Please join us here if you have lost a parent and need support (3)

[mummylin2495]

Well here we are again on a brand new thread,hopefully we can all move on a bit to a more accepting phase in our lives.

T your post made me smile about your mums 60th, we got my mum a strippergram, he was called Mr Puniverse. That was 20 odd years ago and she never ever stopped talking about it, it was so funny and he was so thin and bony !! Mum loved him and my grandad was alive then and he was like one of the old men from the muppets, all you could see was his shoulders moving where he was laughing so much. I have so many photo,s of that night. Thank you for bringing back a happy memory for me

Mum and dad were planning on sorting the loft once he retired....as well as sorting the gardens, and kitchen....:)
So I guess now it's down to me to sort it all out!
Goodness knows what we will find up there...

aw your welcome mummylin, isnt it great sometimes to get them funny great memories of them that has happened to me a lot lately, and i even have a good chat with her about it, i do get the odd look in shops though..How funny about mr puniverse! Do you still want to be called mummylin on here hun?

Badvoc - Yeah blimey you will have to report back! My mum and dad have a loft and i dont think even my dads been up there for years! So im also dreading what ill find!

I have been called just M or even ML I don't mind any of them. * badvoc I still have about 12 big plastic containers full of my mums stuff. Keep sayiing I will go through it , but I haven't ! Oh and I havea other 6 stored under a bed in our spare room , but they have already been sorted and I'm keeping it all !

:) its nice, a lot of the cards were very much religious which I'm not so this worked well. feeling low this weekend know I'm going to struggle Monday and wish I could just sleep through it

I thought that said mil then . was wondering why you were called mother in law. I clearly need an early night

Hello

I've seen this thread title on "Active" a few times and thought about posting. I haven't up to now as it feels a bit "fraudulent" although I know it isn't.

Anyhow, I was watching the Gavin and Stacey wedding episode last night, and it was the scene where Uncle Bryn reads her a letter from her day, especially for her wedding day.

I was 4 when my Dad died (I'm 44 now) and only have one extremely vague memory of him. I miss him every day. Horribly. I know that logically I'm not missing him as my knowledge is so scant. More that I'm really so so sad that I have no idea what it's like to have a father. It used to make me cross when people used to moan/whinge about their Dads. I wanted to scream that they should be bloody grateful. Unreasonable I know.

At times (last night) I sob my heart out that he's not here, that I don't know him, that he doesn't know me. I would give anything to have a conversation with him. I wonder if he's proud of me and wonder if he sees DS's resemblance to him!

It's not fair is it? For anyone I mean. Hugs to you all.

not at all, I can see why you would feel this way it is hard to see other people have something you so want. just because you do not remember I am sure you were the most important thing to him. he was proud of you and would be now I am sure. I too watched that episode and it is heart wrenching. feel free to chat to us we aren't a bad bunch.

shakey I am sorry that you have missed out on having your dad around. BUT your dad lives on in your child, he has your genes, hence he all has some of your dads ! If it will help you please join us here

All = also

my robins are ready and I'll get some envelopes tomorrow so anyone who wants one for tree, graves, memory gardens or simply to shove in a drawer pm me where to send. do you think they will be okay with a stamp on they aren't heavy at all . hmm

I would think so supermario as you say they aren't heavy. Hope everyone has one what they can to limit damage in the garden. I can't move all my pots anywhere because I have so many but they all are still filled with compost which hopefully will weight them down. There is nowhere for me to attach the rosé arch to so I'm praying it remains upright.stay safe everyone

shakey, please post here anytime xxx

Hi everyone. I haven't posted here for a long time but just wanted to check in and say hi. My mum died August 2012, and this week I just completed the sale on her house, finished the last parts of being an executor, and now feel completely empty. I've sorted, cleared out, sold, given away, packed away all her life I feel. It's been such a difficult time and I am being so bad tempered and irritible with DH. Gosh, it's hard work just doing the day to day things.

I hope people here have support in RL and it's good to come on this thread and know there are people like me.....time goes on, and the hurt is still there underlying while you get on with life.

Hello galaxymum isn't it horrible when you have clear everything, especially all the personal things, it's heartbreaking. That has taken a long time to get it all done, did you have any help ? For myself I have been a lot luckier than some people in that I and my siblings are all close and. It Has helped having them. I agree with you that the hurt is still there underneath. My mum is constantly in my mind no matter what I am doing. I always used to dread this time coming and if I had known how awful it actually is I would of been even more fearful.

This is a message for thefarside just to say I am thinking of you, if I remember correctly its the anniversary for you tomorrow. I can't believe it's two years this week for us, hope you are going on ok.

Good to see you galaxy!! Crazy to think I lost my mum 18 mths ago it has got a little easier but still hard at times. Thinking of you. I know what you mean about anger I've been through this. It's only dh that drives me a bit like it. My tolerance for him and his silly selfish antagonism when he gets them moments my tolerance can be 0! It's changed so much as he would see me to do near on everything but after losing my mum something snapped and I I've changed and I won't do it anymore! I see him not fair at times. We've been rocky but were over that now. But he still will get like it though.

Hi all.
Much damage for you guys? My garden took a massive battering!! Fence panels, trellis little bits broken off!
Hope everyone has managed to not have any damage! I've never seen gusts like this! The trees round the back of my house are swaying mentally!!!

Love to you all thinking of you all x

good morning all, garden took a bit of a lashing but mostly just wet it will straighten out. you all okay?

didn't think it was possible to feel as sad as I do today.

to my beautiful mum,
can't believe we are celebrating your 46th birthday without you, I miss you so much and would give up anything for ten minutes with you. thinking of you today and always. you are always with me from my shocking cooking skills to the way I curse at slow shoppers, you made me who I am today. look down on ds he is very sad and needs you today. we love you.

46!?
Oh...SM. :( what a difficult day for you and your poor boy. I am thinking of you x
Saw my aunt yesterday...took her some lunch down. She got upset and was crying about dad again. In all my 40 years I had never seen her cry til dad died.

Love to all x

he doesn't want to go to school but school have said he should go and come home if needs too. doesn't help that im crying at two minute intervals. today is going to be naff. sorry to hear of your aunt being upset. I has also never seen my grandad cry until we lost mum it was so hard to see

Oh super Mario sister so sorry. Blimey I thought 65 was young 46 is awful. With you holding your hand and ok sure she's with you and DS today. Although I also know its crap as you want them here!!

Hi badvoc so hard to see others and how it affects tjem and you. Big hugs to you guys, Hi to all xx

Ok=I'm sure - blooming phone xx

Thinking of you today supermario a very hard day for you. It just brings everything back to the forefront dosent it.
I have phoned my mums notice through this morning , I wrote it several times before I finally settled on something. I am having a pic of a little robin. I may put it on here just for an hour when it goes in the paper.
Hope you are all unscathed by the weather , nowhere near as bad as was exoected here.

that sounds lovely mummylin

supermario, I'm so very sorry, can understand your sadness and your emptiness, am just so very sorry for you

xx for everyone here

well i think i have succeeded in almost getting through the day, i have been so busy ive hardly had time to think. ran a milllion errands today and took flowers to the grave. went to my nans before with my sister nephew, brother and girlfriend for tea, mums husband came for a bit, great aunt and her husband. there were some tears and stories. we did our sparklers and tried to keep things as cheerful as possible. ds is finally in bed asleep so im going to light my candle and have a little time to just think. it seems so odd to not see her on her birthday dont think i will ever get used to it.