27

I have no useful words at all I'm afraid, but please know that I think of you and Will often min. XX

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minmooch · 18/04/2014 21:08

My darling boy - I went to your grave this morning and took you some flowers. How can it be? How can you be in the ground? It's not getting any easier to be without you.

I've sown some Sweet William's and they are germinating. I will plant them in our garden and in our allotment.

I walk in to your bedroom and everything is as you left it. Our dog has taken to sneaking upstairs and sleeping by your bed. What would I give to walk in there and give you a kiss good morning or good night? I would give my life to have saved yours.

I cannot believe you are gone I miss you, my heart aches for you, I love you, I need you.

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Badvoc · 18/04/2014 21:22

Dearest min.
Thinking of you and Will.
And hoping for peace for you xxxx

chocolatespiders · 18/04/2014 21:27

I can not begin to imagine your grief.. So sorry for your loss.
I hope the other child is enjoying the wheelchair.
How's your other son min?

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minmooch · 18/04/2014 21:39

He's doing ok Chocolatespiders. He lived with fear for so long, he never knew if when he came home from school whether things would have changed. We might be at home or in hospital. There might be a nurse in the house or an ambulance outside. Plans changed at a moments notice. He watched his brother get more and more ill. All those uncertainties have gone for him. I don't think the reality of losing his brother long term has really hit him but for now he's trying to concentrate on revising and doing well in his AS exams.

He said he feels pressure on being the surviving son, now an only child. 16 is a difficult age without all this. He's a fantastic boy and I'm incredibly proud of how he is.

How I wish things could be different.

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Badvoc · 18/04/2014 21:41

Oh, he poor thing! He sounds so very sweet min.
Such a young age to be faced with life's cruelties.

magimedi · 18/04/2014 22:15

I have no words to ease your pain, Min .

All I can give you is a huge hug for you & your family (may I ask what your 16 yo is called?) & send you love from a total stranger.

I just wish there was more I could do to take your pain away - but there isn't.

So all I can do is send you a huge hug through cyber space - (((XXX)))

ClockWatchingLady · 22/04/2014 20:26

Both your sons sound so amazing, min.
I wish you were not facing this unfathomable pain.

I've been thinking of you this weekend. X

ClockWatchingLady · 24/04/2014 09:47

Thinking of you, minmooch.

trulymadlydeeply · 24/04/2014 16:19

Tears in my eyes, Min. Your words tell the story of your lovely boys and how much love there is in your family.

I hope you are OK. I can't imagine it at all, but I am thinking of you with lots of love and a virtual hug. Xxx