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[mummylin2495]

Well here we are again on a brand new thread,hopefully we can all move on a bit to a more accepting phase in our lives.

they are lovely lynn.

am sorry to hear that badvoc it is hard when we think things should of been done different.

my card for my own memory garden i picked up today as im not allowed to leave cards at the grave :

Your love is always with me :

I know that your still with me mum
especially today
because we shared a closeness
even death cant take away
And sometimes when im wishing
that you'd send a little sign
a butterfly,a rainbow
let me know your doing fine
And when a pure white feather
drifts down softly from the sky
I know that youre trying to say
that you dont want to see me cry
for there must be a reason
why the angels took you home
and you have found a way
to let me know im not alone
For theres a special golden thread
from here to heaven above
that keeps you ever close to me
its called the bond of love

That is a lovely verse supermario . We are very lucky to have such a good crem. They are not averse to people placing things on the graves.
The children's area is filled with toys, balloons etc. it all looks so sad. But I know that me paces they don't allow parents to put anything li that, it's such a shame as I'm sure it means a lt to bereaved parents .
badvoc sorry you got that result.but as you say , it may in future save someone else going through what your dad did and save someone else's family being where you found yourself.

I'm feeling really sad today. It's a month since mum died and the time has gone so fast

It is a horrible feeling when you realise how long It i s since you have seen someone. I can't believe it is now almost two whole years for me, but still feels so recent and there hasn't been a single day yet when she is not in my mind. Everyday tat passes takes her further away from me.
I am sorry you feel so sad, but for you it has only just happened, in awful circumstances too , so I can understand how sad you are . You really have to take each day as it comes, but if you feel like having a good old scream or cry then just let it happen, it's not good to bottle it all up x

13 weeks today for us.
Feels so much longer though....
Love to all x

I remember your first post here badvoc and the next shocking one about your mum, it does indeed feel like you have been here ages, but it's not is it, you have ad so much to cope with ina short while. Overwhelming at times I would think. But you are really doing well in spite of everything. You are stronger than you think.

I don't know what I would have done without you all, Especially you Lin.
Saw my aunt last night. She is frail but eating more.
I will make her another lemon merangue pie :)

I think it's great we can all empathise and support each other.
Ps did you know you can buy egg white from the internetso you don't waste the yolks ? I didn't till someone on another thread told me.
Glad that at least your aunt is eating.

that sounds a nice idea for your aunt badvoc.at least then she will be tempted by something she really likes. when we were at mums we always went to the sandwich shop for dinner and a cake. ive not been to that shop since. Had a difficult night last night something my nan said has been playing on my mind and had horrible dreams about it. wish i had more planned this weekend keep sitting here thinking what would we be doing if she was here for her birthday weekend. strange isnt it.

I am now worrying about my mum and sisters headstones, they are right under a massive tree! What on earth would we do if stones were smashed in Mondays storms. Just have to hope that the expected storm somehow changes course before it gets here,.
Hope you have all put things away in your garden , just in case

i havent to be honest lyn but perhaps i should there are things i could replace from the memory garden. i am sure that the people who own the cemetry will also keep an eye on the effect of the weather but can see why you are worriedn mums stone is also under a tree and right at the front so gets the full force of the wind

It's horrible supermario constantly going over how things were and then in despair at how things are now. But it's hard when we have all had something we loved so dearly snatched away from us. I sometimes feel like a little child who needs her mummy.it will be difficult for you buttry and think that your,um would be upset if she thought you were upset !
Does that make sense?

yep she would be, we were planning on doing sparklers for the kids because she loved those bought them every year even when we were fifteen. the weather might balls up that idea really but will still try. have to go to morrisons in the morning to get flowers and do shopping with nan. I dont think i will ever eat from there, too weird i would feel like i had to order mums usual too. hope the weather isnt horrendous there is too mch in the garden too move and nowhere indoors to put it!. imw aiting on some felt today to carry on with some stockings but post has already been so i dont think its coming

If you have a fancy dress shop around. They normally have indoor sparklers, so you could still have them despite the weather. I too have too much to bring in. Will just have to stand everything together, hope my mums rose arch doesn't fall down. That would upset me more than anything .

hopefully if you stand it together and string it up it should last it out. strange weather lately

lovely verses there girls, I had one I'll try to find and post

hi to everyone and am sorry for the new posters xxx

As I sit here in Heaven and watch you everyday.

I try and let you know with signs I never went away.
I hear you when you're laughing and I watch you as you sleep,
I even place my arms around you to calm you as you weep.
I see you wish the days away as you beg to have me home so I try to send you messages, so you know you're not alone.

Don't feel Guilty that you have a Life that was denied to me.
Oh, Heaven is truly Beautiful, just you wait and see.
Please live your Life and laugh again, Enjoy yourself, be free!
Then I'll know with every breath you take you're taking one for me."

That is lovely ssd and nice to see a verse that is from the departed instead of from this life, lovely words

x

Just whites!?
What a good idea!
Getting a bit windy here.

Been pouring with rain here and it's quite windy here too. I wanted to go out and move some more stuff but I'm not going out in ths horrible weather .

mummylinn I just have to just shut them thoughts up otherwise they will eat us up, im exactly the same my mum was in on a Friday and i wish to god it had been in the week i just have to take the faith they done all they could for my mum, but i can totally understand why you feel like you do. But it will eat you up though.

supermario they were powerful words in that poem, i have copied it and have looked at it a lot since you posted it. I love the last part.

Biscuits - Glad you had a good birthday, i know it was hard for you. Catch up very soon x

We cleared more of my mums stuff today come across a clock we got engraved for her for her 60th birthday..i have it back! Seems like yesterday i gave it to her and saw her face beam, i guess i have that memory! Was sad though, but there is so much her stuff around. But she would be happy with the cup cake piggy bank which i passed onto my eldest as she was saying in the week she needed a piggy bank and surprisingly i clear the shelf of my mums (which we haven't atall until now) and we happen to come across a piggy bank, i think someone must have heard me

I am so sorry I am behind as been working 4 days a week, but i hope your all going along the best you can and feeling for you all are struggling and hugs. Waterlego you haven't been away from my thoughts, thinking of you all. Hope you all dont get too affected by the bad weather.

Love to you all xx

My mum is having her roof replaced next month and so has to clear the loft.
We are doing it next weekend.
Am dreading it tbh.
Mum isnt feeling to well...a cold I think. So will have to phone later on.
Might ask her up for dinner tomorrow.

SSD nice poem that one, letter from heaven?

ive got a lovely one A BIG piece of my heart lives in heaven - I found this on face book, i have it saved to my photos.

I think there is a group on f book called i miss my mum in heaven- there has been some lovely comforting things on there.

xx

Hope you mum gets better soon badvoc x Yeah its very hard to go through the stuff, i have kept a lot though and brought more back today, my mum has made me into a hoarder..her legacy lives on! x