Walking together on a journey - sharing experiences, tears, anger and sometimes even laughter. United we stand, divided we fall.

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This special thread was started in 2008. Its a special place - one which nobody would ever willingly come to. I hope we pay tribute to our lost children by helping each other. xxxx

Morning ladies xx

So sorry you have so much to deal with Shabs, the blood test appointment may well be a admin mistake. If the doctor went to the house he will know your parents can't go to the surgery. I think these letters are standard and just the name is filled in. I don't know how old people on their own manage. I ran my mum's life for 13 years. Love to you all xxx

Thank you Lavandes. For the first time today I have sat here and sobbed.....feel useless and helpless. When I lost my lads I used to always think 'I wish I had chance to say goodbye to them both. I wish I had known what was going to happen those days' - well I have known about my parents illnesses for a long time and it is NOT any easier. I was just fooling myself thinking that it was. I know they are elderly and I know that nobody can live forever but I will be very alone when they are gone. My brother and I have a weird relationship - he is the dominant one who makes me feel inferior. I will still have my own family but will still feel alone without my Mam & Dad xxx

Shabs you are overwelmed with it all, I hardly ever saw my brother for years and he lives nearby but when Richard died he was so supportive and now he pops in quite a lot and we have become quite close. Your lovely sons will be there to help you. It is not easy and it is crap at this time of year. xxxxxx

Got to ring the GP back at half 11 told the receptionist politely but very firmly that my parents WILL NOT be making that journey to the surgery. The GP IF the blood test results have shown anything (and what can be worse than fookin' oral cancer????) he MAY allow me to go to Dads appointment on Friday.........NO I tell you what you

I wish you were all near us because our Doctors are brilliant, in your case if I had phoned, the doctor would phone US back. The doctor phoned my husband last evening at 6.30 to tell him the results of his blood test and that he needed to up his medication (underactive thyroid) and that he could pick up the prescription today. They have a doctor on call every day who has no appointments so if you need a doctor today you ring first thing then he will phone you and decide if he needs to see you and you get an appointment that day. This should be the same everywhere. Old and sick people should not have this awful treatment it is wrong. xx

That's what you need to be shabs, polite but assertive. Of course, you shouldn't need to be, the GP should surely have realised your Dad couldn't come in for the results!

I CAN DO THIS...I CAN DO THIS!!

Despite my beta blockers that I take every day keep having panic attacks, was grinding my teeth in my sleep last night as well. Woke up with a migraine and throwing up. Then I get angry with myself because I am normally a 'get on with it and pin on your smile' type of person. Didn't realise before now just how much I rely heavily on my parents for their support and a listening ear. Made it worse, for whatever daft reason, that my Mam didnt ring on my birthday last week to 'sing' to me. That sounds very childish and selfish when I write it down!. Have just stared at the boys pictures and asked them to help me do things right and sort things out - anybody got a spare straight jacket and a padded cell???

Just wanted to pop in and say that you are all lovely, remarkable ladies. To endure such loss yet be able to carry on and deal with your pain and loss is truly humbling and inspirational.
I think of you and your lost children often, and i hope that you all manage to find some peace in your hearts over the festive period, which must surely be a very painful time for you. Much love to you all xx

Thanks, millymolls xx

Thanks Milly - lovely bunch of ladies all helping each other walk this 'crappy path,' that we have all, sadly, found ourselves on. xxx

Morning girls xx

My Dads GP has 'given me' my Dads appointment on Friday??????? I am being allowed to go into the surgery and listen to Dads results??????? How wonderful!!!! He still hasn't spoken to me, has all been via his receptionist and I had to make about 6 phone calls before I was allowed the great honour to see him

OOOH, an audience with the doctor, shabs! What are you going to wear?

LOL - boxing gloves I think

Morning girls xx

Morning girls xx

Is it morning already? Was up til 2am watching over my little niece while her mother got some much-needed sleep. Sweet little girl. All of us sleep-deprived, but she is out of hospital with the meds she needs to control her condition. Now we all have to adjust.

Sleep depravation is NOT good!!!

Got my Dads blood test results - they obviously show that he has cancer but the only other thing is that he is a little bit short of iron. GP has given him medicine.....just rang my Dad and the relief in his voice, when I told him what the results were, was unbelievable......poor owd chap xxx

Oh Mia's that sounds hard. Your sister is lucky to have you.

Shabs, a bit low on iron? That's all? Why in the name of God did anyone have to go in to the surgery, that's only a phone-call surely?

I know.....GP asked if I thought my Dad was any worse????

Well, you are a doctor yourself, aren't you, shabs?

xx

Morning girls xx

Dan & Matt used to love that song I can picture them now singing along to it xx

Maybe Matt put it in my mind, shabs!