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Trinityrhinos Unspeakably Shit Stuff part two

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TrinityRhino · 14/05/2013 20:39

Hi everyone
Thank you for so much help and such kind words x

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Thumbwitch · 24/05/2013 03:27

Oh Trin, that post about your DD2 and the telescope, the bandana, everything just made me sob. What a little darling she is.

And of course you're not a tosser, you're doing amazingly well as it is! Linens, schminens - and Thanks to Cliff's ex for lending you some.

Pity about the awards ceremony and funeral clash - have you let the school know about it? Of course they can't do anything about it but maybe they could give your DD1 her awards in assembly or something another day, assuming they still have assemblies these days?

Big (((hugs))) for you all. I think of you all every day. xx

TrinityRhino · 24/05/2013 07:16

morning all
woken up feeling panicky
bloody hate it
thankyou for all your kind words
mouse you are just wonderful
its Friday thats mean ive survived two weeks
and I just need to get them up and out for school today then tomorrow I don't need to get up........so early anyway

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Trumpton · 24/05/2013 07:18

Don't panic My Lovely. Deep breaths. One foot in front of the other bloody foot. We are so proud of you . Have a gentle day with the girls tomorrow .

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 24/05/2013 09:01

Morning.
Hope panic has passed and you have some company today.
You're near the beach aren't you? Watching the sea can be very soothing.

Almostfifty · 24/05/2013 09:06

I bet they're at school, all sorted and on time. Have you gone for a walk with Lolly?

magimedi · 24/05/2013 09:28

Hope panic has gone. If you can try a walk - it does help the panic to subside. Thinking of you.

TrinityRhino · 24/05/2013 09:42

all at school
all fine
dog had a miniscule jog with me and is now eating a bone

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magimedi · 24/05/2013 09:43

Well done on the jog!!

TrinityRhino · 24/05/2013 09:49

no no I didnt jog. she did
I meant it was miniscule but she ran so not too bad

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Mouseface · 24/05/2013 11:29

Morning Trin

Just wanted to send you a huge {({({({ HUGGLE })})})} from us all here before we headed out to brave the big bad world.

You are doing amazing, school AND a little jog for Lolly? Ace Grin

Lots of love xxx

Lemonylemon · 24/05/2013 13:14

Trin:

A minute at a time; an hour at a time; a day at a time. Remember to breathe in and then breathe out again. I hope that the panic is backing down a bit.... It is scary though. x

StarlightMcKenzie · 24/05/2013 15:20

Trinity, I missed this but want to say how very sorry I am.

I have no advice. I simply can't comprehend what it must be like for you. But you and your children are in my thoughts and I will pray that you all find a way through.

InkleWinkle · 24/05/2013 15:49

You are so strong.

Your DD2 sounds lovely & amazing (as do all your children)

Thinking of you all xx

MelodyBaker · 24/05/2013 20:33

You are strong trin. You've been here before and you got through it- you'll get through it again. The pain Will fade but it will never go away, you and the girls are coping as well as you can.
Thinking of you x

Mouseface · 24/05/2013 23:01

Hello lovely....

Just off to bed with Nemo as he's not 100% tonight still, but I wanted to say that tomorrow is another day.

As the lovely Lemony said, A minute at a time; an hour at a time; a day at a time.

It's as basic as that when all is said and done and as Melody says, you have been here before (which is uber shite btw and I have a very stern words for the man up there when my time comes, you and the girls are on my list of 'what the actual fuck's' now) and you got through it.....

Because you have to. Most days life is beside you, life is on a parallel road to you, you can look across and see parts of you, parts of what you've done. Where you've been.

The parallel road is mirrored, but different somehow. You can chose between the two which you want to walk on. The parallel one is the one filled with your memories, every memory from every part of your life...... you can cross the roads Trin, safely, and decide where you want to be that day, that hour........ does that make any sense? I hope so....

You can do this, you can do tomorrow. Let's worry about the rest as and when it comes.

Love to you, those girls and Cliff's family and of course the Pup!!

Night lovely xxxx

TrinityRhino · 24/05/2013 23:11

im hearing you mouse
and everyone Smile

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 25/05/2013 00:52

Mouse you are truly fab.
I'm going to start a new what-the-actual-fuck list.

Was lovely to see you on the blanket thread Trinity, I think they were all really chuffed that you posted.

Quite why you should have to go through this again is beyond my comprehension.

It almost makes me wish I believed in a God so I could bollock him at my final reckoning.

And it would be a him because a her would have it better organised.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 25/05/2013 00:55

Sorry, really don't mean to upset or offend anyone, but I am cross Angry

DevonCiderPunk · 25/05/2013 01:10

Trinity I am a serial name-changer and I know your story, but hadn't seen this latest. I am so sorry to read of it.

When I'm grief-stricken, I like to imagine that a future "me" is holding my hand and saying "it WILL be all right again, you WILL get through this."

xxxx

Almostfifty · 25/05/2013 10:50

Morning Trin, how are things today?

Mouseface · 25/05/2013 12:49

Hey :)

Devon - I love that, that image you have of yourself holding your hand knowing that everything will be okay, everything will get better...... Sorry that you have clearly suffered great loss also. Sad

So, the weather here is glorious here today, what's it like up there Trin? I do hope it's not grey and dreary. Are you going out today? xx

Thumbwitch · 25/05/2013 13:38

Just dropping in Trin, to see how you're doing and offer more (((hugs))) and love from down under. xxx

TrinityRhino · 25/05/2013 16:07

the weather is lovely and hot.
weve been out in the garden mowing and strimming.
also sorting lots of stuff to car boot tomorrow

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 25/05/2013 16:08

Hope you're having a nice relaxing Saturday Trinity.

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